Coddled Kids Become Depressed, Anti-Social College Students
Young people need independent play in order to become capable adults.

The Wall Street Journal reports that today's college students are so lonely, sad, and socially anxious that they grab their dining hall food to go—preferring to eat in their rooms.
Time spent in dining halls is down 40 percent, according to Degree Analytics, a college data company. Attendance at sporting events, clubs, and even dorm meetings is down too. The Journal quotes one residential adviser who said several students asked to attend her meeting by Zoom, even though they were down the hall.
The story documents classroom changes too—and not just at the fancy colleges. The changes include less class participation and more students handing in half-finished assignments. These same students are then shocked when they get Fs. They tell their professors: Look, I tried.
Where's my participation trophy?
Props to reporter Douglas Belkin and assistant Harry Carr for gleaning so many granular examples of a generation that seems to have arrived on campus undercooked. The authors found that at Wesleyan University, student government meetings used to begin with a walk around campus. Today, they still take a walk, but they hold onto a shared rope, preschool style.
It's no surprise that mental health on campus is reportedly decreasing. One in seven students has considered suicide this past year, according to a Healthy Minds study cited by the Journal. In fact, so many students are demanding therapy that hundreds of colleges have contracted with a telehealth company that promises to find students a therapist within five minutes of their call.
Experts are debating the cause of all this misery, and there are plenty of potential culprits: COVID-19 closures, political extremism, and even the advent of the "like" button. But could one unnoticed factor be the fact that this generation spent so little time unsupervised as kids?
A recent University of Michigan study found that the majority of parents of kids ages 9 to 11 will not let them walk to a friend's house, play at the park with a friend, or trick-or-treat unchaperoned. Only half will let their kids go to another aisle at the store by themselves.
It's easy to see how a generation that was never allowed to play, walk around the neighborhood, or even drift over to the dairy section without anxious adults watching and assisting them…might just be unprepared for the real world—or even eating in the dining hall.
And what about the fact that most college kids today grew up with cellphones? I'm not talking about TikTok. I'm talking about the fact that nowadays when a kid's bike chain falls off, they can instantly call Dad to come fix it. It's the same thing with their grades; teachers tell me kids are texting their parents from the school bathroom. The parents then turn around and call the school.
When kids play unsupervised with other kids of different ages they learn important skills: creativity, communication, compromise, compassion, and leadership. When they successfully complete tasks on their own, they understand that they are helpful, capable, and resourceful.
When young people lose out on those experiences as kids, they become socially awkward and afraid as adults.
Until we give kids back some independence to run around, play, explore, and expand, they will arrive on campus unprepared—clinging to the rope like a toddler, because that's how they have been treated all their lives.
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Western civilization is coming to an end.
It's not a secret that leftists produce very anti-social, hard-to-be-around offspring.
Yeah, because their kids are the only problem.
I am sure the teacher's union is working on plans to establish the necessary rules and regulations (and new job positions) for properly structured independent play.
Wow, just wow. When I went to school, I had to focus entirely on school and it was a competition with all my engineering classmates to survive. Nonstop work to avoid poverty. Why I had student loans of Iover $7,000 to pay off.
Engineering schools are still much the same.
Engineering, at least the kind with numbers and hard criteria, is racist!
When I drive across a bridge the designers views on racial issues does not concern me. I want to imagine his math teachers graded without a curve.
It would be funny if it wasn’t so sad.
Not that I really disagree with the premise, but at the same time I think one of the issues is that people don't learn anything anymore.
Maybe we never did, but it seems to be getting worse.
You can look up any 'fact' on the internet without retaining any of it, which severely limits your critical thinking since you don't really 'know' anything and the few things you think you know are probably wrong. I'm not convinced that one can have critical thinking without at least some knowledge.
Without a baseline amount of knowledge, is a person an 'adult' or just an old child? Without knowledge can agency exist? I don't pretend to know the answer to any of that, but I think about it a lot.
I also frequently wonder that as the depth of human knowledge goes deeper if it's really possible for most people to understand that subject.
College makes a big deal about a surface level understanding of multiple unrelated disciplines, and even within a person's actual major (outside of certain rigorous programs with hard testing requirements) a Bachelors is the equivalent of a high school degree these days. You'd need either a masters or, god help you, a Ph.D. to be considered even passingly familiar with their subject matter. Years of independent study is often the baseline requirement to be considered an actual expert and not just a person with credentials.
And, as this becomes more pervasive the temptation for that 'science class' to diverge from the pursuit of knowledge and into the realm of ruling by proxy it starts to look more and more like totalitarianism by the anointed few. In essence, it's a return to theocracy with a different spin on their dogma.
Also it could help explain why some people seem to have an extended childhood far beyond what generations prior experienced. People live longer, there is more knowledge to learn which requires more time in schooling, and everything is more expensive so people live with their parents longer. All this leads into people maturing slower, if at all.
/rant
You can look up any ‘fact’ on the internet without retaining any of it, ..
How does that differ from looking something up in an encyclopedia?
Location, location, location.
The encyclopedia didn't change - - - - - - - - - - - - -
That too. I am on the look out for almost ANY set of encyclopedias I can get my hands on. Also older dictionaries.
Interesting comment, and not a rant at all! I agree, there’s no question that the Internet allows us to forgo memorizing facts. Add to this the constant interruption of our flood of communications that forces us to adopt a rapid-response style of thinking. However, I don’t think that the Internet is changing us, necessarily, we’re simply leveraging it to get more of what we want.
I have noticed even in myself that I have to intentionally shift gears from rapid-response to deep-learning modes. I have to remind myself that not everything demands instant feedback. My favorite way to do that is to always be in the middle of several very long, very complex books at a time. Whenever I feel like the Internet mode is driving me crazy, a few hours spent reading something like The Lord of the Rings snaps me right back into form.
'The story documents classroom changes too—and not just at the fancy colleges. The changes include less class participation and more students handing in half-finished assignments. These same students are then shocked when they get Fs. They tell their professors: Look, I tried.
'Where's my participation trophy?'
I spend some of my retired time serving as an honorary professor at a local public 4 year college. MANY of my students operate on the least possible effort/latest possible delivery strategy. But some of my faculty colleagues feel compelled to accept or even create excuses, and then award grades that are extremely inflated. Only a few old-timers impose strict standards.
And the college itself has made "student accommodation" the core academic value. They constantly broadcast emails and other messages to students about avoiding stress and "taking care of themselves", and complementary messages to faculty for us to not make any demands on students. When I met the new dean last month, she found my suggestion to tell students that we both care about their feelings AND we want them to achieve learning goals "really interesting".
That’s why you can’t have chicks in charge.
Repeal the 19th.
What do you mean political over-lords sticking their 'guns' in all those children's faces didn't make them safe, happy and productive in their utopian hellh*le? I get told everyday that if only more 'guns' (gov-guns) were raising kids everything would be ecstatic.
It's no surprise that mental health on campus is reportedly decreasing.
Well, when you intentionally program them to be neurotic and self-loathing...
It's the white males that have it the worst. Even moreso if they're Christian. They've spent their entire lives being browbeaten with the message that they need to apologize for existing, and that even if they do it won't be good enough.
I fully expect a lot of them to ultimately go postal. What we're currently and actively and intentionally doing to young white men is far more cruel than anything that was ever done to slaves or indians or women.
Nazism was atrocious. Progressive Nazism makes it look like child's play.
Yes, lack of free range/free play most definitely will stunt emotional growth, I agree with that 100%.
But there is a more proximate cause for the utter collapse of social skills, at least for men: online porn.
Porn is the destroyer of relationships. Porn is what keeps young men in their rooms, silent and alone. Porn is what sets relationships up for failure, with its ridiculously impossible expectations and lies about what makes people truly happy.
To help a young man remove porn from his life is to literally save him from a lifetime of misery.
20 years ago, when I first saw online porn, I instantly saw what it would become and how it would ruin men’s ability to relate to women. I only wish I had been twice as forceful about it then. Now, for many, it’s too late. Porn is a mind virus, and highly addictive. Like cigarette smoking, there’s no way to do it just a little bit. You just need to cut it off, “cold turkey”, as we used to say.
There’s definitely something to be said about the stupid behind the [WE] mob of self-righteous tyrants. You are a joke.
Thbbbpp!!!!
A more serious rebuttal (if one is necessary) would point out that ever single point in that rant has been thoroughly debunked by actual studies of porn on emotional development, relationships, etc. There are, in fact, no statistically significant adverse effects from consuming porn (online or otherwise) and several studies showing that it can be beneficial - certainly more beneficial than the repression that comes with porn suppression.
Our kid has a college class with about 25% attendance. The teacher plans discussions and activities, but they can't happen when so few kids show up. Last week, she sent everyone home near the start of class and went to talk to the department head. The school doesn't require attendance and supposedly the profs can't use that as part of the grade. The kids see no need to show up.
We used to call that a "diploma mill".