Review: The Progressive Backlash Against Influencer Moms
Momfluenced bemoans unrealistic expectations set on American mothers but then establishes new ones.

In Momfluenced: Inside the Maddening, Picture-Perfect World of Mommy Influencer Culture, journalist Sara Petersen dives into the world of Instagram's professional moms. These women make a living—or at least some side cash—showcasing their personal brand of life with their "littles," hawking both consumer goods and an idealized version of modern motherhood.
Petersen deftly dissects the aesthetics of good motherhood, skewers popular momfluencer tropes, and pokes fun at her own tendency to buy both the goods and the fantasy they're selling. The book refuses to trivialize the work that goes into creating and monetizing a successful online brand. It shows how momfluencers have adapted to shifting digital landscapes, explores the diversity of creators and audiences that run and read momfluencer accounts, and examines the peculiar intersections between momfluencer culture and conspiracy theories such as QAnon.
But the book is marred by condescension, shallow theorizing, and too much trendy hand-wringing. Constant references to progressive bugaboos feel at times perfunctory—as if Petersen had a quota to meet of complaints about "whiteness," "patriarchy," and "capitalism"—and at times nonsensical. For instance, she suggests that idealized imagery of "the perfect white mom" makes it "harder for queer moms to create families" and for "fat moms [to access] fertility treatments."
Her analysis is also cluttered with pervasive complaints about momfluencers appearing unconcerned with things Petersen and her friends care about—masking up, climate change, opposing Donald Trump—despite little evidence the author and her peers are doing anything about these issues other than caring. And worrying. And feeling smug that they're doing so while some Instagram moms care more about clean countertops.
In a book that often bemoans the unrealistic expectations put on American mothers, Petersen herself sets up one more largely irrelevant litmus test for what makes a good mom.
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Democrats support racism.
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but maybe that's because no reparations have actually happened, and they might not happen. At this point, San Francisco's reparations are still just talk, like reparations for black people have always been just talk:
https://www.pbs.org/newshour/nation/what-are-the-next-steps-for-black-reparations-in-san-francisco
What happens next? There is no deadline for supervisors to agree on a path forward. The board next plans to discuss reparations proposals in September...
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Isn't when it's still just talk the time to do something about it? You know, before huge amounts of money get confiscated and redistributed based on skin color (i.e. racism)? I'd say the fact that it has become talked about so seriously by many means it's about time to worry about it.
Nip it in the bud Barney.
Nip. It. In. The. Bud.
Influencers are the worst people in our society. They are basically all greedy narcissists and fake. That greed makes them overly focused on wealth accumulation and consumerism. In a sense, they are hyper capitalists taking advantage of the dumbest shallow excesses of the system. Ironically for this book and ENB, influencers are basically all progressives politically. Is it possible that progressives are just lazy, greedy, entitled people who thrive on popularity?
As a side note, I don't hate the type of people who put out content like "mom hacks" and offer cool tips and tricks for making their homes run more smoothly. I'm specifically talking about the vapid and fake people who get money just pretending to be an attractive likeable person while hawking overpriced products to ignorant sheep
Influencers are the worst people in our society.
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You take away my bikini angler influencer media and you and I are gonna have more than just priority issues. Fair warning.
If Lobster Girl is selling it, I'm buying it!
Hmmm...fair point I guess. I don't think that destroys my overall point, but you're correct that individuals under that label can be of good will and do great things
'Influencer' is just a nicer sounding word than 'paid shill'. These are people who take cash money from big brands then advertise those products without making it clear that advertising is what they are doing.
The irony of someone that calls themselves an 'influencer' complaining about 'big corporations' will always be hilarious, since that is exactly who they work for.
Mmmm... paid shills in as much as anyone who accepts a check is a paid shill. Some, rather overtly, work largely for themselves or their cause/trade. Agreed on the hypocrisy but it's a wide field and there are plenty who are more honest about choosing sponsors, dumping sponsors, and saying "Our sponsor for this post is..." Certainly not less honest than Lebron James in general or Lebron James investing in Tonal, doing an ad with them, and then never touching their equipment again; or Steph Curry or Tom Brady advertising for Subway.
Paid shill has a very particular meaning that covers the vast majority of anyone making a living in social media or as an ‘influencer’. They are paid to sell products, full stop.
The benefit to advertisers and companies is it has the thin veneer of appearing to be a spontaneous endorsement rather than it being an actual commercial played on TV.
You’d have to be stupid to think Labron James showing up on TV to promote a product wasn’t paid for it. On social media, you never know if they’re actually paid by that corporate entity unless they decide to tell you that.
Note that I don’t care about any of that, I don’t take my purchasing advice from kids on TikTok. It’s just amusing to watch them talk shit about corporations that literally pay their rent.
"Ironically for this book and ENB, influencers are basically all progressives politically."
I don't believe that is so. I just did a ten-second search and found several conservative influencers, including motherhood influencers.
Good Moms don't use social media.
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“Her analysis is also cluttered with pervasive complaints about momfluencers appearing unconcerned with things Petersen and her friends care about—masking up, climate change, opposing Donald Trump—despite little evidence the author and her peers are doing anything about these issues other than caring. And worrying. And feeling smug that they're doing so while some Instagram moms care more about clean countertops.” 1.here’s my shocked face how proggies unashamedly advertise themselves 2. What a great summary of libs in general
We need to publicize theose who counter thishysteria, like D.A.M.M.
Drunks Against Mad Mothers.
Actually googled that. Going to subscribe to their newsletter.
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My wife eats this mom influencer shit up….the arguments we have about why our house doesn’t look like theirs. My god.
Petersen and her friends care about—masking up, climate change, opposing Donald Trump—despite little evidence the author and her peers are doing anything about these issues
And even less evidence failure to fall in line on any of those three things represents a threat. But not to worry Sara, righteous indignation, smugness and an affair with a swarthy pool boy are far better at fighting icky liberty than mask mandates, driving a coal-burning car and getting rid of that awful Donald Trump could ever be.
How is all this fighting liberty...especially if we get to watch Sara and the pool boy? Is he named Raul?
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Women have begun to realize that feminism cheated them.
That they gave up being queens in their own castles in favor of going into the workforce and having some man --or worse --some woman bossing them around.
So go start a Queer Mom TikTok, showcasing tips and tricks from Queer Moms. Problem solved.
That's the beauty of capitalism, there is no one dictator in charge of culture. You can go do start your own TikTok, Youtube channel, podcast, or just go write a book, and no one will stop you. Of course your success still highly correlates with your hard work, but if you really do care about Queer Moms not having a tips and tricks TikTok, just go make one!
^ This.
It's fucking TikTok, there is zero barrier to entry. If a 'Queer Mom' can't get viewers, it's because the market doesn't give a flying fuck about that segment of people. And, to be really clear on the subject, not a lot of people who identify as 'queer' are going to be having kids anyway.
Which is probably not saying much, really, given that there are just about no queer people in the first place demographically speaking. If your market can't be measured very well because it's so tiny, perhaps don't expect catering to that segment to be immensely profitable.
This is why Disney only pretends to care about 'marginalized groups', there simply aren't enough of them to matter. In reality, they're catering to the concern troll white people who are also pretending to care.
That last part feels like a good way to describe wokeism. People who are unaffected pretending to care for social points
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there are no marginalized people. Grow up. there are mentally ill folks like trans whose demands should not be viewed as a serious issue for liberty.
This is actually a thing?
Momfluenced?
The very term screams Karen on Steroids, the Women's Christian Temperance Union, Ladies' Auxillary of the Ku Klux Klan, and the May 19th Communist Movement all rolled into one!
Not to mention it's a buzzkill for every mildly mischievous boy and boy-at-heart! Definitely not in the MILF porn shuffle!
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The book refuses to trivialize the work that goes into creating and monetizing a successful online brand.
You have to have a kid, for one thing.
pervasive complaints about momfluencers appearing unconcerned with things Petersen and her friends care about—masking up, climate change, opposing Donald Trump—despite little evidence the author and her peers are doing anything about these issues other than caring.
Wait -- is Reason advocating for people to actually DO things about this shit? Like it's better to force all of us to wear masks (that are useless) or to do something about climate change (which always turns out to be some virtue signal or deprivation others suffer so a trendy enviroprotestor can feel good)?
I mean, of course they are advocating opposing Trump, everyone here still suffers TDS, but advocating people actively pursue anti-liberal policies seems weird at a libertarian outlet.
No, Reason is not advocating for masking or fighting climate change. Go back and re-read it a time or two.
Methinks you’ve read this very wrong.
Which kind of “liberal” are you speaking of? Real (Classical) Liberalism, whose proponents advocate for Liberty, or fake (“Social Liberalism” - a regurgitation of Marx used as a propaganda coup AGAINST actual Liberalism) Democrats, who are actively promoting division and totalitarianism?
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It’s ok to be white. Only racists disagree with that.
Queer "moms"? Someone who is a man and denies reality of evolution? Someone like that should not be allowed to adopt kids. The opportunity for mental and physical abuse is obvious. You have a biological gender....if you deny that you are mentally ill. Anyone who disagrees is either also ill or has an agenda to hurt and punish society and want to burn it down.