"You Are Not the Selection Committee. You Are the Welcoming Committee."

A nice line for prospective parents-in-law, from Abigail Shrier (crediting a friend of hers) in her Free Press advice column.

One more item from the same column—the person seeking advice, about what to do about her 22-year-old daughter's prospective impending marriage, included this in her question:

[G]iven that these two are facing certain separation for a couple years, I feel like her fiancé proposed in order to tie her down. To take her off the market.

Shrier's response:

The only reason any good man ever proposes to a woman is because he wants to "tie her down" and "take her off the market." There is nothing sinister in this—and in fact, much to celebrate.

Comments

[Stupid Government Tricks]

Some things are so blindingly obvious that it's hard to believe anyone needs be told.

[Malika la Maize]

What’s obvious about this?

Sure, a parent can’t (and shouldn’t) select the spouse of their adult child in a liberal society. But is it obvious that they shouldn’t counsel wariness to their child about marrying young or the only significant other the child has ever been with?

[Sam Bankman-Fried]

If the man has a large salary the parents should always encourage the daughter to get married and she should pressure the guy to get married…in today’s society there is zero penalty to a woman marrying young and having a baby and if the guy has a big salary she gets $$$$ in the divorce. If the woman has a large salary she shouldn’t be spreading her legs for normal guys to begin with and if a normal guy impregnates her she should get abortion.

[Stupid Government Tricks]

Your feigned stupidity is boring. Get a new schtick.

[Malika la Maize]

So you’ve got no response?

[santamonica811]

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