Announcing "Strangers on the Internet" Podcast

Everything you ever wanted to know about dating apps and the search for love

I am happy to announce the launch of a new project concocted by psychologist Michelle Lange and myself: our podcast "Strangers on the Internet", which gives listeners an academic take on dating apps, love, safety, relationships, and much more. Its official website is here (click the link and then hit the "Follow" button to add the podcast on your preferred platform) and the direct link to its Apple Podcasts home is here.

So far, our episodes cover topics such as how to figure out if you're ready to be on dating apps, how to choose an app and build an effective profile, and how to handle first chats. We hope that this multidisciplinary project will be both informative and enjoyable, and we also invite listeners to join our Facebook group and follow us on Twitter and Instagram.

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[John F. Carr]

Have a Sinatra soundalike sing "Strangers in the 'Net" as the theme song.

(Reference: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strangers_in_the_Night for those who are under 60 and did not have a middle school teacher who kept singing the song.)

[DaivdBehar]

I have been stunned by some of the ladies there. They were beyond my conception. Of course, some of them screamed at me and hung up the phone.

I notice that young women, fast approaching their Sell By dates, and needing to start a family, are interested in casual dating. Old bags who should not go near long term relationships (LTRs) only want that. Inscrutable.

LTRs are to have children. Familiarity does not breed contempt. It breeds horror, like horror movie grade horror. No exception in history. Only the raising of non bastard children justifies enduring the horror. Even if you have a 100% idyllic relationship without knife attacks, trashing of the house, calling of the cops, you dude is old and will die. You will endure bereavement, Honey.

[DaivdBehar]

I do appreciate hearing from people in the real world, instead of the usual Ivy indoctrinated, know nothing bookworm dumbass, awful, arrogant people that usually post here.

[apedad]

You were sooooooo close!

Prof. Manta graduated magna cum laude from Yale University with a B.A. in psychology.

[DaivdBehar]

Daamn.

[TwelveInchPianist]

Sounds kind of personal. As long as we're not her neighbors, that's none of our business.

[DaivdBehar]

The Ivy indoctrinated dumbasses sincerely believe they know better how we should live our lives. They are all a toxic nuisance.

[DaivdBehar]

The other feature would be data privacy. Someone bought a website that arranged for car wash subscriptions. The price was really high. Even the seller wondered why. It was not a car wash business. It was a personal data business.

[apedad]

An "academic take on . . . love . . . relationships. . . ."

So, what are we looking at here?

Aristotle mixed with some Miss Manners?

[DaivdBehar]

No. An explosion of choice. Stunning connections. The end of sexual harassment litigation at work. Crazy to try to hook up to a co-worker. No escape if things go wrong. With lots of problems, like 90% of people being dudes in Eastern Europe scamming lonely people, and 1% being serial killers.

I was thinking of starting a site that was not so 2005, or so stupid as all of them are. Verified identities. Medical, criminal, and credit scores. Real AI matching. Yelp reviews of previous dates. Nudity allowed. Real advice on enhancing the experience. No scammers. I think I could do it for a $million. No new technology is necessary.

[apedad]

"The end of sexual harassment litigation at work."

Patrice O'Neal already came up with Harassment Day (Tuesday before Thanksgiving), where a guy co-worker brings flowers and gets to ask women co-workers if they want to do it - all without being reported for sexual harassment - but only for one day.

[DaivdBehar]

Scream and run if one says, yes.

[Ed Grinberg]

JDate is a dating website for Jewish singles.
Back in 2017, a guy called in to the Michael Medved Show. The topic of the day was how we're a very divided country. The caller said he's Jewish and uses JDate. According to him, many (most?) female profiles there did not specify any religious / racial / ethnic preference (e.g., non-Jewish is OK, black or Asian is OK, Hispanic is OK), but expressly stated: no Trump supporters!!!

take a guess:
A single 33-year-old admits that she has "been known to send the first message to all of [her] [online dating] matches asking if they...":
- smoke
- have a criminal record
- went to college
- are Republican
It's the last one, of course. You wouldn't want to find yourself on a date with one of those people!
source: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/01/25/reader-center/dating-apps-trump.html

The behavior discussed above might be a little odd, but not as crazy as this:
https://nypost.com/2018/04/07/chinese-sperm-bank-only-wants-donors-who-are-loyal-to-communism/

[DaivdBehar]

True. I was getting along with many of the people who screamed and slammed the phone until they asked whom I voted for.

[SRG]

On Tinder you find profiles rejecting Trump supporters - and profiles only accepting Trump supporters.

I've not found much of that on JSwipe (the fast food equivalent of JDate), fwiw.

[santamonica811]

It's my sense that using party affiliation (and, esp, Trump support) as a filter is a lot more common now than, say, 10 or 20 years ago. Two decades ago, I knew plenty of Republicans who were pro-choice, pro-immigration, etc. And I knew (fewer, but...) plenty of Democrats who were pro-gun rights, against tax increases on the obscenely wealthy, etc.. But now, I do think that anyone stupid enough to actively like Donald Trump is a screaming red flag that this man/woman is, well, undateable. (Note: this does not include the slice of the voting population who says, "I can get past Trump's lifetime of sexual assaults, pathological lying, and destruction of norms, as long as conservative judges get appointed...that's a pragmatic [albeit cynical] approach.)

Oh yeah, there's also a large percentage of conservative women and men online, who make a point of announcing that they are opposed to Covid vaccines, and that they find, "Let's go, Brandon." to be clever. An approach I strongly support, as it helps make sure that conservatives end up dating other conservatives, and liberals end up dating liberals. More honesty in dating profiles!!! (Which seems to be a major theme of the above-referenced podcasts, not surprisingly.)

[Currentsitguy]

Sounds to me like a sort of twisted business opportunity designed to gain billable hours. Let the lawyer give bad dating advice in an attempt to create relationships doomed to fail so they can profit from the inevitable divorce and a psychologist then can bill hundreds if not thousands of hours afterward for all of the counseling both will need to put their lives back together.

[apedad]

They could even include a link for divorce lawyers!

[Currentsitguy]

I might even include the new suicide hotline number.

[DaivdBehar]

Rhoid, cool comment, bruh.

[DaivdBehar]

Rhoid. Please, be careful. I pray you do not get the monkey. I really worry about you.