Parents, Not Government, Should Control How Kids Use Social Media
Free societies generally leave these matters to individuals and families.

It's been 21 years since the feds "protected" us from endless telemarketer phone calls by creating a Do Not Call list. I now receive perhaps a dozen calls a day from numbers my phone identifies as "Potential Spam."
Spammers "outwitted the government and wrecked" this system, The Washington Post reported, leaving Americans more susceptible than ever to car warranty pitches. Fortunately, my phone's call-block system works fairly well.
Excuse my cynicism, but federal and state governments have an unimpressive record of protecting the public, especially on consumer-related issues. That hasn't stopped them from trying. The process always is the same: Politicians spotlight a legitimate concern. They pass laws. They hold press conferences. The problem gets worse. Consumers (and manufacturers) come up with their own ways to handle it.
The latest consumer panic involves social media—specifically the ability of children to access inappropriate websites and apps. Liberal and conservative state governments are in a frenzy to pass these "protect the children" internet laws. Progressive California passed Assembly Bill 2273, which imposes an "Age Appropriate Design Code" that adopts provisions similar to those implemented by the European Union.
The legislation claims to empower parents, but it mainly empowers our state government to determine what information is acceptable for children. Specifically, the law requires tech companies to complete a "Data Protection Impact Assessment…for any online service, product, or feature likely to be accessed by children." It also empowers the state attorney general to file lawsuits against companies that don't conform to these nebulous standards.
Supporters pointed to serious mental health concerns related to cyberbullying and the like, but it mainly forces tech companies to serve as censors, gives government officials broad powers to determine appropriate speech, and hobbles U.S.-based companies while doing nothing about offshore sites that surely will proliferate. By the way, the Do Not Call List helped assure that legitimate (but still annoying) telemarketing companies would be supplanted by overseas scammers.
The California law passed by overwhelming margins because of, well, "the children." Now conservative states are getting in on the action. Utah's GOP Gov. Spencer Cox last year signed two such laws that require "parental consent for a minor to join a social-media platform" and prohibit "minors from using social media from the hours of 10:30 pm to 6:30 am," per an NPR report. They also require parental access to their kids' accounts and let the state sue companies for age-inappropriate ads.
That's basically the dictionary definition of the Nanny State. These types of "cut and paste" laws have a tendency to spread. Idaho is the next Western state that's seriously mulling similar proposals that would impose a top-down approach toward a situation that's highly individualized in its impact. It should go without saying, but different people react to social media in different ways. Free societies generally leave these matters to individuals and families.
If history is a guide, there will be unforeseen consequences. Given that they're "unforeseen," it's impossible to precisely predict the end result. But it's a safe bet that children will not be any safer—and probably will be worse off—a few years from now. Government will have new powers that it will use in destructive new ways. By then, politicians will be on to some new moral panic. Rinse and repeat.
Fortunately, one governor has some foresight. During a Meet the Press interview last month, Cox was joined by Colorado's moderate Democratic Gov. Jared Polis, who made this point: "I have a 12-year-old and a nine-year-old. We don't allow them on social media yet….But I think really, fundamentally, the state can't be the parents for kids."
At last, some politician said out loud what most of us are thinking.
Polis didn't deny that an excess use of social media can have detrimental effects on children. Advocates of these policies point to myriad studies showing an increase in anxiety, low self-esteem, sleep problems, and addictions as teens have become more dependent on modern communication tools. One federal Laboratory of Medicine study notes such problems intensified during the COVID-19 lockdowns, which suggests adult policymakers are partly to blame.
Typically, these "we must do something" policies focus too much on the "crisis" and too little on the follow-up questions: Will the proposed solution make life better or worse? What are the likely workarounds? Is the situation really as bad as the alarmists claim? Do these laws give government authorities too much power? Is this problem unique, or just the latest manifestation of enduring human challenges (such as adolescence)?
As usual, the answer might be simpler than we think. As Polis added, "the responsibility belongs with parents, not the government." Parents need to step to the plate, just as cellphone users needed to come up with their own solutions to a problem few of us should ever have expected the government to have solved in the first place.
This column was first published in The Orange County Register.
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Children who want to access inappropriate content can always do so at their school library.
It's terrible censorship if the elementary school library doesn't have the full run of Hustler available.
Snow White. Jeff wins the argument.
I asked him the Penthouse and Hustler question the other day. Got a bunch of bullshit about how I was trying to trick him or troll him or something. He, for some reason, doesn't like answering that question.
Stupid questions get stupid answers.
And how is it stupid, Sarc? He says that it's fine to have books with pornographic content (i.e. Gender Queer and This Book Is Gay) in schools. If those books are OK, then why would Penthouse and Hustler be inappropriate in schools as well? They're no less pornographic than the others.
They’re no less pornographic than the others.
Um, sure.
Have you read the books? Even opened them at your local book store?
No. But the excerpts I've seen and everything I've read about them indicates they're no worse than the Sex Ed portion of Health class I took in middle school. At the time Christians and the political right were flipping out and saying it was the end of the world. Same people who are flipping out now. Well, the world didn't end.
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Also the books are recommended for teens, not primary school. So I can see having an issue with age appropriateness.
I can’t even see what’s behind the gray box but I continue to love the unaware, self-righteous insistence of “It’s not pornography, it’s art/literature!” like no one but them cracks a book or appreciates baroque nudes or that that somehow more uniquely qualifies them than being someone who goes to strip clubs or was underage, viewing underage European porn, before it was illegal to import/distribute such porn, does.
Like the whole idea of someone saying/thinking “Yeah, I visit Candy (they/them) at the club a couple times a year, they are nice piece despite being a single birthing person, but I wouldn’t want my daughter to grow up like that and I sure as *hell* wouldn’t want the school teaching her anything within 10 fucking country miles of that.” is, apparently, unfathomable to them.
Where's Chester the Molester when you need him?!
Story about restricting kids’ access to the internet – quick change the subject to Florida!
Story about some sort of protest somewhere – quick change the subject to J6!
Story about police shooting someone – quick change the subject to Ashli Babbit!
-Reason commentariat checklist
None of which were actually done in this thread, Sarc. Congratulations on being irrelevant and obtuse.
Actually the first one was done on the first comment.
The first comment never mentioned Florida, J6, or Ashli Babbit. You may want to pay better attention to the comments actually posted.
Yeah sure. Like saying "school library" isn't a Florida reference. Try to be honest for once.
Sarc, your mind works in mysterious ways.
That explains why you immediately referenced books banned in Florida when school library was referenced. Sure buddy. Like I said, try being honest for once. Actually, don't. If you did your clique of girls would disown you.
You know, the conversation didn’t include you as I was talking with Jesse about Jeff and how he reacted the other day, yet you felt you should just insert yourself in the middle of the conversation without having so much as a clue for what was actually going on and being discussed.
I saw that conversation and you were deliberately misrepresenting what jeff said. My bad. I need to just let you lie your ass off, because if there's one thing your clique detests, it's honesty.
Ignores inappropriate age level instructional content
Ignores the disparate treatment of J6 protestors
Ignores the reasons why Babbitt was a bad shoot
- sarc checklist
Your Babbitt obsession is the most ridiculous theme you keep bringing up. Reason usually examines police actions through a critical lens, but has chosen to ignore analysis of the officer’s actions.
The posts here are not “deifying” her as you suggest. They simply call for consistency, as well as the treatment of J6 protestors.
Just above, before you made this comment, I addressed age appropriateness. So there's a lie.
I have repeatedly said the sentences do not fit the crimes with the majority of the J6 rioters. So there's another lie.
And the "reasons Babbitt was a bad shoot" are all Monday quarterbacking, assuming knowledge that the Capital cop didn't have. Lie number three.
Is this a JesseAz sock? Same tired lies. Over and over.
Comparing one situation to another =/= changing the subject.
"If history is a guide, there will be unforeseen consequences."
The consequences are never unforeseen.
The Nazi term Gleichschaltung (German pronunciation: [ˈɡlaɪçʃaltʊŋ] ⓘ) or "coordination" was the process of Nazification by which Adolf Hitler and the Nazi Party successively established a system of totalitarian control and coordination over all aspects of German society and societies occupied by Nazi Germany "from the economy and trade associations to the media, culture and education".
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gleichschaltung
The only problem I see is all the parents who don't want to be bothered to parent. It's takes a lot of effort to parent a child and the Baby Boomers started this "parenting is hard, we want the government to do it" trend and now we reap the harvest of horrible children.
Thanks a lot mom and dad, you both wanted the fulfillment of a career and dumped my generation into day care so minimum wage earners could do your job. We learned from that experience and as you get old and irritating we dump you into adult care. We raised our kids like we learned from you and our kids learned from us.
And they become surprised when their children join gangs...
Then they blame Rock and Roll music or Role Playing Games. Whatever is popular to place blame on. Oddly enough don't most blame social media these days?
"Free societies generally leave these matters to individuals and families."
But we are talking the USA here.
Typical parent: “Whoa! I gotta get me summa dat perteckshun!”
Internet Pertecktor: “Great! That’ll be ten bucks a month!”
Typical parent: “No way! De gubmint perteck my family fer free!”
De Gubmint: "Bang! Oops, wrong address! Sorry!"
...but, but, but ... Only Gov-Guns can birth, teach and raise children! /s
F'En Love Gov Republicans ... They sound just like Democrats.
But the state *should* intervene if the parents won't let the tween get their goodies chopped off.
Parents, Not Government, Should Control How Kids Use Social Media
Free societies generally leave these matters to individuals and families.
Free societies also hold parents accountable for the crimes of their children, as well as for bad things that happen to their children; the US usually does neither.
It's all about identity-gang battles (a consequence of unlimited "democracy" controlling the monopoly of gun-forces).
Gov-Gun meddling/nannying in others life's.......
It's for the children!
It's for the minorities!
It's for the poor!
It's for the girls!
It's for the unborn!
Gov-'Guns' of force ... The most versatile product to ever hit the advertising market.
Or maybe it's only 'equal' human value is to ensure Individual Liberty and Justice for all.
Remember…
The whole aim of practical politics is to keep the populace alarmed (and hence clamorous to be led to safety) by menacing it with an endless series of hobgoblins, all of them imaginary.
H. L. Mencken
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Set rules about when they can download apps or content — and from where. ...
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I mean, I agree - but there's lots of places where an assist would be a welcome one to parents.
Like, say, the movie theater. If your parents are cool with you watching it, great. If they're not cool, what harm is there in someone asking, "I'm going to need your parents to OK me letting you watch this."
It's not as unreasonable as it's made out to be.
"Parents need to step to the plate"?
Is this a dance or something? One, two, three, plate?