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22-Year-Old Woman Facing Sexual Assault Charges for Relationship with 18-Year-Old Male Student

Victim's parents don't want charges, say the couple is in love.

TeacherScreenshot via WTICA 22-year-old student-teacher in West Hartford, Connecticut, has been arrested for having a sexual relationship with an 18-year-old male student at the school.

Tayler Boncal, who was 21 at the time, was charged with three counts of second-degree sexual assault, even though she was engaged in a consensual relationship with her purported victim. In fact, the 18-year-old's parents said their son and Boncal are in love, and asked the prosecutor to drop the charges, according to WTIC TV.

Despite the fact that the age difference between the two is just three years, the relationship consensual—the victim initiated it, according to the arrest warrant—and neither party is a minor, this is considered a crime because Boncal held a position of authority at the school.

WTIC reports:

Police said their investigation began on Jan. 12 when they learned that she had the relationship with a male student from Conard High School.

She was employed by the district as a student teacher and assistant track coach at Conard at the time and living in New Britain during their relationship.

The West Hartford School System alerted New Britain police of the allegations after she was fired in December.

The young man asked Boncal for her number, they met up at her house, and as the reporter dutifully notes—because of course reporters must include the salacious, er, salient details—they fooled around on that first date (on Christmas) and "that led to sexual intercourse multiple times."

A fellow student ratted on the boyfriend, and the school resource officer—the law enforcement agent who works in the school—reported the matter to the authorities.

Conrad High School Principal Julio Duarte sent a letter to parents stating the matter had been handled, the teacher was out, and "we will not tolerate any behavior that compromises the safety or well-being of our students. I hope you will not let the misconduct of this one individual cast a shadow over all of our staff members who demonstrate their commitment to our students every day."

Now, clearly, the teacher should have recognized the danger she was putting herself in. Surely it was not a good idea to date a student.

But Boncal could face several years in jail for dating someone of a similar age—a fellow adult. If the relationship was inappropriate, it was inappropriate because of the nature of her employment at the school. She shouldn't be facing criminal charges because of it.

Photo Credit: Screenshot via WTIC

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  • $park¥ leftist poser||

    Now, clearly, the teacher should have recognized the danger she was putting herself in. Surely it was not a good idea to date a student.

    This really could have been the entire article.

  • H. Farnham||

    Better step your game up Crusty. Skenazy's stomping all over your beat here.

  • Finchster||

    Sorry, but there's no "she's young and hot" exception to the (perfectly sensible) law against teachers having sex with their minor students. No one would be saying "But they're in love! And she started it!" if the sexes were reversed. Come on.

  • sarcasmic||

    The student wasn't a minor.

  • Anomalous||

    The student was 18. Not a minor.

  • Ken Shultz||

    Crimes involve violating someone's rights.

    Rights are choices.

    No one's rights were violated here.

    We protect children's rights in these situations because we assume they aren't old enough to make choices like this for themselves.

    There were no children involved.

    The exception here isn't that "she's hot".

    The exception here is that no one's rights were violated.

  • MoreFreedom||

    "No one's rights were violated here."

    The teacher violated her contract with the school. However, this is only a criminal offense because it's a government school, because if it was a private school it'd be a breach of contract dispute. The school would be justified to fire her, because it doesn't want parents to think teachers might get into relationships with students. Though perhaps the school wouldn't fire her in these circumstances. Seems either option is reasonable.

    While I like Skenazay's article, he would have done better telling us how government schools failed us here, compared to free markets. It's something a libertarian thinks about, in how governments create problems for people, while if we were free, wouldn't occur. It's in the magazine's motto. You can do better Skenazay!

  • Rebel Scum||

    (perfectly sensible) law against teachers having sex with their minor students

    He wasn't a minor. Ethics violation at best. Should not be considered criminal.

    You seem like those "there oughta be a law" types. You people are the worst.

  • Cynical Asshole||

    He wasn't a minor. Ethics violation at best. Should not be considered criminal.

    I think losing her job and probably never being able to be a teacher again (who would hire her as a teacher with this on her record?) is punishment enough.

  • Rhywun||

    never being able to be a teacher again

    I think even that's too far. Who's to say she won't marry the adult student she was dating and never consider dating another one? Anyway, I am against such draconian punishments, especially when nobody was harmed.

  • Cynical Asshole||

    I think even that's too far. Who's to say she won't marry the adult student she was dating and never consider dating another one?

    I agree, but unfortunately for her no one is going to care about the details, all future employers are going to see is that she was fired for having sex with an adult student. Even if it was a one time thing and she ends up marrying the dude, no one's going to bother looking at those kinds of details.

    Plus, what if a school does hire her and then somehow the parents find out that the new teacher was previously fired for having sex with a student. They won't care either that the dude was 18 at the time and she ended up marrying him, if they even bother to find out that part. All they'll care about is "OMG, SEX OFFENDER! UNCLEAN! UNCLEAN!"

  • Libertymike||

    There are people, like you, me and Dupree, who do care about such details. In fact, I would get ugly with those who would not care about such details.

  • Enjoy Every Sandwich||

    I can go along with the school firing the teacher for displaying poor judgement. But there is no reason anybody should be going to jail over it. Yes, even if the sexes were reversed.

  • Zeb||

    Yeah, firing is probably appropriate. Criminal penalties most certainly are not.

  • Fist of Etiquette||

    I know this is counter to the zeitgeist, but there are differences between the genders. Sexual intercourse has a different effect on the two. It has different possible consequences.

    One size fits all policy is convenient for authorities, but most situations are different. Through their laziness it's the school administration and law enforcement who are violating the responsibilities of authority, not the teacher. (Having said that, I can agree to termination for violating a policy she presumably agreed to as a condition of employment.)

  • SQRLSY One||

    "I know this is counter to the zeitgeist, but there are differences between the genders. Sexual intercourse has a different effect on the two. It has different possible consequences."

    Yeah man, well-known socio-biology for decades now... Politically correct folks will NOT address the issues head-on!

    Sperm are plentiful, therefor cheap, by simple economics. Eggs are scarce, thus precious! Sorry, dudes, your penis is not as precious as pussy!

    A dude can make thousands of babies in a life-time... A gal? 20 or so max... The gal MUST make each and every one count for us much as possible, unlike the dude!

    So having a dude have some sperm "stolen", by whatever means? Whoop-do-dooo!

    A gal has some pussy stolen, even perhaps by THE Pussy-Grabber-in-Chief? Now THAT is a big deal!

  • silver.||

    I share the same view. There's a very legitimate function to the anxiety of the biological clock.

  • Kivlor||

    Firing seems quite reasonable here. I'm down for saying "No, you can't be a teacher for 5-10 years because of this" too. But jail? A lifetime ban on an entire sector of employment, particularly one she spent a lot of money and many years pursuing? Yeah, not over this kind of ethics violation. She at worst abused a position of authority. She didn't commit aggravated assault or anything. The "kid" was 18, so he was by all means considered old enough to make the decision to have sex with her.

  • Unlabelable MJGreen||

    No one would be saying "But they're in love! And she started it!" if the sexes were reversed.

    The 'victim' and her family might. Not that they should have anything to say about a crime against the state, of course.

  • Fist of Etiquette||

    I'm going to go ahead and chime in as so many other have. Dude was an adult.

  • Hugh Akston||

    The student wasn't a minor.

  • Cynical Asshole||

    Sorry, but there's no "she's young and hot" exception to the (perfectly sensible) law against teachers having sex with their minor students,

    Come on, man. I know nobody reads the articles before popping off in the comments, but it's in the first paragraph:

    A 22-year-old student-teacher in West Hartford, Connecticut, has been arrested for having a sexual relationship with an 18-year-old male student at the school.

    Last I checked 18 wasn't considered a minor. Had she not been a teacher at the school no one would have given a 3-4 year age difference a second thought.

    Should she have been fired? Absolutely, it's a pretty serious ethical violation and calls into question her judgement and fitness to be a teacher. If she can't keep it in her pants around her 18 year old student for a few months until he graduates she shouldn't be a teacher.

    But does she deserve to be thrown in prison and branded as a sex offender for the rest of her life? No.

  • Ken Shultz||

    After they're done prosecuting her for having sex with an 18 year old, what are they gonna do next--arrest someone for winning the lottery?

  • Kivlor||

    Under anti-gambling laws...

  • Rebel Scum||

    She could sexually "assault" me any day.

  • Libertymike||

    Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but today is not that day.

  • Libertymike||

    This case presents another opportunity to compare and contrast the Larry Sharpe versus Arvin Vohra approach to spreading the good news of liberty.

    Sharpe: We shouldn't be defending teachers engaging in sexual relations with their students. It will offend too many people and they will just turn a deaf ear to libertarianism.

    Vohra: Damn, you go boy!

  • Citizen X - #6||

    In your example, both Sharpe and Vohra are right.

  • Libertymike||

    Actually, Citizen, given the way I worded things, you are right.

  • Mickey Rat||

    She was certainly unprofessional in her choices, perhaps this shoyud not be a crime, but this situation was probably not what the law envisioned it was making illegal. The age difference is something of a red herring, as it does not sppear to matter under the law. If the teacher was 50 years old and male, and the student 18 and female would making it a crime be as objectionable? If not, then what about equality under the law?

  • Zeb||

    The close in age thing should really only matter when one party is a minor. If both are legal adults, you're right, that shouldn't matter. At worst it's a fireable ethical violation.

  • Mickey Rat||

    I presume this law was imolementef as part of some moral panic over hostile enviroments and demanding sex in exchange for grades.

    Again, the point of law is to make it crime to have sex with a student that the person is in a position of authority over. So the question is: is Skenazy arguing that Borcal did not really have a position of authority over the student because she was only 21 at the time? Because she was only a student teacher? Because she is female and he is male?

  • Zeb||

    I don't know what the author is thinking. I think that the position of authority thing makes it an ethical problem, but not a crime. Even if it is exchanging grade for sex. Prove that someone was harmed in a significant way, or it's not a crime.

  • ||

    At worst it's a fireable ethical violation.

    Assuming the 18-yr.-old doesn't decide a couple years down the road that he was raped.

    /sarc

    Seriously though, I'm not losing any sleep over these two. It seems exceedingly obvious that they should've sorted out the details before beginning a relationship and that the details preventing the relationship weren't obtuse or exceedingly onerous.

    I mean, this is the sort of thing that if she were a bona fide officer of the law rather than just a teacher, we'd expect her to be held to a higher standard of professionalism.

  • Rhywun||

    this is considered a crime because Boncal held a position of authority at the school

    I wonder if this absurd law applies only to schools...? And if so, how do they get away with that.

  • Citizen X - #6||

    Universally (and logically) applied, wouldn't this bar cops and politicians from having any relationships at all?

  • cgr2727||

    You'd think their personalities would be enough to bar cops and politicians from having any relationships, yet there are still ignorant fools who fawn over them.

  • Hugh Akston||

    this is considered a crime because Boncal held a position of authority at the school.

    Easy solution: end public education so that whatever authority teachers might have over their students is not a matter for the states to decide.

  • Citizen X - #6||

    That is a hell of a definition of "easy."

  • Microaggressor||

    Conflict of interest happens in the private sector too. I have to report every potential conflict of interest every year.

    The moment she was terminated from her job, the conflict was resolved. There is literally no crime here. Fuck the police.

  • silver.||

    Somewhat off-topic. I made the mistake of sending an article that contained Reason's Koch CoI disclosure to a left-leaning friend. The magazine is now 100% corporate sell-out Trump propaganda.

    I know I always disclose potential conflicts of interest when trying to trick people.

    The MSM should have 6 of those in every article.

  • $park¥ leftist poser||

    She shouldn't be facing criminal charges because of it.

    No she shouldn't, but that ain't the world we live in today. If the dude is 18, one would expect that he'll be out of school soon. If they can't put their fucking around on hold for a few months, well, as the saying goes, play stupid games win stupid prizes.

  • silver.||

    This is a pragmatic response to an absolutely bonkers situation. Seriously though, I don't know when enforced morality is going to catch up to me in some inconceivable way.

  • ||

    If they can't put their fucking around on hold for a few months, well, as the saying goes, play stupid games win stupid prizes.

    Or even keep their mouths shut. Anonymous student X tells the athletic director that you're having sex with the track coach and you fold? Either anonymous student X was involved, you care more about anonymous student X than you do the track coach, or nobody saw anything and they can all go suck a lemon through a short straw.

  • silver.||

    Deny. Deny. Deny.

  • Ken Hagler||

    I don't think that would be enough. Already we're at the point where everyone thinks 18 is the important age, even though the age of consent in Connecticut is actually 16. The way things are going, I figure within five years the age of consent will be effectively raised to 25 or 30, regardless of what the law says.

  • Brandybuck||

    The only thing unusual about this relationship was that the teacher was only three years older than the student. Yeah, it's a bit weird that a teacher dated a student, but it's not morally different from a professor dating a grad student. During my high school student had to drop out to marry her... church youth director. And the whole church was quite hunky dory about it. They're still married as far as I know.

  • Entelechy||

    As part of his plea bargain , Harvey Weinstein should be forced to produce a Title IX Correct remake of Love Story using the cast of The Social Network i , in which university dating paperwork harassmentl leaves them with no time to invent Facebook.

  • Troglodyte Rex||

    A fellow student ratted on the boyfriend

    Snitches better be gettin' stitches.

  • sharmota4zeb||

    Despite the fact that the age difference between the two is just three years, the relationship consensual—the victim initiated it, according to the arrest warrant—and neither party is a minor, this is considered a crime because Boncal held a position of authority at the school.

    What happens when someone dates a cop in Connecticut?

  • Trigger Warning||

    Cavity searches?

  • Diane Reynolds (Paul.)||

    neither party is a minor, this is considered a crime because Boncal held a position of authority at the school.

    they have a law about that?

  • Quo Usque Tandem||

    Good question; sounds more like a vague regulation, policy, or organizational "guideline." It's not clear what she is being charged with, other than some form a statutory rape.

  • Quo Usque Tandem||

    three counts of second-degree sexual assault,

  • Trigger Warning||

    Would.

  • The Laissez-Ferret||

    Eddie Van Halen approves

  • ||

    If only the draft were still in existence... Then this kid would off fighting in Afghanistan instead of in the grave danger of sleeping with student teachers.

  • Cloudbuster||

  • Empress Trudy||

    This is the world the liberals created. This is the world they should die in.

  • rxc||

    +10

  • Tionico||

    So it would be criminal for a fifty year old male college student to get it on with a thirty year old professor, in his or some other department?

    Seems their right to freely associate, per the US Constitution, has been denied. OK, so the agreement to keep yer hands out of the britches of your students IS on the books.... on WHAT basis in law does this prohibition rest? Both were adults at the time of the activity in question. Any law prohibiting their free association has to violate at least one, likely more, parts of the COnstitution. They both should sue on that basis, and have the criminal charges dropped.

  • Tionico||

    So it would be criminal for a fifty year old male college student to get it on with a thirty year old professor, in his or some other department?

    Seems their right to freely associate, per the US Constitution, has been denied. OK, so the agreement to keep yer hands out of the britches of your students IS on the books.... on WHAT basis in law does this prohibition rest? Both were adults at the time of the activity in question. Any law prohibiting their free association has to violate at least one, likely more, parts of the COnstitution. They both should sue on that basis, and have the criminal charges dropped.

  • rxc||

    The right to free association has been under attack for quite some time now, under the guise of discrimination, and soon, because of disparate impact, and eventually, the matter of sexual unpleasantness. And since the females can read our minds and determine, without us actually saying or doing something, that we are thinking sexually unpleasant thoughts, no males will be allowed to have (or be allowed to want to have) "associations" with women any more.

  • PL@pierrelemieux.com||

    A terrible exploitation of mens' bodies.

  • vek||

    Every time I read one of these stories, it makes me think of this HOT substitute teacher we had for a few months my freshman year. She was only 20 or 21 years old, because you don't have to have fully graduated to do sub work. She was the daughter of one of the coaches at my school. She was thin, athletic, pretty face... BEST PART??? She was subbing in my health class, which happened to be SEX ED that semester.

    Me and all the other boys were drooling over her the whole time. I made a few cutesy/smart ass semi provocative comments during the semester, as she did seem to like me and appreciate my smart assedness, but nothing too over the line because I knew I had no shot... But if I'd been a senior at the time, with all the lady picking up skills I picked up in those years in between... I would have made a proper attempt at that!

  • Dadlobby||

    Legal age of consent and abusing a position of authority over another are two different things. But one need only look at the hysteria around cases of male "perpetrators" with female "victims" and the witch hunt of the #metoo campaign where we portray women as helpless victims of over sexualized males and we see the slippery slope of government overreach in action. Indeed, boorish behavior is now treated on the same level as an assault and the hue and cry is to get the accused lynched based upon allegation alone, no adjudication, no revue by our peers. Is it any wonder that the victim mentality and the nanny state "protection" of government, which routinely persecutes men, results in women also being ensnared in the witch hunt? Sexual relations when you are in a position of authority is improper, perhaps a sexual harassment, but certainly not a rape (unless the age of consent is not reached) but I'll not worry about a few cases of government persecuted females when this is a regular occurrence and a fact of life for men every day.

  • Rick Stewart||

    The government should provide me with a complete list of all people with whom I am allowed to engage in sexual relations with no fear of arrest.

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