An Indiana Mom Left Her Kids Home for an Hour. Her Husband's Ex-Wife Called Child Services.
After her husband’s ex repeatedly called child protective services over harmless parenting decisions, Hannah Bright is advocating for a new law to protect families from weaponized reporting.
Since this summer, Indiana mom of three and stepmom of two Hannah Bright has had three calls made to child protective services about her by her husband's ex-wife—all for activities that posed no danger to the kids.
Weaponized reporting refers to using a reporting mechanism with malicious intent rather than for its legitimate purpose. Calls to child protective services can easily be used to harass parents. In Bright's case, her stepchildren's mother alerted authorities that four of the kids—aged 10, 9, 7, and 7—were left unsupervised for about an hour.
Bright and her husband married last year and live in Columbus, Indiana (incidentally, the safest small city in America). When she was a single mom of three, Bright had to juggle multiple jobs, school schedules, and day care on her own. Her kids often had to help out, and Bright saw how capable they were. She trusted them to stay home with their stepsiblings for a short time.
In July, Bright was informed that the Department of Child Services (DCS) had received a call claiming the children were left home alone, that her 9-year-old daughter had exposed herself to the others, that the kids were roughhousing, and that there was sexual abuse by an "unknown" perpetrator—a serious allegation if there had been any evidence.
Bright and her husband had indeed left the kids home alone when they went out to dinner less than a mile away. While the children were playing, the 9-year-old evidently mooned her siblings. Anyone who grew up with siblings likely finds that unremarkable.
As for the sexual abuse? "That was made up out of whole cloth," says Bright.
When the DCS caseworker asked to interview the kids, Bright refused. For nine years, Bright has been a Court Appointed Special Advocate—a volunteer trained to advocate for children in foster care during court actions brought by DCS—so she was aware of her rights.
The caseworker did interview the two stepkids at their mom's home. Two months later, DCS closed the case as "unsubstantiated," concluding that while the kids are left unsupervised for short periods, "it is not excessive or inappropriate for their age/developmental levels." They found no evidence of sexual abuse.
Soon after, the kids were riding their bikes to a friend's house about half a mile away when a police officer stopped them and asked if they knew where they lived and whether their parents knew where they were. When the kids said yes, the officer replied, "fine," and moved on.
When the ex-wife learned the police had stopped the kids, she called DCS to report that the Columbus police were now involved with the family.
Again, DCS called Bright and said they needed to interview her children. Bright refused again. "We've been very clear," Bright told the caseworker. "This was malicious. We are not a family in need of services. You have plenty of families who are. As a volunteer with the courts, I know what you see and deal with—you are wasting your time."
After this incident, Bright emailed Let Grow, the nonprofit I helm, which promotes childhood independence, including the Reasonable Childhood Independence law that has been passed in 11 states to date. Multiple Indiana representatives are now working on their own bill, which is expected to be introduced by the end of the year.
The law clarifies that "neglect" applies only when a parent places their child in obvious and serious danger, not any time they take their eyes off their kids. Parents are allowed to decide when their kids can stay home alone for a time or when they can be out of the house.
Bright knew parents like her needed more legal protection. Even when a parent wants to give their kids reasonable freedom, they often worry about "trust in one's kids being mistaken— deliberately or otherwise—for neglect."
A 2023 study by the University of Michigan found that 17 percent of American parents believe state or local laws don't allow children to be alone.
"When families are afraid that a neighbor, ex-spouse or even a stranger can make an anonymous call that upends their lives, it creates a chilling effect," Bright wrote. "Parents are afraid to let their kids play outside or take a walk by themselves because they are terrified they will be reported to DCS or the police."
Shortly after interviewing Bright, I received another email from her: less than five minutes after we hung up, another DCS agent was at her house. "[The ex-wife] called again," she wrote.
A change in the law won't stop all vengeful ex-spouses from misusing the DCS hotline. But as Let Grow's legal consultant Diane Redleaf notes, "A tighter neglect law will send a message to parents that they are on solid ground when they let their kids have some 'alone' time." Redleaf adds that it will also "help agencies prioritize their precious resources for the kids who truly need state intervention to protect them."
Even before Bright's story came to their attention, the need for a Reasonable Childhood Independence law in Indiana was apparent to the expected cosponsors of the forthcoming bill, Rep. Jake Teshka (R–North Liberty) and Rep. Victoria Wilburn (D–Fishers). They're now also working with Bright's own legislator, Rep. Ryan Lauer (R–Columbus).
Bright, gearing up for another round of DCS questioning, is not unsympathetic to her stepkids' mother. "I feel sorry for her sometimes," Bright said. "She genuinely believes the kids are in danger of being kidnapped if we leave them here for an hour while we go to dinner."
A Reasonable Childhood Independence law could help make the safest small city in America even safer—from vengeful ex-spouses and weaponized reporting.
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Two months later, DCS closed the case as "unsubstantiated,"
Dog bites man story.
Soon after, the kids were riding their bikes to a friend's house about half a mile away when a police officer stopped them and asked if they knew where they lived and whether their parents knew where they were. When the kids said yes, the officer replied, "fine," and moved on.
O... Kay... ?
Edit: Oh, wait, my bad. THEY WUZ WRONGLY ARRESS-TED!
That's a fine interaction, but I do think it's a bit sad that kids riding their bikes attracts the attention of a cop at all (assuming they are not causing any problems with traffic or pedestrians).
It's a 2 second interaction to see if the kids are lost and lets them know there are adults around to help. Overall not something to mind at all. Now the learned helplessness being pushed is something to despise with the white hot fury of a thousand suns.
That's the question. Why are kids riding bikes stopped by the cops. "Do you know where you live" is such a stupid question it defies logic. Left out of the story is any mention of penalties for malicious reporting.
"Do you know where you live" is such a stupid question it defies logic.
Thanks, sperg Karen.
I remember coming home from school with my brother and sister and mom had forgotten to leave the door unlocked like she usually did (crazy I know). I was the youngest and smallest and crawled through the milk chute to let my siblings in (yeah milk chutes were a thing back then). It was pretty cool. Nobody thought twice about kids being home alone. And we rode our bikes anywhere we could get to every day and as long as we were home for dinner nobody cared. Raised my kid the same way. You can bad mouth boomers all you want but we had a lot more fun. This shit is insane.
Milk chute???
Outlaw DCS.
They were helpful in responding to when sarc put hands on his daughter. Though I suppose it could have been the Portland police department instead.
Never agree to let DCS into your home or question your kids.
Weaponized reporting refers to using a reporting mechanism with malicious intent rather than for its legitimate purpose.
See something say something, right Democrats? They were "reporting" that people weren't wearing masks and keeping 6' apart. They were "reporting" that ICE was in the area lawfully and legitimately rounding up the border jumpers. They were "reporting" that Charlie Kirk was holding nazi rallies on college campuses.
The left made this bed. I genuinely hope they get well and truly f'd in it. (ENB says they want it that way.)
Also, maybe don't encourage divorce culture.
As for the sexual abuse?
Well see hey, there's another one of those things the left has blurred the lines on. Mooning a sibling? Sex abuse! A guy in a dress following that same sibling into a bathroom or locker room and then exposing himself. That's PRIDE baby!
I truly hate you Lenore. Not because I disagree with things you say, but because you say it without EVER calling out the evil and the predators and the sickos who make the "childhood independence" so impossible now.
You want free range kids? Then ADVOCATE for it, by advocating that all the rainbow people need to be locked in a cell forever. Or dangle from a rope. Or be fed face-first into a woodchipper.
You want child service abuses stopped? Then ADVOCATE for it, by easily illustrating how child services is staffed by flowchart sociopaths who don't give a flying f about the result so long as they can say their boxes were checked.
You want family autonomy and for families to raise their kids how they see fit? Then ADVOCATE for the preservation of the family unit. One man, one woman, nuclear family, no divorce, no "blended" lives.
We've known for thousands of years how all this stuff works. You want to rebel against it, but then complain about it's results. This is why I agree with you more often than most staff here, but will never - EVER - support you.
Not until you pull your head out of your ass.
Oooh, Mr Big Shot, full of advice for people who are doing far more than you to correct some of these evils.
What have you done, at all, to actually make things better?
Fucking keyboard commando.
Language.
Lenore has a bigger audience than I do. She could be making these points, but she wants to ride the fence to remain unobjectionable.
Dispute this point: childhood independence DOES NOT WORK in a society filled with enabled/defended LGBT predators.
Dispute this point: child services DOES NOT WORK in a bureaucratic system in which following the checklists to prove you did your job matters more than results.
Dispute this point: the family DOES NOT WORK in a society that encourages and intentionally aims to corrupt/bastardize/destroy the family unit.
I double-dog dare you, you fat ignorant punk. You won't for the same reason she won't. Because reality is polarizing to people who hate reality. You won't stand up for reality, because doing so means denying the narrative.
Lenore is unwilling to call a spade a spade. That's why her message goes nowhere. You, on the other hand, are likely an intentional part of the problem.
She alone is responsible for her content and her fight. You seem to think you know better than her how she should carry on her fight. Since she has actually improved matters, and you are just all hot air, I'd say she's doing better than you. Her message certainly has gone somewhere. Yours reaches the few Reason commenters who don't ignore you.
You seem to think you know better than her how she should carry on her fight.
Actually, I'm certain that I know. She's not fighting. She's slashing at the L1 dire wolves and ignoring the L100 rainbow spectral ogres.
Since she has actually improved matters,
Has she. The fact that she continues to have clickbait fodder implies otherwise, doesn't it. Because that's how it is with folks these days, isn't it. If you help resolve the problem, you can't keep complaining about it can you.
This is the Marxist deception behind "social justice," incidentally. They don't actually want social justice. They want perpetual social injustice. So they can keep trading off of it while mindraping the people like you who refuse to answer the question, "What restitution would satisfy you?"
You Frankfurt pissants are all the same. So stupid. Bleating sheep that make a loud annoying noise pretending it's something other than loud annoying noise.
Note that he did not dispute any of the points.
I'm not arguing you shouldn't complain. You are free to make as big a fool of yourself as you wish, just as I am free to point out your hypocrisy.
1. You haven't done squat to improve anything.
2. Lenore has improved life for parents and children.
3. You are a foolish hypocrite, or a hypocritical fool, and I don't care which.
And yet, the only thing you accomplish is inadvertently pointing out your own.
You can side with the free range kids, or you can side with the rainbow cult. You can't do both.
Pick one.
Altruist Totalitarians love to badger people to pick a Giant Douche or Turd Sandwich--never to cast a vote for freedom from coercion. Which will it be? Hitler and Jesus? or Stalin and Satan? HUH??
Lenore has audience that pays to read her... Altruist Totalitarian pays a pittance to fart in someone else's elevator.
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So helpless you are.
This is a load of crap. It is perfectly possible for kids to be independent today in most places. The dangers of abusers and pedophiles is not a new thing by any means. The creeps and weirdos just disguised themselves better in the past. Yes, we are getting way to close to acceptance on some things like that, but it is a small danger overall, as it always has been.
This Altruist Totalitarian does claim all manner of insider info on how Republican pederasts operate. The guy reminds one of NAMBLA Boy, the skunk who alienated the entire board of The Intellectual Activist then bankrupted the publication with similar screeching and moaning.
Pedo alert.
To coercive Altruist Totalitarians, that's not hate screech... It's what the baybee Jesus would say if he weren't too busy prosecuting Jyooz and standing up for prohibitionist Christian National Socialist eugenics ans resurrecting Ernest Vom Rath and Cartman Kirk the girl-bullier.
https://www.granger.com/0103986-ernst-eduard-vom-rath-1909-1938-german-diplomat-funeral-of--image.html
I think this depends on the details.
Did the kids have easy access to a phone with their parents on speed dial? (many people don't have land lines anymore)
Is there a trusted neighbor who is home at the time?
Are the kids trained in what to do in an emergency at a basic level?
What history do the kids have about being responsible in the absence of direct parental observation?
Are there unmitigated dangers in the house?
Karen doesn't care.
Scotty doesn’t know.
Don’t tell Scotty.
These should all be detailed in federal regulations, amiright?
Otherwise, it would be madness! People making their own rules for their kids?
Man I bet the husband doesn't regret the divorce ever.
True facts
Everyone see's why he got divorced. A vengeful ex spouse is not uncommon where kids are involved. The children just become another weapon to strike out at the ex with.
Abuse of reporting such as by a vindictive ex-spouse should be punishable. Likewise suing without merit. There should be a degree of latitude in egregious abuse to punish these vindictive people.
Additionally government employees who rubber stamp these fallacious and vindictive reports should be held to account for failure to investigate. Not simply losing their jobs, but charged with neglect and disregard with the potential of serving time.
But who gets to decide what is "abuse" and "vindictive"? I've had to call government agencies multiple times to get them to get off their collective butts to do something they were neglecting that was their responsibility. Could they turn around and charge me with "abuse"?
Thanks, Reason, for another excellent article by Lenore. The humor in the situation shows that while some scorned spouses carry a torch, others prefer a flamethrower and napalm.
That guy's ex is a piker. She should have had the home SWATTED. That would put the fear of God in them. Nothing like a good ole fashioned SWATTING to put teach someone a lesson.
In reality He should file charges against his Ex or maybe a couple black eyes would teacher her to mind her own f****** business.
This crap is getting out of hand. America has become a nanny state that threatens to destroy what freedom we have left.
Remember the words of C.S. Lewis on his remarks regarding moral busy bodies.
Too local.
As a parent who has been wrongly reported to DCF, I know first-hand how disruptive and frightening the experience can be. I am very relieved that my state passed this "Let Grow" law, and I'm grateful for Skenazy's efforts that made that happen. One lingering result of the first DCF investigation (which went nowhere, just to be clear) is that my spouse and I are terrified that we might come to their attention a second time, for whatever specious reason.