Sex

'Fake Fur, Not Orgasms'

Astroglide is trying to close "the orgasm gap" with a libertarian message of self-empowerment.

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Nick Gillespie, Reason

One of the perks of working as a journalist, particularly at Reason (which covers a wide variety of cultural and political topics, and usually from what's considered an alternative point of view), is that you end up in odd situations your younger self could never have imagined.

For me, I think about moments such as interviewing Edward Snowden via Skype in front of several hundred Free State Project people up in New Hampshire. Or about driving south from Reason's headquarters in Los Angeles to Chapman University in Orange, California, to spend an afternoon shooting the bull with Nobel Prize-winning economist Vernon Smith, who cast his first presidential vote in 1948 (for the Socialist Norman Thomas!), and could thus discourse via personal experience the differences between the Great Depression and the Great Recession ("I remember the '30s like it was yesterday"). Then there was the time some colleagues and I trundled over from Washington to Baltimore to interview David Simon, the creator of one of the most-revered TV series of all time, The Wire. We were going to talk his less well-received show, Treme, and because he is a self-declared socialist who had gotten increasingly fed up with libertarians liking his work (The Wire is one of the most unyielding depictions of how drug prohibition shreds all the social fabric), he had stipulated that we wouldn't talk about "politics." Which was fine by me, though he immediately started talking about politics and in the first couple of minutes of the interview threatened to get up and not come back (given that we were in his office, that might have been pretty great). After the interview was posted and a big, nasty, online back-and-forth, he literally told me to lose his number.

And so it was that I found myself a few Saturdays ago attending a press event sponsored by the personal lubricant company Astroglide that was dedicated to publicizing and closing "the orgasm gap." That's the company's term for what it says is the difference in how often men and women have orgasms during sex. According to Astroglide's research, 80 percent of women have faked an orgasm and 95 percent of heterosexual men report regularly having an orgasm during sex while just 65 percent of heterosexual women do. The company also cites a study that concludes using a lubricant during sex was associated "with significantly higher reports of sexual pleasure and satisfaction."

At New York's posh Soho Grand Hotel, women clad in purple fake-fur jackets emblazoned with the slogan "Fake Fur, Not Orgasms" wandered around handing out product samples and fake tattoos ("Fake Tattoos, Not Orgasms"), but the main attraction was Dr. Angela Jones, a "brand ambassador" for Astroglide. Jones is an M.D. who talked frankly, funnily, and forthrightly about everything related to sex. A married, black lesbian originally from the Midwest who used IVF to have a child, Jones bills herself as "everybody's favorite OB/GYN" and who's going to disagree? She cracked wise—"forget about the wage gap, focus on the orgasm gap" is a sample line—but also substantively about how so many individuals and couples simply refuse to have the sorts of conversations that will allow them to explore who they are and what they want, not just in relation to sex but so many other parts of their lives.

Her rap had nothing to do with politics per se, but it was a frankly libertarian approach to self-fulfillment that made me wonder about larger questions of social progress. We live in an age of outrage in which virtually everybody, from the president on down, is constantly flipping out about how awful and unfair virtually everything is. There are indeed a multitude of petty and grand injustices in the world, but isn't it also true that many, maybe most, things are much, much better than they used to be? We're phenomenally wealthy compared to just a few generations ago, and more equal across race, gender, and ethnicity. We're more peaceful, long-lived, and free in most important ways. This is, of course, the thesis of Steven Pinker's Enlightenment Now and he and other believers in progress (such as Reason's own Ronald Bailey) routinely get roasted for suggesting improvements in the psychic and material well-being of humans.

With that in mind, I asked Dr. Angela whether the sexual revolution and the general loosening-up of American culture hadn't at least made it easier to talk about sex? Sure, she said. But echoing one of the event's slogans, she noted that life is still too short to fake it. Which is true enough—and not just about sex.

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  1. According to Astroglide’s research, 80 percent of women have faked an orgasm and 95 percent of heterosexual men report regularly having an orgasm during sex while just 65 percent of heterosexual women do.

    What percent of men are faking?

    1. Not enough! LET’S WIDEN THE ORGASM GAP!

      1. [throws yogurt on Crusty’s back]

    2. I fake care about the issue.

      If women are upset about men having an orgasm at their expense, then stop letting it happen.

      Stop blaming men for knowing and getting what they want.

      Stop being bitches and get yourself a female orgasm.

      1. “If women are upset about men having an orgasm at their expense, then stop letting it happen.” -> Don’t blame me, apparently I am an incel. (At least, I keep being called one on the internet.)

        1. How do you like being an Incel?

          1. Indifferent, I guess. I don’t really have the time or energy to go around trying to convince a woman to have sex with me.

            1. ^ a sign of the apocalypse?

              1. If you want to see this way.

            2. They made a movie about your plight.

              40 year old virgin.

              1. Thank you for the recommendation, I will watch it one day.

      2. Stop blaming men for knowing and getting what they want.

        I can’t speak for all men, but a lot of what I want out of sex is for my partner to enjoy it at least as much as I do. Seems to me that the point of having actual sex with another person is that that other person is actually there as more than an accessory for you to bust a nut on.

        1. “Seems to me that the point of having actual sex with another person is that that other person is actually there as more than an accessory for you to bust a nut on.” -> Accessories > other people.

          1. Sex Robots are the future.

        2. Apparently Zeb’s wife reads the comments.

  2. Jones bills herself as “everybody’s favorite OB/GYN” and who’s going to disagree?

    Me – Dr. Bummer is obviously number one.

  3. In my relationship it averages a 3-1 ratio, in her favor.

    Beat that Crusty.

    1. lol. I am a libertarian – what the fuck do I care about whether or not my partner has an orgasm? Get the fuck out of here, you socialist cum giver.

      1. “Do you think Ayn Rand ever cared if the guy she was cheating on her husband with was having an orgasm? Check and mate, cosmo!”

        1. Didn’t John Galt say “I swear, by my life and my love of it, that I will never orgasm for the sake of another man, nor let another man orgasm for the sake of me.”

      2. You giver of selfish secretions!

    2. Whoa, your wife has TWO boyfriends?

    3. “Beat that Crusty.”

      What do you think is making him crusty?

  4. I like Mr. Gillespie, and he write some good stuff, but he really needs to stop describing things as “libertarian” just because libertarians like them. Libertarianism is about how much government does or does not impinge upon our rights. Period. End of story. Yes, the free market and voluntary social interaction give us wonderful things, but those are reasons we *want* libertarianism, not libertarianism itself.

    1. Yes, the free market and voluntary social interaction give us wonderful things, but those are reasons we *want* libertarianism, not libertarianism itself.

      To understand libertarianism, a word rooted in “liberty,” it helps to understand what happens when people are free to trade and free to engage socially without government intervention. Those who ignorantly support those who oppose people doing anything without asking permission and obeying orders do not understand the beauty of spontaneous order. They need to understand that amazing things happen when people are not controlled. That control leads to stagnation. That liberty is an end, and getting government out of our lives is the means.

      1. Mixing what you call ‘Libertarianism’ and your desire for Anarchy always comes off weird.

        1. Mixing what you call ‘Libertarianism’ and your desire for right wing authoritarianism always comes off as pathetic. Case in point: he used a small l. Learn the difference.

          1. Haha. Non-Libertarians trying to make up rules for Libertarians to follow…or else.

            These sock puppets accounts are fun.

            1. These sock puppets accounts are fun.

              Well, at least you admit what you are.

              1. Figures, Zeb shows up to deflect suspicion from him.

      2. Those who ignorantly support those who oppose people doing anything without asking permission and obeying orders do not understand the beauty of spontaneous order.

        It’s not as convincing when you cut left without the ‘libertarianism = individualism’ head fake.

      3. They need to understand that amazing things happen when people are not controlled.

        But what if they didn’t? Would you favor people being controlled in that case?

    2. Libertarianism is about how much government does or does not impinge upon our rights.

      Well, it doesn’t have to be the government doing it.

    3. Yes, the free market and voluntary social interaction give us wonderful things, but those are reasons we *want* libertarianism, not libertarianism itself.

      What if it didn’t “give you wonderful things” (whatever that means)? Would you not still value your liberty and the liberty of others?

      I don’t know about you, but I value liberty regardless of whatever “wonderful things” that might or might not be derived from it.

  5. I’ve never understood why women fake it. All they have to do is say, “Stop” and the guy has to stop. Why lie, be deceptive, and then secretly resent the guy for not being a mind reader?

    1. My understanding is either a desire to please, a desire to get the guy to stop, or both.

      1. I think the desire to please is probably the top reason.

    2. It’s because they are stupid, Antilles.

    3. They want nice things and use sex to get nice things.

      Laying there has a price too.

  6. ‘Fake News, Not Orgasms’

  7. The company also cites a study that concludes using a lubricant during sex was associated “with significantly higher reports of sexual pleasure and satisfaction.”

    From the study:

    A total of 2,453 women completed a 5?week internet?based, double?blind prospective daily diary study in which they were assigned to use one of six water? or silicone?based lubricants.

    Sell those diaries, science!

    This makes sense though, because the only way women can orgasm is to get pounded hard, like hammering baby food through a toilet paper tube, and a little lubricant makes it easier for them to take it.

  8. This reads like sponsored content

    1. They did that for Shake Shack’s IPO

    2. That abominable ersatz “mayo” too.

    3. Unlabeled sponsored content is not fraud under the fake news exception.

    4. The Koch’s are in bed with Big Lube!

      1. Gillespie might just be an enthusiastic customer. I’m simply noting the way it comes off

  9. “…95 percent of heterosexual men report regularly having an orgasm during sex while just 65 percent of heterosexual women do.”

    You’re doing it WRONG!!!!!

  10. Jackalope Moment:

    Cosmotopia on the Hudson
    NYC plan calls for congestion pricing, weed tax to fix crumbling transit system…

    Libertarian-Democrat Bill De Blasio!

    1. As long as there’s weed involved you can declare “libertarian moment!” Nothing else matters

      1. Congestion pricing is the new food trucks.

        1. True conservatives with their appeal to authority and their need to always conform with the status quo are reactive. They will conserve the most malign policy that the progressive institutes so long as authority figures justify it under even the most dubious of rationale.

    2. Weed taxes are being used to pay for infrastructure but you cannot use weed while using the infrastructure.

      Makes sense.

  11. Oh Nick, don’t ever change.

  12. I don’t buy it at all that women fail to orgasm more than men. Sexual incompetence is gender neutral.

    1. Women have a-million-and-one excuses to not have an orgasm.

      There are plenty of men out there willing to please their lovers. Sex can also be give and take, which removes women’s use of sex as power. Men might want a BJ more regularly if they spend the extra time to get their lovers an orgasm.

    2. I don’t buy it at all that women fail to orgasm more than men.

      I’m pretty convinced that it’s not an exceedingly valid comparison. A bit like saying women fail essay tests more often than men fail true/false tests, IMO.

      Previous waves of feminists like to actually announce genital statistics as part of an idiotically self-defeating dick measuring contest. More nerve endings, more and more varied capabilities for orgasms, with and without specific genital stimulation, and they’re failing to produce/receive more orgasms? Sounds, literally, like a personal problem. I’ll do what I can to facilitate the process but, ultimately, it’s not in my hands… er… it’s not my responsibility or under my immediate control.

      1. […] but, ultimately, it’s not in my hands…

        I believe I have found the problem. Use your hands (and tongue, and vibrator) more.

        1. I believe I have found the problem.

          Well, see the ‘… er…’ would imply a reconsideration of the phrasing indicating that technically or literally is in my…

          You know what? Nevermind, just continue being your special self EE.

          1. And you learn how to use a rabbit.

            1. Bugs Bunny *is* a cross-dressing slut.

    3. It happens because men assume that when they are done sex is over. If the woman comes first the man keeps going. If the man comes first it stops.

      1. Sometimes biology dictates our actions. But, biology is not science when it contradicts a talking point.

      2. Sex ends when a guy cums or until he is hard again.

        Everything else but sex can keep going but guys fight a biological battle every time.

  13. Any serious discussion of the orgasm gap has to focus deal with the confounding facts of women’s comparative advantage and men’s absolute advantage. The idea that the gap is produced by or strictly confined to any given interaction in the bedroom is folly.

  14. This is, of course, the thesis of Steven Pinker’s Enlightenment Now and he and other believers in progress (such as Reason’s own Ronald Bailey) routinely get roasted for suggesting improvements in the psychic and material well-being of humans.

    “Improvements in the psychic and material well-being of humans” transcends politics and economics and gets into philosophy and theology. Is a solid-gold hammer with a jewel-encrusted handle a better hammer than a Estwing? I would say no, because the utility of a hammer isn’t improved by such things, you have to consider what the purpose of a hammer is. So what makes a person better-off? Well, what is the purpose of a human being?

    The pursuit of happiness is what it’s all about, we all have to decide for ourselves what our purpose and goal is and how to reach it. I think most people eventually come around to the idea that happiness isn’t a matter of a momentary pleasure but lies somewhere in leading a “meaningful” life. That’s where the busybodies and the do-gooders and know-it-alls become the worst sort of evil-doers because they think they know better than you do how you should live your life – you’ve only got one of those, by fucking it up they’re robbing you of everything you have and everything you are and everything you could be or could have.

  15. Yeesh, how crappy must straight? men be that so many straight? women feel the need to fake orgasms. I mean, the fact that they fake it and don’t just say “yeah, I’m good. Nah, didn’t orgasm, it’s fine though” isn’t a good sign.
    _______
    ?Or at least men-who-have-sex-with-women (MSW for short).
    ?Or at least women-who-have-sex-with-men (WSM for short).

  16. This needs to be the pointless thing I ever read in my life.

    1. The Fonz jumped the shark a while ago. Now Richie and the gang are just going through the motions.

      1. Am now imagining Richie and Potsie experimenting with Astroglide(tm)

        1. I am pretty sure there is a porn comic like this somewhere on the internet. (And the shark is probably involved in the act somehow.)

        2. You don’t want to know what Chachie is up to behind Joanie’s back….

  17. I faked reading this

  18. What percentage of women with fake orgasms are fake women?

  19. According to Astroglide’s research, 80 percent of women have faked an orgasm and 95 percent of heterosexual men report regularly having an orgasm during sex while just 65 percent of heterosexual women do.

    I think the answer to why do so many women try to fake orgasms is…it’s easy.

    Astroglide researcher: Have you ever faked an orgasm?

    Woman: yes

    Astroglide researcher: Do you regularly have an orgasm during sex?

    Woman: ……yes

    Astroglide researcher: ok, derp!

    1. Yeah, I found the way this ‘research’ was put weird. I am pretty sure most people who have sex with some frequency faked orgams at some point. And how much orgasms do you need to have for it to be considered ‘regurlaly’? Once a week? Once a month? Once a year? Honestly, this sounds those infomercials ‘researchs’ that always find that ‘our product is 300% more efficient than the competition”.

    2. (Not to mention that 65% is still the majority, It may not be 95%, but it is a majority non-the-less.)

    3. (Also, thus this 95% of men are having sex? Because I could count ‘orgasm via masturbation’ in this number.)

      1. Let me put it this way: It makes almost ten years last time I had sex, I have an orgasm almost everyday.

          1. It would be a pleasure.

  20. It is not possible in an Internet forum to have an open discussion about sex.

    It is sometimes possible for an intimate couple. Those who can be open and honest with each other have a much better sex life.

    Astrolube, very good product. It was not invented yesterday.

  21. using a lubricant during sex was associated “with significantly higher reports of sexual pleasure and satisfaction.”

    That’s counterintuitive. Maybe these women who can’t orgasm should try using some rosin.

  22. Start working at home with Google! It’s by-far the best job I’ve had. Last Wednesday I got a brand new BMW since getting a check for $6474 this – 4 weeks past. I began this 8-months ago and immediately was bringing home at least $77 per hour. I work through this link, go to tech tab for work detail.
    >>>>>>>>>> http://www.GeoSalary.com

  23. “Dear Diary …”

    The biggest self indulgent piece of crap I have ever seen on Reason.

    At least he spared us pictures of his meals for the last decade.

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