How to Be an Adult 101: The New College Curriculum?
Anguished students are more likely to support forms of censorship.


As noted previously by Lenore Skenazy, one university is so concerned about its students' increasingly fragile mental health conditions that it is prepared to offer something akin to remedial adult education—classes on how to cope with the stresses of adulthood, in other words.
I review the facts in a recent column for The Daily Beast:
Call it what you will—the university likes "resilience" education better—but the substance is the same: Too many university students seem to have missed out on vital conflict-resolution, de-stressing, and life-organizing techniques during their previous 12 years of schooling.
ECU is just one of many universities to struggle with, well, struggling students. Last year, Brown University's student newspaper reported that the campus's student protesters were suffering from panic attacks, suicidal thoughts, and failing grades because of the toll their activism was taking on them. Students at Oberlin College told The New Yorker that they were considering dropping out—they were fed up with the college's inability to make accommodations for them due to mental anguish.
The college mental health crisis—if it can be called such—is closely related to the college free speech problem, since depressed students who claim trauma status are the ones most likely to call for institutional policies that place limits on free expression:
Make no mistake: Emotionally coddled, easily offended, mentally traumatized students aren't just a danger to themselves—they are exerting an injurious influence on the overall campus climate. They are the ones calling for what psychologist Jonathan Haidt describes as "vindictive protectiveness," or institutional policies designed to protect students from psychological harm.
These policies are well-known to readers: trigger warnings that require professors to consider whether they are teaching objectionable material; safe spaces that appear on campus whenever a visiting speaker expresses a controversial idea; speech codes that thwart students' efforts to exercise their First Amendment rights; and "Bias Response Teams" that investigate members of campus for saying the wrong things, even inadvertently.
Read my column here.
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Dear Incoming Students;
College is for adults. To achieve its goal of education it is necessary to openly discuss controversial and difficult issues including, but hardly limited to, rape, slavery, violence, war, and the cultural mores of other peoples. This constitutes your trigger warning. Cope. Or if you can't cope, please feel free to enroll in the Happy Folks Day Care just down the road.
"But I am so an adult. I have my self-esteem certificate and all my participant medals."
Is it funny that ALL millennials have self-esteem certificates and participant medals?
Y'all call them snowflakes, but I call'em axolotls.
"Cope? I'd like you to meet Ganja Preetnadinijad, and Spensive Scotch. These folks work tirelessly around the clock, along with their religious advisor, St. Eddy Sechs, to keep me sane and smiling."
Ha! Pussies.
I learned how to be an adult in the school of hard knocks!
I was 40 then.... Good times.
Not to be confused with Natalie Portman and the School of Hard Knockers.
Good Lord
Hillary makes my nipples hard, as well.
I can't stop staring into her eyes.
Princess amadalla's eyes?
I try so hard not to develop crushes on the narcissistic crowd, but goddamned, Natalie makes it so hard. I mean difficult, she makes it difficult.
She was excellent in parts of Black Swan.
Wow, standing next to Portman really makes Hillary look ugly.
How old was Portman in this shot? I have to confess she was already hot in The Professional.
Another confession: When I first saw The Professional, I thought that Jean Reno's character was played by SCTV's Joe Flaherty.
When you say hot...you also were under 18 and thought she was hot?
I keep waiting for the backlash.
Why aren't there more people telling these snowflakes to fuck off?
Because you need permission to do so. From the 'Committee'. And I say that with ominous music playing in the background.
At some point they must realize that the more they kowtow to them, the more they'll need to.
Fuck off, grow up, grab your sack and if you don't like it, feel free to get the fuck off my campus.
Of course, many of the faculty/staff are in full support of the continued pussification, so there's that.
FTFY
Yeah, we had whiny pussies too, and that's exactly what we did.
They're each backed by $120k in guaranteed student loans.
Expensive safe spaces.
That's expensive pussy... I mean pussies... I mean expensive waste.
Because most of the rest of us just want our diplomas.
Also, just about anyone who would tell them to fuck off would be someone who could be accused of 'privilege'.
And if you told them to fuck off, you'd find a campus-wide shaming campaign against you super-fast, until no one would dare be seen within 20 feet of you, as with Mattress Girl's ex-boyfriend.
And the faculty and professors, virtually all very progressive, will encourage this behavior.
Because anyone who achieves or excels must be brought down to the lowest common denominator that is these whining snowflakes. Once that has been accomplished, there will be nothing to stop the path to a glorious totalitarian socialist workers' paradise.
Is is ironic that these students want socialism but don't study to learn that socialism has failed every time since its inception?
There are no "safe spaces" at BYU.
I wonder why . . . .
That would have to start in grade school. And it would violate the tenets of self-esteem reinforcement that grade schools are infatuated with.
Just leave them alone to self-destruct on their own. Separates the wheat from the chaff.
I definitively agree. Fortunately for us H&R dwellers, Tony and the Jackass decided to nest in Bailey's commentary because that is where they decided to make their ideological last stand, so their injurious influence is confined to that small space.
But I weep for those college kids who, naively, though they could learn to be adults in college.
I like this quote a lot. In fact, I like your DailyBeast article a lot! Good work Soave!
Let us not forget that the very concept of trigger warnings and safe spaces goes against what the mental health field recommends for overcoming stress disorders; reintroducing the stressor in small, controlled doses to the affected's life.
It would appear these people want to stay ill; thus, there is only one thing to do, which is find the incentive to stay ill.
KInd of like Stress Homeopathy!
Less competition for my offspring.
Exactly. My son keeps remarking to me "God Dad, you cant believe how easy it is to take their money. I am thinking of starting my own religion."
"Oh? You mean 'cult' right?"
"Yeah, whatever. It's just too easy to take these idiots money"
How is it "remedial" if the person has been an adult for only a few weeks? Are most high schools even offering courses along the lines of "how to be an adult"?
It's not so much how to be an adult. It's about how not to be a whiny pussy who can't deal with even the slightest amount of stress. Those are very different things.
There are probably a number of 5 year olds with better coping skills than these entitled brats.
god my roommate is like that. everything has to be perfect or he mentally can't handle it. I never bought into that self esteem bullshit as a kid, but it's done a number on him.
All you need to do is believe and you can change the world!
How is it "remedial" if the person has been an adult for only a few weeks?
That's not the "job" for HS. My dad entered the hospital w/ pancreatic cancer 2 months after my 17'th birthday... Surprise! I was an adult by then. I sold drugs so my brother and I could eat and keep the lights on, while working two jobs and finishing my senior yr of HS. Sure, I scored a 35 overall on my ACT, but never got to claim my "safe space" at any college because I'm not a worthless meatsack.
When I was in college 40 years ago, there were fragile students as well. It was not considered "cool" to be fragile, no one gave you any attention, there was no Facebook to whine on and get attention, and schools did not encourage and coddle such kids. What happened to them? Dropped out in many cases, went home to live with parents. I was wary of such kids--did not want them to drag me down with them.
How did I learn to be an adult?
Reaching the end of the money before the end of the month. Bouncing a check. Having to deal with a bully physics teacher with no parents around to fix it. Getting bad grades and realizing it was my own damn fault. Painting houses as a summer job. Most of all realizing there was no one to complain to, no one to save me, no one to fix it but me.
Thats how it works in the real world.
When I was in college 40 years ago...
GO BE OLD SOMEWHERE ELSE, OLD MAN.
GET OFF HIS LAWN!
Back in his day they called them yards.
Damn capitalists!
Sounds like an evil white male with a need for some diversity training!
Not enough trigger warnings and safe spaces.
We need amnesty.
We're gonna fix that if it take a thousand sit-ins and fart-ins at the university president's office.
CraigL nails it.
Fortunately there are still plenty of people in the world who have those experiences.
Yes, it was very much the same for me as CraigL too, and not that far off in the time frame, either.
But I've been wondering something along those lines lately -- are those of us in the over-45 world just getting too old to have much influence on the culture any more? We can bitch and moan about how self-reliance should be important, and individuality, and freedom..... but it doesn't seem to be the same way of thinking for the millennials, not by a long shot. And they're the generation everyone seems to be looking to, to shape the culture.
I had to read a book for a work retreat that talked about the differences in the generations. According to the author, Millennials don't even believe adulthood starts until they are 26 years old.
So how would the next generation ever start thinking along the lines of self-reliance and maturity in college, when they are still going to be considered children up to four years after they graduate?
Well, when Rome collapses and 9/10s of the population dies, those remaining will face pre-technical labor and political structures in order to survive... so there's that to look forward to.
Luckily, us gun lovers have so much ammo and guns stockpiled. The progs won't stand a chance.
I don't want to grow up and you can't make me!
Seems appropriate:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSDF8VvU13M
I would have gone with the Toys R US Kids commercial. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VJJ-ZLdrTwY
But to each their own.
that it is prepared to offer something akin to remedial adult education?classes on how to cope with the stresses of adulthood, in other words.
Not to beat on Millennials, but to beat on millennials, I'm having more and more conversations with professionals who either own their own businesses or are in charge of people-- often in the construction trades, and I'm hearing the same stories: "I can't find quality people."
When I ask them what they mean, they go into long explanations and anecdotes about how the younger generation coming in just don't have the adult life-skills to work a full-time job. And for those that have been hiring for years if not decades, they all indicate that something's different recently-- within the last eight or ten years.
For the record, as much as I like to make fun of trigger warnings and safe spaces, I actually believe they're a symptom of a larger problem, not the cause of it.
To some extent, I think what some of them mean is " I can't find any suckers to work long hours in attics pulling wire for crap pay" , at least that's what my dad means when he says it.
In other cases, I imagine it's different.
That may be true. it's crossed my mind that the nation's youth isn't going to work for anything less than $15 Now!
We've sent the highest percentage of kids to college in history-- many of which should have never gone to college-- and as a result, everyone is now entitled to a job at Google starting a $160,000 a year for middle school intern-level work.
I'm not going to say there's some expectation inflation going on, but it seems something's going on.
it's not a stretch to say it's middle school work. My 12yo cousin who's going into 8th grade does better work than many of these people.
"I can't find any suckers to work long hours in attics pulling wire for crap pay"
Unless you've crawled through insulation working in the oven that is an attic, you may not understand how much that labor, even unskilled, is worth. Absolutely miserable
Been there done that. Beats starving though. Of course, in a welfare state nobody starves...except homeless, political prisoners and Lady Liberty.
It's weird, because where I work it's the baby-boomers who are the worst.
The millenials are actually willing to work pretty hard, but they have inflated expectations about raises and promotions. They also expect their personal life to come first. Hard to manage, but willing to work.
With the boomers, they feel they have already "paid their dues" and will not do ANYTHING that hasn't already been in their job description for 20 years.
This has been my experience, too. The worst crew I ever saw on a job site was a carpentry crew of six white guys who were all in their mid 50s (this was six years ago). They brought folding chairs to the site with them, and spent half the day just sitting there chatting. The company went belly up before the job even finished.
I haven't noticed much in particular about millenials - all the complaints about them are pretty much exactly the complaints about Gen X in the 90s, and the Boomers in the 70s.
We Xers were the generation coddled on "I'm OK, you're OK," and whose minds were polluted by the cultural decay of television and video games, which caused us all to be ignorant, self-absorbed, over-entitled pussies.
You know what, though? People in their 20s, by and large, are ignorant, self-absorbed, over-entitled pussies. This goes back at least to Wordsworth and Coleridge.
Can you imagine how insufferable those guys will be after the wall?
We're talking late 70s/early 80s Communist-era Eastern Bloc "worker" insufferable.
I haven't noticed much in particular about millenials - all the complaints about them are pretty much exactly the complaints about Gen X in the 90s, and the Boomers in the 70s.
I dunno about Boomers. The term "yuppie" was originally aimed at them, a perversion of the word "Yippie" (Youth international party members) who had graduated college and now become "Young, Urban Professionals". They all seemed really work-aholic-ey and convinced that with enough hard work and late nights, you could change the world. They were insufferable.
Gen X lacked ambition and everyone wanted to be in a band and work in a coffee shop.
Millennials seem to have ambition, but lack the work ethic to match it.
And what do you think that larger problem is Paul?
Hint: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vLqHv0xgOlc
Can't eat your cake and have it, too, fuckheads. If you spend so much time pushing against others because you don't like their way of "doing things", don't be surprised when you start getting stressed, and experience these symptoms.
And, please, spare us your fake surprise when being cunts, harridans, and shit-heels doesn't result in everyone agreeing with you. You are absolutely your own worst enemies.
Yeah, I'm a bit surprise the most common advice isn't to take time off from activism and get your shit in order.
It sounds like a university would be robbing students of their power, and that's not okay.
No, you cannot take my wubby away from me.
Sounds as though they have sussed out a completely valid coping mechanism.
maybe they should have never gone to college in the first place?
Thank you for registering with 'Something we've all fucken learned on our own'. Or in some cases - as was with me - you need that 'elder' in your circle of friends and family to slap you out a bit:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7nqcgUDoV_M
Thus concludes our course. Hope you found it enlightening you beta male putzes.
My 11 year-old daughter asked me 'how I dealt with fears' when I was her age.
One, I told her, we never externalized those things because, well, we had tough immigrant fathers we couldn't really talk to. Two, you deal with it. If you're lucky, you have friends and you kinda work within that framework.
But it's different for a guy. We dared not talk like that anyway. We just...dealt with it. Then, years later, we'd talk and tell 'you too?!' stories and laugh.
My wife tells me I lack nuance.
This is the different between self-esteem and confidence. Self-esteem is such a neurotic and fickle thing. Confidence frames fears in a way that you can actually deal with them.
Organized sports helped me a lot.
"Those who played team sports, and those who didn't" is a pretty fair 'two types of people in this world'
i think it does explain the cognitive disconnect between people who demand de-facto catering to their "personal psychological issues"...
....and those who look at them and go, "why am i supposed to care? is this supposed to help anything get done faster?"
*Rufus sits his daughter down, stares at her with bugged out eyes*
"I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
Now put your hand in the box."
She needs a good 'man' perspective on things. I don't sugar coat.
I learned that from the great Obama.
Just finished my third glass of Niagara wine - Magnotta winery Italian table wine. Very good:
Rufusalia: Daddy, what's the secret to life?
Rufus: Two words. And never forget them. Consolidation, Interest AND Amortization. Learn these. Master them.
"Rufusalia, life ain't nothin' but bitches and money."
"To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentations of their women."
^ha! Perfect!
what's the secret to life?
"non illegitimi carborundum"
My 8th grade history teacher had that on the wall of his classroom. I knew enough to figure out the first two words, but the "carborundum" had me stumped- until I needed to buy some sandpaper to finish my shop project...
AWESOME movie!
*Ducks the Groovus swing*
Fears? I guess I really lack nuance.
This shitty thing is, these snowflakes get out of college and are shocked the real world doesn't care about their bullshit. They also have no skills to get a good job, so you end up being angry and supporting Bernie Sanders since other people must be oppressing you. They also can't handle BASIC criticism or feedback from managers, and can't handle it when they are not coddled at work.
My roommate graduated with no much in terms of marketable skills, and blames society on all his problems. He hates is job because he is not having an impact on the world / making a difference / blah blah blah, and needs to take mental health days off because apparently it's too much to watch daily show reruns all day at work in your easy office job.
I mean, I work IT and regularly work nights, weekends, 10-12 hour days, etc. Just this last weekend, I worked 17 hours on saturday and didn't go to sleep until 3am, before waking up and working some more. It's call toughen up and work hard, not bitch moan and think everyone owes you something.
Jesus Fucking Christ
Good for you, esteve. One minor criticism: it's "Jesus Tap Dancing Christ"
"Hello, boys and girls, I'm Mrs. Robinson, and today I'm here to initiate you into the mysteries of adultery..."
"That's adult*hood*!"
"Oh, I'm sorry, I think I'm supposed to be in the class down the hall..."
"OK, Mrs. Robinson, I know we said to take a walk around the grounds until you feel at home, but right now, we need you to go with the nice man back to your room."
HLN blurs out Trump logo on person's shirt:
http://www.foxnews.com/politic.....shirt.html
Amusing that the Trump logo is now in the same category as nudity and gore.
Or advertising. Don't want to be guilty of an in-kind contribution.
RE: How to Be an Adult 101: The New College Curriculum?
Anguished students are more likely to support forms of censorship.
The best way to protect the hyper-sensitive students who fall prey to spoken thoughts they do not agree with is to give them all two rubber bands a piece and have them wrap around their legs so the ants won't crawl up their legs and eat their candy asses.
Solution: put Ben Shapiro in charge of freshmen orientation
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jfplg84g62o
BUT I DOAN WANNA
Maybe they should just stop their activism? Treat it the same as a drug addiction.
again not everyone is meant to go to college. if you can't handle it, then don't go. But then again the government or mommy and daddy make appeasing those little twats worth $160,000
You mean get some methadone?
Fucking Pussies.
That is (still) all I've got.
Walk it off.
Jesus Tap Dancing Christ
I wonder if it has occurred to these geniuses how the kids ended up so fragile and immature in the first place. Probably not; so when the little snowflakes finish Adult 101, they'll be moved on to Socialism 101, Victims' Studies 101, Moar Free Stuf 101, Social Justice Whining 101, etc. so they can be taught how to best perpetuate the nonsense that made them pussies in the first place.