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In Search of Female Orgasms

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Above is the trailer for Orgasm Inc., a new documentary about pharmaceutical makers' attempt to create the female Viagra. Tracy Quan reviews the piece for AOL:

"Orgasm Inc" argues that FSD [female sexual dysfunction] was invented by drug companies to sell new products, and that lack of desire among womankind isn't truly a modern disease. It's actually a symptom of multiple factors that can't be cured by popping a one-size-fits-all pill.

Another trend examined in the documentary: labioplasty, or cosmetic surgery to reduce the vaginal lips. Canner, for one, sees this as America's version of FGM. But wait—I'm not quite sure about this. When older American men get penile implants in order to have intercourse, we don't see them as victims. How are they different from American women who indulge in labioplasty?…

When [the director] visits Carol Queen, curator of an antique vibrator collection, we learn about a now-forgotten Victorian ailment called "hysteria" and how it was routinely "cured." Well-to-do women would visit their doctors to get therapeutically massaged—guess where—by a vibrator. Like men who visit other kinds of professionals, these women had their needs met for a fee, and returned to their normal lives, smiling and relaxed. (Think about that next time you call someone a hysteric.)

Whole review here. The films sounds like an interesting meditation on the social construction of illness or "dysfunction" but also a survey of new technologies that, all jokes aside, are letting people exercise more control over their bodies.

Reason interviewed Quan, a writer and former prostitute, back in 2005.

I reviewed Angus McLaren's Impotence: A Cultural History for the New York Post in 2007.

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  1. Interesting . . .

    1. now women can screw men they dont wanna just like viagra for men to screw their fat dumpy wives.

      1. Whatever happened to parked cars and steamy windows?

        What about the days when the only marital aids you needed were a pack of smokes and a bottle of gin?

        Back then a woman knew the quality of her man by the rockin’ of his van!

    2. “Not tonight, I’ve got a headache!”

      Am I the only one or can anybody else see men switching their girl’s aspirin with this?

      Or dosing her waffles?

      Or spiking her coffee?

      Or slipping her…SHIT!

      In some circles, this stuff is gonna turn into roofies slightly less rapey cousin!

    3. Female orgasms are an urban legend.

      No, a vicious lie.

      I’ve been with thousands of women and the’ve all said, “I didn’t feel nothing” or “That sucked” r “are you done yet”.

      There’s no hope for you liberturds when an alpha male like me has those results.

  2. The cure for Female Hysteria has not changed.

    1. One tongue fits all.

      1. A boys’ club discussion of the female orgasm, direct from the tree-house. How can the following not be witty and educational?

        1. Men don’t have any trouble having an orgasm. Sit down, shut up, and learn something. After wards, get in the kitchen and knit me a sweater!

          1. Oh please tell us which microbrews are the bestest! And is deep-dish really better than thin-crust?

            1. That sweater knitted yet?
              Now, get started on those brownies!
              And, I’m sick of you having men over who kick me out of MY room while they wait their turn to have their way with you.

      2. Gene Simmons would beg to differ…

        1. It’s like having sex with a Cro-Magnon. Actually, it is having sex with a Cro-Magnon. Makes me want to throw up thinking about the top half of that face staring up at me from my nether region.

    2. Whenever I’ve heard about this topic, the topic that never gets raised is: These doctors HAD to know what they were actually doing, right?

  3. What these science-monocle guys need to come up with is a pill that gives men female orgasms. For the patriarchy.

    FGM

    Good thing you linked that, because we were all totally thinking it meant “Flying ‘Ghetti Monster.”

    1. I had to look it up too.

    2. If men could have multiple orgasms, worldwide productivity would just about come to a halt.

      1. You haven’t met the right woman.

      2. I’ve had multiple orgasms. Not in one sitting though.

      3. Just a little tip for you guys. You don’t have to be hard to get a rub out. After you have popped the cork, stimulate the tip of your penis, and if you aren’t hard, the next one should be an uncontrollable rush of several spasms (aka orgasms).

        1. And here I though the Mango was the answer.

          1. Mangoes are yummy so you should eat them anyway. The key is to learn how to have orgasms without hard ons. The boner gets in the way of multiple spasms.

            1. I think that Tulpster meant this Mango, now with Danny Devito!

    3. Urbandictionary defines it as a “Family Guy Moment”

      and the other thing.

    4. Full Moon Gathering

    5. Fast Moving Goods

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  5. Women have orgasms?

    1. Well, not with you …

      1. Tell me about it.

  6. It is much easier to find weapons of mass destruction in Iraq than to find a pill that will make women have orgasms.

    1. Look, it’s 2006!

      1. I blame the lack of female orgasms on my predecessor.

        1. Bitches should jump on my unit. I call it the Big Fuckin Deal

          1. Oh, that’s just good old Joe bein’ Joe!

            Sarah Palin is a Sarah Palin!!!!!!!!!! Arrrrrrrrrrrgggg!

  7. The only real factor in determining if a woman will have an orgasm or not: the degree to which she digs you.

    One lady friend had to have a change of clothes when we committed to some light petting at our lunch time rendezvous. She was practically a one woman cult, and you can’t expect that kind of devotion in a normative life time.

    Most every one else though, took some effort. For my girlfriend, a foot message before the deed, especially after she gets home from work helps the eventual outcome tremendously.

    1. The only real factor in determining if a woman will have an orgasm or not: the degree to which she digs you.

      Not really. Some women get fired up easily. Some take a LOOOOOOONG time. Everyone’s wired differently.

      I mean, dunno about you, maybe you pay for it, but if she doesn’t dig you, why exactly would she be in your bed and letting you lick her?

      1. the degree to which she digs you.

        It’s not a binary switch, dude. Thought I was pretty clear about that.

        1. I got that it’s not a binary thing. I’m saying it isn’t this direct correlation that you say it is.

          I’ve had women who totally dug me, who got soaking wet right away, but took a long time to cum. I’ve had women who weren’t quite as much into me, but went off like a firecracker.

          At best, I’d say it’s a weak correlation.

          If you take long enough, pretty much any woman who will let you have sexual access will cum.

          1. Okay, that gets through my thick skull. I can see that from my own experience. My message for the bros who beat themselves up is, much of it is out of your control beyond just hanging in there.

            1. Bullshit. What about the degree to which you dig her? And the degree to which you’re not trying to force a goddamn orgasm?

              Yeah it’s a paradox, much like women.

              1. You can make it overly complicated if you want to, but that leaves you crying on the pillow wondering what you did wrong. Or, you can just go with it and a time or two you’ll hit that magic spot by accident. Apathy pays either way.

                1. It’s called a clit, not a magic spot. You lick it with your tongue long enough, she’ll generally cum. It’s not rocket science.

                  1. Talking about orgasms accompanied by penetration. Thought it didn’t need to be spelled out given that you are a man and it is expected of you that you bring something extra to the game that her girlfriends can’t. Otherwise what is the point of you being there?

                    1. It’s called a clit, not a magic spot.

                      BTW, why are you conflating the word ‘magical’ with ‘mysterious’? Except to get a cheap shot at my expense. When I hear the word ‘magical, I always here it in Doug Henning’s voice. Magical, wondrous, rainbows, happy place, etc. Those connotations. You imply a lost vase in a temple in the middle of a jungle which is not what I mean.

                    2. Women rarely cum from penetration, because it doesn’t stimulate the clit enough. You generally have to take care of her needs separately from your orgasm.

                      Licking or fingering her pussy is part of being a man and being good at it.

                      A lot of guys have a problem with that, but taking care of her physical needs is a significant part of getting to keep on seeing most women, and keeping them happy.

                    3. Think of it as being a big game hunter; you need the right weapon for the prey your stalking!

                      You don’t go duck hunting with a grenade launcher, do you? NO! You bring the bird rifle, lay down some decoys, grab a duck call, dress appropriately, and get ready to wait for a while.

                      Maybe you get lucky and you bag a duck right away. Maybe you nail a whole flock. Maybe there’s no ducks to be found on the water. Point is, you still wait in the bush until you run out of time. Otherwise, the game warden ain’t gonna give you another hunting license anytime soon.

                      Sure, you CAN go duck hunting with only a grenade launcher but the damn thing is inaccurate as hell and tends to leave a giant mess to clean up. I’ll admit that roaming around the happy hunting grounds and blowing up everything in the woods that creeps, craps, or crawls is fun but it usually ends up disappointing the park rangers.

                      Fuck if those rangers don’t love to gossip about time you tried to sneak in through the back trail without a permit and misfired all over the fucking place!

      2. Some women get fired up easily. Some take a LOOOOOOONG time.

        Yeah, it’s a lot like roasting marshmallows, except you have to wash your groin afterward.

        1. I don’t know how you roast marshmallow in the Tulpa household, but we always wash our groins afterward ’round here. You’ll get bugs if you don’t.

          1. I don’t use the friction method of roasting.

      3. why exactly would she be in your bed and letting you lick her?

        Your Honor, she may have been drunk but she didn’t say no.

        1. The defendant will answer the following question. Did she say:

          “NO! DON’T! STOP!”

          or

          “NO, DON’T STOP!”

          …because there is a WORLD of difference between the two, as your about to find out from your future cellmate/husband!

        2. Is this the Julian Assange thread?

          1. zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz….WTF!!!???

    2. Is Alan about to mention the Welshley Arms hotel? If so, I’m outta here

      1. An SNL reference? Dude, I’m not that depraved.

  8. Female Orgasms? If you are wearing The Jacket aren’t they guaranteed?

  9. Will this be airing during Glee?

    1. I actually LOLed at this

  10. And I care about this why?

    1. Hush! I’m trying to learn something here.

  11. One time, I was sitting back relaxing while sipping a drink at a friend’s apartment. He was passed out, and his teenage daughter was keeping me company by yapping about her frustrated sex life. Now, before I go further I need to make a few things clear, she was of age, and though it was obvious what she was up to, I had no intention of having sex with her. Not because I’m a gentleman, because I’m clearly not. But she was and is still at 28 bat shit crazy. Also, getting her dad pissed if he were to find out was out of the question.

    She tells me that has never had an orgasm in spite of constantly being horny, doing stuff with guys and masturbating several times a day. Yes she said this. Bat shit crazy. She asked me what I thought could help. I give a moment to think about it, and I told her that I didn’t think normal methods or mere concentration on erogenous areas was enough to cause her to have an orgasm (given she is nuts and it was obviously so then as now as she spent last weekend in the county lockup for making threatening phone calls to someone). She asked, well then what would work. I told her, for her it would likely take a combination of public humiliation and auto-erotic asphyxiation. Most ladies would have been insulted at the point, but instead she asked for details.

    1. Bat shit crazy

      Sounds fucking hot.

      1. Crazy good in bed usually requires them to be a bit crazy out of bed, too.

        Had a bipolar GF — she was really crazy good at it. I think it’s a tradeoff — the closer she is to bipolar, the wilder she is in bed, but then she will have trouble functioning elsewhere.

        1. If your with a girl in the sack and you might not seen the sunrise if you aren’t wearing your kevlar…that’s pretty hot!

    2. This is a good story, alan, but I have to say it would be better if you had banged her and then she stalked you.

      “Fatal AlanInTraction”

      1. I’m so tempted to put up a link to her twitter account. It does not disappoint. Nah, could get back to me.

        1. Now you’re just teasing us.

        2. Oh, and who cares about her Twitter account? I want to see her MySpace page. And it will be a MySpace page, because that’s where all the crazy is.

          1. I’m a little scared of her to be honest with you. No doubt, if her name shows up here, she’ll find it.

          2. I just found the Myspace page. It’s pretty good crazy. Give me an email address and I’ll pass it along, if you can promise me not to mention her name on this board. She googles herself a lot. That’s already an established fact.

            1. I like a woman who googles herself a lot

            2. AARGHH! Goddammit, I have to see it, I cannot take this any longer.I have been trying to resist, but this post has been sitting here calling me.

              I figured someone else would take a peek and report back(names & incriminating details redacted), but noooo.

              1. All we had to do was wait for you to crack, dude.

              2. okay, I’m sending you that link. My life is literally in your hands. Also, please don’t post anything over there. Look, but do not touch.

              3. Oh, sorry capitol l, I didn’t see the double request. Coming right up!

            3. I would like a linky too, please.

      2. Don’t put it in the crazy, dude. I learnt it the hard way.

        Well, actually I haven’t learnt it, but that doesn’t mean you can’t.

        1. I wanted alan to do it because then his story would have been more entertaining to me. I would never do it. I have excellent crazydar.

          1. I like the way you think, and would like to subscribe to your advice column.

            1. First entry in my advice column:

              Don’t date rectal.

              1. God’s Buddy told me the same thing. You are indeed wise.

                1. like I’d fuck any of you

                  1. Shut the fuck up, whore. No one gives a shit about your desires.

                    1. Incif means you ignore me stupid

                    2. Seems like a lot of bother to set up. Wouldn’t it be simpler to not read or respond to those who torment you?

                    3. He has a better orgasm when he torments me-to each his own

                    4. Warty, I thought I was going to handle this? Are you going to delegate to me or not?

                    5. Epi, you can’t run your own life-you are the Michael Bay of commenters

                    6. rectal, I find you fascinating. Really. Like a huge dump that I took, and am amazed that I was able to create that out of my body. Basically, I’m saying you’re like a huge dump. 8 Kourics at least.

                    7. Well, it posted under another handle, so I couldn’t help reading it. Its stupidity could not go unanswered. Sorry buddy, it’ll all be ok.

                    8. I can’t help myself little buddy-I see her handle, the blood rushes to my dick, and it hurts till I type cunt cunt cunt
                      …then I cum, and cry for my mommy

                    9. you are so predictable. You always come back. Your father does love your pickled cunt, so there is that.

                      Otherwise – sad, sad, sad. Really.

                    10. And yet you respond anyway. Fascinating.

                    11. Get back to work!

    3. I don’t want to pretend I’m all mature ‘n stuff, but I’ve reached an age, or at least a point in my life, where women who do nothing but blab on about their sex life has become…tiresome.
      Judging by popular television, I am definitely in a minority, but I really wish they would just shut up.

  12. his teenage daughter was keeping me company by yapping about her frustrated sex life. Now, before I go further I need to make a few things clear, she was of age,

    Divide by zero error, this does not compute.

    1. What doesn’t compute, Paul? Even the feds put it at 18 for the purpose of crossing the state lines for sexual intentions. She was either that or 19, but I forget if the event happened in the Fall or Winter, before or after her birthday.

      1. She was either that or 19, but I forget if the event happened in the Fall or Winter, before or after her birthday.

        From the wisdom of Chris Rock: If a woman tells you she’s twenty and looks sixteen, she’s twelve. If she tells you she’s twenty-six and looks twenty-six, she’s damn near fourty

        1. but I forget if the event happened in the Fall or Winter, before or after her birthday.

          If you’re having to guess a girl’s age by the measure of seasons, there’s a high likelihood you’ll end up in jail.

          But don’t let me take away from the story, even if it had a disappointing ending.

          1. I still hang out with her dad and run into her from time to time. I know exactly how old she is. I just couldn’t put a date on when that happened other than the Fall 01 or Winter 02.

            1. That whole story was fucking funny.

              1. Thanks! You should have been around for my porking my lady boss story several months back.

                1. She’s only seven teeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen!!!

                  1. SHE’S!
                    MY!
                    CHERRY!
                    PIE!

                    Taste so good make a grown man cry!

                    SWEET!
                    CHERRY!
                    PIE!

                    1. One of the lamest of the lame songs ever to have somehow become a “hit.”

    2. The age that one is said to be “of” typically occurs somewhere in the teens, leaving other parts of the teens beyond it. Depending on the state, it might occur rather early in the teens, but I doubt it’s after 18 anywhere in the U.S.

    3. 16 and 17 are “of age” in many, many US states.

  13. The comments here have not disappointed.

  14. 18,19?

  15. I don’t remember doing this episode. Then again I don’t remember a lot of things from those days.

  16. If it weren’t for the War on Drugs, most of us would have already found our “G Spot” of optimum attitude adjustment.
    I’m just sayin’.

  17. The only thing worse than Doctors telling you that your sexuality is a problem when you don’t think it is, are documentary film makers telling you that you don’t have a problem when you think you do.

    How about we leave the drug companies to make drugs that do stuff, and we decide for ourselves if we want that stuff done, instead of doctors and film makers deciding what conditions do and do not require treatment?

    1. the pill might not help everyone, but some is better than none. it is true, however, that female sexuality is way, way more complicated than male…

      1. Nah, female sexuality is pretty basic. A clit is basically just a small penis. Unless you’re talking about the mental part of female sexuality, in which case you’re totally right, that can be totally tricky to figure out.

        1. I came a little when I read your licking comment. C’est la vie

    2. The one thing guaranteed to make figuring out your sexuality as awkward and difficult as possible is being unable to draw on the advice and stories of others.

      Doctors and documentarians aren’t forcing anybody to believe or do anything. They are, however, giving them something to think about they probably never would have thought of on their own. Marketplace of ideas, and all that?

      1. “Doctors and documentarians aren’t forcing anybody…”

        Wrongo. Do you think the FDA is insensitive to lobbying efforts of ideological activists?

        The argument is all about force. It determines whether women (or anyone else) will even have the option of asking permission from a deputized government healthcare technology gatekeeper (doctor) to take a pill that may or may not increase their libido.

        Last I heard the manufacturer of flibanserin has given up developing the drug in the face of FDA rejection, so no one, ever, anywhere, will likely ever get to use the drug.

        I’d have no problem with people opposed to a pill on ideological grounds as long as it was left up to each individual to decide whether or not to take the pill. Then you have a marketplace of ideas.

        What we have instead are competing interest groups petitioning our rulers over how our lives will be controlled.

        1. You make a good point, and I share your dismay that flibanserin may never be available for individuals to choose for themselves. However, my post was a response to your prior point about physicians and filmmakers, which made no reference to regulators. As you say, it’s all about force, and only regulators have such force. Although bureaucrats regulating may be a bad thing, I maintain that doctors having opinions and filmmakers having opinions are good things.

        2. Would not the female equivilent of Viagra be a pill that gets her super wet (contact your doctor if drenching lasts more than 4 hours)?

  18. Can we get an alt-text on crazy-eyed orgasmo woman?

  19. The mind is by far the greatest errogenous zone…some people have trouble using it in the bedroom…and in every other area of life in general for that matter these days, lol.

    1. I see Johnny gets her wild on 😉

    2. What’s the ugliest part of your body?
      Some say your toes.
      Some say your nose.
      But I think it’s your mind.

  20. Well-to-do women would visit their doctors to get therapeutically massaged — guess where — by a vibrator. Like men who visit other kinds of professionals, these women had their needs met for a fee, and returned to their normal lives, smiling and relaxed. (Think about that next time you call someone a hysteric.)

    Andrew Sullivan?

  21. This complicated bullshit is exactly why I wouldn’t choose to be straight, if I could.

    1. It’s supposed to be hard. If it wasn’t hard, everyone would do it. The hard… is what makes it great.

    2. You’re probably right. I’ve known gays who sleep around a lot; are in committed relationships; are single and date; have been a dedicated couple for decades; and who married their partner. They all have one thing in common – they get laid a lot more often than me.

      1. And they have a higher chance of getting HIV, and are expected to take a penis in their rectum every other time as well.

        I’ll take straightness, thank you. If women drive me crazy I’ve got an internet connection, my hand, and a jar of Jif.

        1. Tulpa! Just a finger doesn’t make you totally gay-it might make you want to be.

          Seriously, a good prostrate massage prevents cancer

        2. “…and are expected to take a penis in their rectum every other time as well.”

          Huh? Some gay men never take a penis in their rectums. Some aren’t really into anal at all, getting or giving. They might prefer mutual masturbation or oral. Funny, the rigid ideas people have about gay sex.

          1. I think a gay man who doesn’t explore his full sexuality is having issues with it. Trying it and not liking, vs. never experimenting seems odd.

            1. Not to get vulgar but there simply is no greater pleasure for a man than bottoming. I recommend it for open minded straight men ( toys or what not) as a normal orgasm is really just half the potential experience.

              1. most men aren’t ready for it but once they try it….

        3. “and a jar of Jif.”

          You use peanut butter?

    3. So there is no drama in gay relationships? 😉

      1. H&R has drama queens. Am I right Epi- and Sug- and Wart- and Hel-?

        1. are you sure you aren’t Andy Levy?

          1. I’m not him, but my gaydar-sense tingles whenever I read something from Epi- and Sug- and Wart- and Hel-. Their fragile self esteem, their ineffectual rage, their failure at creating and maintaining healthy relationships…it’s textbook narcissist personality disorder.

            1. do tell-I’m having deja vu 😉

      2. Of course, but as it’s two men it’s usually pretty straightforward. Lesbians on the other hand, sheesh.

        1. Of course, but as it’s two men it’s usually pretty straightforward.

          Interesting turn of phrase. (grins)

          Lesbians on the other hand

          Is this not par for the course?

        2. weird, all the lesbians I know are calm, and most of the gay men not

          1. Maybe I’m just traumatized from the two times I’ve been randomly caught in the middle of lesbian fisticuffs.

  22. Hmmm – rectal’s strangely absent from this discussion.

    Probably off getting dry fucked by her brother, in a continued, futile attempt to have an orgasm and to find someone who loves her.

    It’s tragic, really

  23. Is not having an orgasm a common occurrence in women? I have only 1 friend who has never had one. She’s drop dead gorgeous but just not a sexual person. I recommended all types of toys and tricks but she just doesn’t care enough to bother.
    But all my other friends, all of which are in their early 30s, have more orgasms now than ever. They’re in their prime and are game for taking care of themselves as needed. I’m betting the women in the article that were treated for “hysteria” were in their late 20s early 30s.

    1. I think it’s fairly common in women who won’t learn to do it themselves, and have husbands or lovers who don’t know what they’re doing.

      It’s not just orgasms, though, the problem is usually a lack of desire as women get older. Take that same survey among your friends in 10 years and you’ll see.

      1. Crap. Posted in the wrong place. See below 🙂

    2. From the Mayo Clinic website:

      “Anorgasmia is the medical term for regular difficulty reaching orgasm after ample sexual stimulation, causing you personal distress. Anorgasmia is actually a very common occurrence, affecting at least 1 in 5 women worldwide.

      Orgasms vary in intensity, and women vary in the frequency of their orgasms and the amount of stimulation necessary to trigger an orgasm. In fact, fewer than a third of women consistently have orgasms with sexual activity. Plus, orgasms often change with age, medical issues or medications you’re taking.”

  24. I guess I can see that. Women that don’t know how to get themselves off can’t instruct their lovers on how to do it either. It’s just such a friggin waste!

    So, what should I expect to find in 10 years? Lack of desire or some desire but an inability to get off? I find both scenarios to be depressing, really.

    1. My last girlfriend had never masturbated. Her answer to what turned her on was “I don’t know.” I’m very flexible in what I’m willing to do to please a girl, but she’s got to have some idea what works.

      1. My last girlfriend had never masturbated. Her answer to what turned her on was “I don’t know.” I’m very flexible in what I’m willing to do to please a girl, but she’s got to have some idea what works.

        It’s really not her job to figure out how you are going to please her. Watch some porn, see how it’s done, then do it to her. Surprise her with your proficiency.

        Oh, and watch REEEEEALLY vanilla porn. No anal or midgets or trampolines (list not exhaustive.)

        1. The best porn is femdom porn. However, exposing her to that could make her switch teams.

        2. Porn? Yeah, think how much she’ll be loving it when you come all over her face. Instant orgasm, no doubt.

          1. Porn has its uses. It can be pretty stimulating if you’re watching the stuff that works for you. And, watching porn does not equate to allowing your partner to come on your face.

            1. Watch some porn, see how it’s done, then do it to her.

        3. “It’s really not her job to figure out how you are going to please her.”

          That’s like saying it’s a bartender’s job to figure out what kind of new beer a customer would like without asking.

          1. Sorry, bub. It’s the same as with birthday presents.

            “If you really loved me, you would know without asking!”

            1. I get what you’re saying Tulp. I think everyone’s been there at least once, but in that scenario your best bet is to get your rocks off and not worry about hers/his. Despite Cosmo’ and Seventeen’s advice columns, no one’s going to explore your sexuality for you, nor should you expect them to.

              1. Tulpa’s was good but meant that score for Sy’s post.

              2. Yea – if she doesn’t tell you what she likes then she shouldn’t be disappointed if she doesn’t get off. The same philosophy applies to bday & Christmas presents.

                1. Another 1,000 to Sy. I have no respect for women (or men) who refuse to figure out what they want for themselves, in bed or otherwise. And people who just expect you to know what they want (regarding presents) are usually the type who play mind games. Pass!

          2. What I love about threads with subject matters like this is that it reveals who the anti-bros are. Those who you can’t trust on an excursion at the bar scene because he will be trying to gain advantage at your expense.

            Emasculating shrew yesmen are despicable.

            1. Absolutely. Nothing is more poisoning to a scoring attempt than the token self-hating, cock-blocking guy friend.

            2. Absolutely. Nothing is more poisoning to a scoring attempt than the token self-hating, cock-blocking guy friend.

            3. Perhaps this might shed light on this phenomenon:

              It ushered in the 1960s sexual revolution and gave women control over their own fertility.

              But the Pill may also have changed women’s taste in men, according to a study.

              Scientists say the hormones in the oral contraceptive suppress a woman’s interest in masculine men and make boyish men more attractive. Although the change occurs for just a few days each month, it may have been highly influential since use of the Pill began more than 40 years ago.

              This might explain many a mystery…or perhaps add to it. (wink)

              1. Women are attracted to dominant men during ovulation

                This scientific study sucks but I’ve read this conclusion elsewhere. What’s interesting is that the Pill is just counteracting those few days of ovulation when women are attracted to dominant men (I guess this means masculine men).

                1. That would explain much. I’ve met younger girls and older women who have told me on separate occasions BOTH things. Tuesday night – “I’m not into big muscle heads.”

                  Friday night – “Oooh I like your arms and chest. You must work out a lot.”

                2. That would explain much. I’ve met younger girls and older women who have told me on separate occasions BOTH things. Tuesday night – “I’m not into big muscle heads.”

                  Friday night – “Oooh I like your arms and chest. You must work out a lot.”

          3. At least say “I’m into hoppy beers.”

        4. If I’m not ass-fucking a midget mid-bounce, I don’t even consider it to be sex.

      2. Was she fairly young? I didn’t discover masturbation until I was in my early 20s. It was around that time my boyfriend didn’t need it as often as I did. Lucky for me I discovered I was able to take things into my own hands 🙂

        1. 23

    2. Lowered desire, not usually a total lack, though that does happen too.

  25. In Search of Female Orgasms

    85 comments, have any of you boys found it yet?
    I think I had my first laughing orgasm reading the ‘expert advice’

    -Alan, shoot yourself

    1. My expert advice can be summed up as this: don’t take the blame for her short comings (ha! ha! ha!), and don’t let her even try to put it on you.

      Don’t like it, shove off.

      Thanks for the response though. It is typical of the ladies who get weak in the knees over me but know they can’t have me.

      1. the goal is to make a gal weak in the crotch-good luck with your fetish 😉

        1. You got me there. Love a well toned set of legs (Kim Clijsters – g-rowl). Don’t get feet fetishes though. They’re just feet.

        2. Or, omg, Lorena Ochoa. I’ve seen those stems with my own eyes. Incredible.

      2. …don’t take the blame for her short comings

        Agreed. And, my advice for women who don’t get off before your man does -> don’t get mad or frustrated just ask him to help you finish the deal.

  26. Something else is that it’s highly cultural. Here in Japan something like 15% of people are satisfied, only a third have sex on a weekly basis or more, and only 10% of women manage to reach orgasm. I’d say around half the Japanese girls I know in relationships (which even then is iffy, since dating is far less common) consider sex painful and only do it to please their boyfriends or husbands. Feel sorry for those folks.

    I blame men being creepy as fuck.

    1. Sailors use to have those; I think they are called ‘Dutch Wives’

    2. That’s why the Japanese are a generation ahead of the rest of the world in the development of gynoids.

    3. Something about the cry-gasms in Japanese porn… Delishus.

    4. That’s why the Japanese are going to have a demographic shortfall in a few decades. Their porn doesn’t help educate them, either.

      /Japanese accent/
      “I don’t know; I mean, I tied her up, shit on her face, and she’s still not pregnant. I have no idea what I’m doing wrong here.”

  27. I have heard people say that the only reason such a pill doesn’t exist is that men are preventing it.

    So men…don’t want a pill that makes women horny? And this is a popular notion?

    1. A supposed plot by “the patriarchy?” Seems a little nuts to me.

      1. It’s more of a plot by an inefficient bureaucracy (run by a female BTW).

    2. I don’t subscribe to the theory, but the traditional “patriarchy” does indeed have an interest in damping down female sexuality. A woman who views sex as a chore and a duty is less likely to cheat on her husband.

      1. Yeah, let me know when that’s a problem in the western world again..

      2. A woman who views sex as a chore and a duty is less likely to cheat on her husband.

        A man married to a woman like that is vastly more likely to go looking for someone else who is good in bed.

        I would never marry, or stay married to, a woman who viewed sex that way.

      3. Most guys I know prefer a girl that likes to have sex. Maybe it’s a generational thing though but I still don’t see the 21st century man trying to keep the female orgasm down.

  28. For another view

  29. Somehow the comments aren’t half the clusterfuck I expected them to be.

  30. Can we get another article on circumcision? Male circumcision?

    Cause that REALLY brought out the troops. Start talking about a boy’s penis, and it’s allllllllll personal then….

    1. The three things that are missing at Reason
      1. abortion
      2. saving Cleveland
      3. Epi admitting he’s a virgin

  31. I’ve never been with a woman. There, I said it.

    1. comment confession of the day

    2. I’ve never been with a woman.

      That’s not the same thing as being a virgin.

      1. Yuk, he’s into sheep

  32. OK, Cole, this was a cheap shot. And I could not read beyond the first 10 comments.

  33. Control of one’s body in this area really is glib. The idea of chastity having the body in the soul’s keeping should mean that desire comes from the soul.

  34. The problem with Good Vibrations is that they support gun control through gun “buy back” programs which are the perfect way for criminals to get rid of stolen guns.

    So listen up, ladies, I don’t care what you put in your vaginas, put in a vibrator, banana, Diet Coke, I don’t care, but don’t FUCK with my freedom, got it?

    You keep your vibrators and I’m keeping my Second Amendment. And if someone steals my gun, I want it back!

    Columbia University students heckle war hero.
    http://libertarians4freedom.bl…..-hate.html

  35. The problem with Good Vibrations is that they support gun control through gun “buy back” programs which are the perfect way for criminals to get rid of stolen guns.

    Many cities have frequent “gun amnesty” days where people can “dispose” of unregistered firearms. And perhaps you have heard of pawn shops and gun shows?

    For a male Mr. Smith, you seem very “hysterical.” Perhaps an orgasm might calm you down. Or a xanax enema.

    And blogwhoring is very poor form. Douche.

    1. Tell me, DNS, do you make any money posting comments here? Because I do. So you see, I’d rather be a rich blogwhore than a poor blogslut like you.

      As for the “gun amnesty” days, tell me something, do we have amnesty days for any other legal products? Why not Rolex amnesty days or iPad amnesty days, or is guns the only thing the liberals in society want to get rid of?

      COLUMBIA UNIVERSITY STUDENTS HECKLE WAR HERO.
      http://libertarians4freedom.bl…..-hate.html

      1. So you see, I’d rather be a rich blogwhore than a poor blogslut like you.

        Polish those pennies to a glossy shine, rent-seeking blogwhore. And I am independently wealthy, so I don’t have to worry about whether any posts or links generate revenue. Douche.

        1. Well, if you’re independently wealthy why aren’t you on vacation instead of blogging here everyday?

          Whatever you trust fund baby.

          1. kids, kids! please, settle down. you’re both fucking ridiculous in your own special ways!

  36. been married for 7 years and honestly for the long years excitement has been long gone

  37. We carry a really cool couples toy for the female orgasm it sells out in our retail store. It’s the Lelo Tiani has anyone tried it or one like it?

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