As Humans and as a Society: "Grieve First, Then Make Decisions."

Jon Caldara of Colorado's Independence Institute has powerful advice for the country in the wake of the Sandy Hook School shooting. Here are sections:

I lost my daughter Parker, my only child at the time, to cancer just days before her first birthday. I cannot express the pure terror of that experience. The reality of shopping for a coffin and choosing a burial plot for your only child is a horror that is thankfully rare in modern America....

I have learned something of grief, and the long, slow process it takes. Fortunately, there were many dear friends, family, and professionals to help me steer my way through it. Grief may be delayed somewhat, but it never can be avoided. And it is a bitch....

[My counselor] insisted I wasn’t to allow the pain and madness drive a decision that would be hard or impossible to undo if it was wrong.

Grieve first, then make decisions — not the other way around....

I fear that we, collectively, are not wise enough to take this advice today. And we so need to. In the immediate pain and madness of this crime, the desire to do something, something big, something different, is nearly overwhelming, uncontrollable.

Read the whole thing.

Caldara is right about grieving and decision-making.

In the political arena, the 21st century has been marked by a series of major hurry-up decisions, ranging from passing The Patriot Act in the wake of the 9/11 attacks to the rush into war into Iraq to the mad delirium surrounding the need to pass what became TARP. None of these things has worked out well and it's unlikely that immediate wide-ranging action on guns, mental health programs, video games, education policy, and more will turn out any better.

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    In the political arena, the 21st century has been marked by a series of major hurry-up decisions, ranging from passing The Patriot Act in the wake of the 9/11 attacks to the rush into war into Iraq to the mad delirium surrounding the need to pass what became TARP.

    I made this same point to some people regarding their insistence on needing stricter gun control. Laws are supposed to be made after careful deliberation, not as arbitrary reactions to tragic events. (See also: Matthew Shepard Hate Crimes Act.)

  • Fist of Etiquette||

    But without knee-jerk, feelings-based decision making, our liberty wouldn't currently be wrapped in the warm safety blanket of that Patriot Act. Who could argue with that, especially now that Obama is in charge of its uses?

  • RBS||

    Listen, you don't get to be Time Magazine's Person of the Year by carefully deliberating before you act.

  • Whiterun Guard||

    NOBEL PEACE PRIZE WINNING Time Magazine's Person of the Year (PBUH) you racist.

  • RBS||

    And I didn't even name my first born son after him.

  • ||

    Wait who won Person of the Year? (too lazy to google; please reward my laziness in this New Obama World)

  • RBS||

    El Presidente, he beat out Tim Cook and that girl the Taliban tried to kill.

  • some guy||

    I thought 4Chan was going to get Kim Jong Un selected...

  • Agile Cyborg||

    Yes, because we surely don't need to embolden and empower even more so this cauldron of scum: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/new.....-tape.html

  • Tim||

    It seems they've released a very damning report about the LIbya attack. Between the massacre and Christmas/New Year's they must figure the time is ripe.

    "An independent panel's sharply critical report on the Sept. 11 attacks on the Benghazi consulate blames "systemic failures and leadership and management deficiencies within two bureaus of the State Department" for the post's inability to defend itself. "

    http://worldnews.nbcnews.com/_.....tment?lite

  • Ptah-Hotep||

    "systemic failures and leadership and management deficiencies

    Thy name is government.

  • Whiterun Guard||

    I get paid to LEAD, not to GRIEVE.

  • Drake||

    But if I wait, I won't still be mad.

  • ||

    haha, it's funny because it's true :(

  • GroundTruth||

    The point is well taken, but here is another: We need to stop wallowing in grief and stop being a society of perpetual mourning! It is disrespectful to the deceased, to our Nation and to ourselves to continually and solely focus on our losses.

    As a professor of mine said, many years ago upon learning of the tragic death of a fellow student "In the midst of life, there is death."

    Mourn, respectfully, but then get on with life!

  • Ptah-Hotep||

    We need to stop wallowing in grief and stop being a society of perpetual mourning!

    Agree. I can't tell you how many times I drive by a post office or some other gov building and the flags are at half-staff. I always have to ask my wife "who died now?" Pathetic if you ask me.

  • some guy||

    Agreed. We turn every local tragedy into a national (or international) tragedy. This massacre doesn't really effect anyone outside of Connecticut. The media should just report the facts (after vetting them, not before) and then get the hell out of town. Let the people grieve in peace while the rest of us continue with our lives.

  • waaminn||

    All I know is that had ONE person in that school had a weapon, lives would have been saved! Period!

    www.PrivacyUSA.tk

  • some guy||

    Yep. When only one person in the room has a gun, everyone is at his mercy. This is what happens when that person has no mercy.

  • CatoTheElder||

    Most "decisions" were made well before the shooting rampage.

    The ruling elites do not like people to possess firearms. They were just waiting for the right moment for a media deluge to sway public opinion.

    Freedom entails risk and responsibility. Americans are increasingly averse to all three, and want the nanny-state to sing a lullaby.

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