"Strangers on the Internet" Podcast Episode 26: A Jeopardy Champion Seeking Answers

Mystery man "Nick" discusses the challenges of dating as a politically moderate Asian-American individual in our day and age

The twenty-sixth episode (Apple Podcasts link here and Spotify link here) of Strangers on the Internet with co-host and psychologist Michelle Lange has us talking to Nick (a pseudonym), a Jeopardy champion in his late 30s whose work has taken him from academia to the policy world.

Originally from NYC, he has tried his luck at dating all across the country and abroad. Nick talks about the difficulties with finding a significant other who shares his interests and values, as well as with staving off his family's old-fashioned requirements for his future partner.

Does Nick think that his identity as an Asian-American man has led to being stereotyped and devalued on dating apps (including via not receiving a right-swipe from even one woman during a stay in Denver)? Would he have an easier time if he earned more money, or if he didn't label himself politically moderate? Come hear about this brainy dater's quest for love!

Comments

[Frank Drackman]

As "The Great One" (Wayne Gretzky, not Jackie Gleason" said about whether "Bo (Jackson) knows Hockey??"

"No"

Frank

[Dr. Ed 2]

Like looking at a gristly car crash...

[santamonica811]

Typo? Grisly, I get. Gristly brings up an entirely different visual image.

[Dr. Ed 2]

Interesting. The Cambridge Dictionary gives two examples of Gristly meaning Grisly, and I've always heard/seen/used Gristly in that sense. I wonder if it is an Old English or British usage because Maine retained a lot of that.

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/gristly

[John F. Carr]

"Does Nick think that his identity as an Asian-American man has led to being stereotyped"

I recall reading that Asian or part Asian men are considered less attractive. If that's right stereotypes don't matter.

[Ed Grinberg]

No, you see, Mary, it isn’t that you “don’t like him,” it’s just that you’ve fallen prey to an invidious stereotype about Asian men not being attractive! You need to get over that!
(As if this wasn’t crazy enough, apparently “trans activists” use this logic to try to convince (shame!) people into disregarding the prospective sexual partner’s biological sex. When they encounter resistance, they scream “Bigot!!!” Too funny…)

[Dr. Ed 2]

"As if this wasn’t crazy enough, apparently “trans activists” use this logic to try to convince (shame!) people into disregarding the prospective sexual partner’s biological sex."

It's actually worse than that, and I consider it a form of rape.

They pretend to be women, act like women, and then when the guy discovers the penis, he freaks and often strikes out violently.

Well, if you have sex with a woman under false terms, e.g. pretending to be her boyfriend, that's rape and I know of a case at UMass where a guy was charged with rape because he said "I love you" afterwards and her actual boyfriend never said that, and hence she knew it wasn't him.

The rationale was that she wouldn't have consented to the sex if she had known who he actually was -- and I argue that the same thing applies to trannies. If you wouldn't have agreed to the physical activities had you known that she actually was a biological he, then it's non-consensual under the same theory.

No, I don't think that trannies should be murdered -- nor do I think that rapists should be murdered either -- and knowledgeable consent should be knowledgeable consent.

[Rev. Arthur L. Kirkland]

How desperate and thirsty must Prof. Manta be, after reading the comments (and the Volokh Conspiracy in general), to continue to write this content for this audience at this blog?

The loneliness of the female clinger . . .