Denial: 25 Years Without a Soul - Q/A with Jonathan Rauch
"I felt I was a monster incapable of love," says Jonathan Rauch, author of moving new memoir, Denial: My 25 Years Without a Soul. "Love to me would have to mean love for a man."
Rauch, an award-winning journalist, guest scholar at the Brookings Institution, and Reason contributor, recounts his intense and confusing struggles coming of age as a homosexual in 1970s' America. Trapped with the knowledge he was different, Rauch convinced himself that he would never find love or get married since either would require acknowledging his sexual preference. The result, writes Reason's Nick Gillespie at Amazon, is "one of the best essays on adolescence, sexuality, and love imaginable" and an absolutely compelling tour through the past 50 years of changing mores and attitudes toward the varieties of human experience.
"When I showed [Denial] to people, especially straight people," says Rauch, "they said again and again, 'I lived through a version of that.'"
Gillespie sat down with Rauch to talk about Denial, his first crush and sexual awakening, and his eventual marriage.
Denial is available as a Kindle single e-book at Amazon and elsewhere. It is published by The Atlantic, whose whole slate of e-books is online here.
About 10 minutes.
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"one of the best essays on adolescence, sexuality, and love imaginable"
I'll pass.
If you feel that way, I guess I won't have to send you a copy of my erotic memoirs when they are finished.
Phew ... I mean, darn!
I already read them.
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What was once 'the love that could not sdpeak its name, has become "the love that wont shut the fuck up"
That was back when he used to vote for the Libertarian party.
I thought that was his forthcoming memoir on bestiality "No Dog, No Life"
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Denial: My 25 Years Without a Soul
I too have denied my feelings for Satan for too long. Well, that ends here! Lucifer, I love you!
Look, I respect Lucifersexuals just as much as anyone else, but I wish they didn't have to be so in your face about it. Can't you wait until after you're in the privacy of your own home to start tonguing the pentagram*?
*I really hope that "tonguing the pentagram" is innuendo for something.
Look, we're here, we're maleficent, get used to it!
It's not that I hate Lucifer, it's just that I think that marriage should be between a man, and another corporeal being. Does that make me a bigot?
I was all for SSM (Sexy Satan Marriage) until I found out the real agenda behind it.
I'm not a Lucifersexual, OK! I might have done a few things with the Prince of the Air on the side, but my girlfriend was cool with it!
Obviously. And probably a racist too.
I guess that would explain the white hood in my closet...
It's like this: you can have apple pie, or brimstone pie, but you can't call a brimstone pie an apple pie without unduly changing the meaning of words.
That's a painful place to put a tattoo.
Just wait till you see where I had the pentagram tattooed.
Damn it sarc didn't we go over this at the writers meeting.....fish gets to make the rectal tattoo joke.
Rectal?
I was assuming "taint."
That's probably easier for the tat artist.
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"Tipping the velvet" is...
I, for one, am disgusted by this sloppy conflation of Satan and Lucifer. They are totally two different dudes! FIGURE IT OUT.
I smell a threesome slashfic in the works.
Puts a whole new meaning to "Get thee behind me, Satan!"
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So it took him 25 years to discover his inner Gay Magical Elf?
25 years without a soul? Because people didn't like him? Because they called him names or said he was different.WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
Science, H. Logic, there is simply no end to the shame/pride of being different.
"While rejoicing in my uniqueness, I suffered terrible depression for being different"?
Sticks and fucking stones. Sticks and stones can break my bones but naughty, naughty words REALLY hurt me?
He looks like he smells of camphor and talc.
There's a Tobias Funke joke in there somewhere.
For there is a man inside me. And only when he is out can I walk free from pain!
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Fuck them sideways.
This got me thinking: Isn't being able to do what you want to do the greatest thing about becoming an adult? Like sucks when you're an outcast teenager, but outcast teenagers, with the right amount of focus, can become extraordinary adults.
I don't think I will ever step foot in my old high school ever again.
"Life sucks"
Ergo the crux of this tome. Life sucks when you suck.
Oh grow up you fucking emo.
I'd reply "blow me", but why reward you.
The worst part about being an outcast teenager is it makes you seek writing jobs from The Atlantic.
They need guidance.
The result, writes Reason's Nick Gillespie at Amazon, is "one of the best essays on adolescence, sexuality, and love imaginable"
This month's selection of the Cosmotarian Book-of-the-Month-Club.
Did he marry and have trouble buying flowers and a cake? It would put a nice finish on my day to learn that this happened.
"Destination for your love" could make a darn fine club hit. In any case, hearing it made me think of this song immediately.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5qPQ-b-pWdQ
I found this essay to be very intense and moving. I recommend it.