June 24, 2008
At the Los Angeles Times, Senior Editor Kerry Howley talks teen pregnancy and family values with the Manhattan Institute's Kay Hymowitz.
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Gloucester story squares with much of what we know about the
motivations driving young single motherhood.
Of course, the Gloucester story is beginning not to square with
itself. This is not a criticism of Howley, but the herd mentality
of today's media. And especially their rush to make a trend out of
an anecdote.
On of the pregnant girls claims that the pact wasn't to get
pregnant but rather that the girls made a pact to help each other
out.
She thinks the large number of pregnancies is a statistical
anomaly. Oh, and because the school didn't give out contraceptives
as presents.
Wow.
Teenage mothers and their children starving in the streets along
with easily available birth control would drive teen pregnancies
down to 0%.
Either that or before/after shots of breasts and birth
organs.
Won't somebody think of the children!
From the article:
So how do we explain the Gloucester pregnancy pact, the agreement by a group of 15- and 16-year-olds at a Massachusetts high school to get pregnant and raise their children together?
The existence of such a pact has yet to be substantiated.
From tarran:
She thinks the large number of pregnancies is a statistical anomaly. Oh, and because the school didn't give out contraceptives as presents.
I saw her on NECN this morning. She came off as your typical
teenager. Quick to blame everyone else.
But I do agree with her on making contraception available in
school. Not because of her reasoning (OMG, buying condoms at CVS is
soooooo embarrassing!), but because any effort to prod generally
irresponsible children to be somewhat responsible is a good effort.
I just don't buy into the "condoms encourage teen sex!" meme.
While unfortunate, Kerry, a lot of people are going to read what you wrote to mean that we need more funding for public school programs to encourrage girls to persue science (because everybody loves science) and more affirmative action programs.
I just want to know what the guys at the school are thinking. They probably went from "damn, the girls are putting out unusually much this year" to "OH SHIT NOES I MIGHT BE A DAD".
Here's another Reason hack about town. I guess the twenty times that story was featured here got to be too much so it was sent to the lefty addition.
I'm still trying to figure out what Kay Hymowitz was going for.
She spent 4&1/2 paragraphs before she got to what, I assume
from the title, was her central point. Then wrote...
The teens no longer felt the need to be married to their kids' fathers. Experts may have been right that teens are too young to raise children in our complex economy, but boy, were they wrong when they decided to ignore fathers!
It might have been nice if she'd bothered to argue about why.
It might have been nice if she'd bothered to argue about
why
Uh, hello? Because two parent families are the way we've been doing
procreation for the last ten thousand years and its the only right
way to do it?
Because two parent families are the way we've been doing
procreation for the last ten thousand years and its the only right
way to do it?
That's right, Hugh! Millenia of tradition is the very best way to
figure out the "right" course of action. That's why I enjoy
worshiping the sun, ignoring hygiene, attacking strangers, and
raping women!
"It's the much more difficult task of persuading young women to
hope for something bigger and better."
Ummm . . . poor wording.
besides that overlooks all the other "non-traditional" familial
arrangements you find looking back at, uh, tradition.
particularly the habits of the ruling class. for some reason a lot
of those guys would have multiple wives and mistresses. hmmm.
truly a mystery.
If one parent is bad, and two parents are good, wouldn't 3 or 4
or 5 parent be even better?
Why stand in the way of group marriage? I4TC!
Age - in and of itself is not the issue. For most of human history, 16 year olds' getting pregnant was not unusual or even frowned upon. The issue is the ability of this mother to care for the baby. Traditionally this has meant having a mate who was somehow able to put food on the table while the mother made sure the baby was not eaten by saber toothed tigers or burned by the fire that warmed the cave. Today, teenagers are discouraged from venturing out on their own into the jungle and forming families of their own. I am skeptical about how natural or wise this is. Our bodies tell us that we are still upper Paleolithic hunter gatherers. Perhaps it is time that society recognizes this fact.
I wonder if there will be charges for the sperm donors involved with the girls that were 15 at the time of fertilization. The age of consent in Ma. is 16 isn't it? I see a rash of new registrations for sex offender status in the future.
I agree that it would be interesting to see some opinions on why
fathers are important.
Following up on the ruling elite having lots of misstressess and
illegitimate offspring...it does explain why many of the ruling
elite are now kinda psychopathetic pedophilish, torture supporters.
Fatherless kids are bastards literally, and the correlation between
being a bastard and being a first class piece of trash is too high
to ignore...and I do feel sorry for the bastards, it usually isn't
their fault.
"I wonder if there will be charges for the sperm donors involved
with the girls that were 15 at the time of fertilization. The age
of consent in Ma. is 16 isn't it? I see a rash of new registrations
for sex offender status in the future."
What happens if a homeless man is a sex offender? He is required to
register his place of residence is he not? How will he do that?
sugar free....the problem is that teh parents who have half their genes embedded in the kids are more likely to give a crap about nurturing the kinds...the stepfather and stepmom are a little more likely to slap the kid around too much and restrict resources in a way that inhibits intellectual and physical development.
I still wonder why we make pariahs out of women, no matter what their age, who choose to have children and raise them alone, and yet raise to near-heroine status those who were married to the child(ren)'s father yet found themselves in a single-parent situation due to death or abandonment...
"sugar free....the problem is that teh parents who have half
their genes embedded in the kids are more likely to give a crap
about nurturing the kinds...the stepfather and stepmom are a little
more likely to slap the kid around too much and restrict resources
in a way that inhibits intellectual and physical
development."
The paradigm you are describing is of a parent who divorced and
married another spouse. The new spouse may favor his own genetic
offspring over the offspring of the now ex-spouse. What I think
Sugarfree is describing (correct me if I am wrong Sugarfree) is
polyammory. Ideally, in such an environment the child would have
loving support from all parents involved and their would be mutual
cooperation.
"I still wonder why we make pariahs out of women, no matter what
their age, who choose to have children and raise them alone, and
yet raise to near-heroine status those who were married to the
child(ren)'s father yet found themselves in a single-parent
situation due to death or abandonment..."
The first case is a choice the second case is (usually) not.
Longer ironic:
Because carrying on after disaster strikes your family is kind of
the exact opposite making a monumentally stupid and (generally)
selfish decision?
Ironic: agreed. Yet the fact remains that there are many
children being raised in single-parent situations, but society
makes a distinction that one is somehow a "better" single-parent
situation than another.
If this pact was, as I suspect, one where the girls intended to be
each others support network (rather than a pact to deliberately get
pregnant), three cheers for them to do what others might not do
(because they are unwed teen mothers) in the face of the needs of
their children.
"Because carrying on after disaster strikes your family is kind
of the exact opposite making a monumentally stupid and (generally)
selfish decision?"
Very true indeed. I should have added that.
"Ironic: agreed. Yet the fact remains that there are many
children being raised in single-parent situations, but society
makes a distinction that one is somehow a "better" single-parent
situation than another."
Better is not the word I would use. Less of a stigma for the mother
is how I would describe it.
"If this pact was, as I suspect, one where the girls intended to be
each others support network (rather than a pact to deliberately get
pregnant), three cheers for them to do what others might not do
(because they are unwed teen mothers) in the face of the needs of
their children."
OK, this might work for the first few months but a bunch of women
who are all 8 months pregnant? Umm - who is going to go to the
store for pickes and ice cream? Who is going to drive who to the
hospital?
"(rather than a pact to deliberately get pregnant)"
OK I just reread this. Sorry strike the second part of what I
said.
That assumes that they could all time their pregnancies in
perfect syncope. They would all have to live together for a few
months to get their menstrual cycles in sync, then have sex at
roughly the same time of the month, assuming their ovulation
schedule is also perfectly synched, and that none of their
pregnancies had complications, or a history of preterm birth did
not exist in any of their families, or that a C-section was not
indicated for any of the pregnancies.
I guess you are trying to be cheeky. But I think that while the
plan is a bit naive in general (and we are talking about teens who
generally want to be grown up but lack insight into what being
fully grown up means), it is not altogether misguided in its intent
to provide support where none might otherwise be found.
I think it falls rather in line with libertarian do-it-yourself
idealism. Don't depend on others or the goverment; let private
community provide the charity care when needed.
"OK I just reread this. Sorry strike the second part of what I
said"
so stricken
"What I think Sugarfree is describing (correct me if I am wrong
Sugarfree) is polyammory. Ideally, in such an environment the child
would have loving support from all parents involved and their would
be mutual cooperation."
I can see some instances where polyammory could have some big
benefits....say two-dads and two-moms...a couple of full time
incomes and maybe one part time income...all sharing the costs of
one mortgage...more ability to shift work schedules to keep one or
two parents home at all times. fun sex parties etc
drawbacks involve less shared history and or less ability to
relocate quickly ...All I know is have more experience seeing how
two parents can manage a family, more knowledge about common
pitfalls to avoid in two-parent families...and therefore I'm more
likely to stick with two parent family right now. It is easy to see
how my children will probably decide to go that route as
well.
If you think in evolutionary terms, it seems the two parent
families kicked the asses of the four parent polyammorous families
so I guess I stick with the winning formula. Amongst "successful"
friends it is almost gauranteed that they were raised by two
parents.
Ironic,
Yes, group marriage / polyamory et al. If more parents are better,
then do it for the children.
Way to invalidate millions of adoptive parents there, Gabe.
Children are better off with the people who want them and don't
want to cause them harm, be those people biological parents,
adoptive parent (gay or straight), or even a polyamorus / group
marriage. Just because any idiot can stick his dick in another
idiot so that she can squat out a kid 9 months later has no bearing
on their aptitude as parents, singly or together.
That being said, if they actually set out to be a gang of teenage
single mothers, they are probably morons and shouldn't be having
children in the first place. The public assistance side of the
equation is more troubling to me than the pact aspect. And the
"school didn't give them condoms, wah!" argument is stupid too.
Pregnancy is shockingly easy in our society to avoid.
Anyone dumb enough not to keep from getting pregnant by accident is
probably too dumb to raise a functional member of society.
We need more funding for public school programs to encourrage
girls to persue science (because everybody loves science) and more
affirmative action programs.
Please initiate a federal program at once!
This is more proof that private schools are destroying the
American youth. I bet their teen pregnancy rates are nowhere near
as high as in public schools.
This is the perfect time to beging a school nationalization
campaign.
This is the perfect time to beging
banging a school nationalization
campaign.
Fixed ;)
"Way to invalidate millions of adoptive parents there,
Gabe."
SugarFree, I said that parents with genetic incentives are MORE
LIKELY to care for their kids well. This doesn't mean that adults
pre-screened by a third party for their desire and ability to care
for children will be bad parents...jeez, way to jump to
conclusions. As a prospective adoptive parent and current regular
parent, you come off as someone who would be quick to beat their
children for drinking "devil juice flavored capree suns"
you come off as someone who would be quick to beat their
children
That's fair. You come off as a retard dumbass Christian fuckhead.
But then we are just talking perceptions here, right?
"I agree that it would be interesting to see some opinions on
why fathers are important."
Perceived strength/security.
I was engaged for several months to a woman with the most
delightfully bright and charming 10-year-old daughter. During that
period, when she would be confronted by a bully at school, she
would back up her anti-bully position with, "My dad says..." even
if it was something said by her mother rather than me.
And having coached young women and girls from all across the globe,
I have come to realize that kids have a much more accurate and
innate grasp of gender than adults do.
I miss you every waking moment Matilda. And also in dreams.
"As a prospective adoptive parent and current regular parent,
you come off as someone who would be quick to beat their children
for drinking "devil juice flavored capree suns"
As someone who makes a distinction between "adoptive" and "regular"
parents, you come off as Gene Hackman in The Royal Tennenbaums.
I agree that it would be interesting to see some opinions on
why fathers are important.
Personally, I find it kind of offensive to put the burden of proof
on fathers. Lets hear someone explain why fathers aren't important,
first.
I can't get into the head of a 16-year old who brightens up when she hears she is about to spend 9 months with a tiny human in her uterus, but a passing familiarity with the data should indicate the teen pregnancy is something one aspires to when few other opportunities abound. As you rightly suggest, the answer to this is not yet another health class demonstration involving Trojans and bananas. It's the much more difficult task of persuading young women to hope for something bigger and better.
Who is this that is going to try to "persuate" young women to
hope for something "bigger and better"? Who are you to tell them
that "something" is bigger and better than having a kid?
As someone else said, teen pregnancy used to be (in the
not-so-distant past) normal. If you are going to persuade young
women (as a group) that something that used to be normal should be
set aside for something allegedly bigger and better, you are trying
to swim upstream. The problem as I see it, is that these young
women no longer really have an option that used to be normal,
getting married in their teens. Since they don't have this option,
they act out in a way that seems bizarre and self-destructive to
you.
I have a theory - maybe the town of Gloucester is economically depressed because the people who live there are stupid.
"Who is this that is going to try to "persuate" young women to
hope for something "bigger and better"?"
No worry. I gots it covered.
As usual, the comments are way off into the deep end of a bunch
of bullshit over-analysis.
WTF does polyamory, Christianity, or adoptive parents have to do
with it?
Anyone who isn't grown up enough to buck up and buy condoms at the
drugstore isn't grown up enough to be screwing around. Kids need to
realize they're just dumb shits for a while, instead of expecting
to have it all just because they're humans just like adults are, or
that they're special because they're more enlightened than the
adults are since they're not old and stuck in nineties.
Very few high school girls of today can be called a "woman". They
don't have the mental maturity to be called a woman yet.
My upper Paleolithic hunter/gatherer nature also tells me to club
and beat the shit out of anyone who pisses me off. Should society
start recognizing that too?
They're just a bunch of ignorant, trashy girls who think it's cool
to get knocked up and drag a baby around like celebrities do and
weren't taught any better. They're parents have to take
responsibility for it now. There isn't a political or government
stance to be discussed about it. It's a personal deficiency that
society is not responsible for, but the individual and/or its
guardian is.
SugarFree | June 24, 2008, 3:28pm | #
That's fair. You come off as a retard dumbass Christian fuckhead.
But then we are just talking perceptions here, right?
ya... it was a joke where I insinuated you were a wacky christian
or a anti-sugar zealot(some of those aprents are annoying)...I
don't see how that would make me come off as a "Christian
fuckhead"...maybe a "retard dumbass"...but I am offended by the
"christian fuckhead" part...I actually even think of myself as a
"fuckhead" sometimes...but I left the christians a long time
ago.
living in the boston area, I feel obliged to say that I think gloucester is a pretty crappy town...anyone that has to send their kids to those schools is either not very smart or not doing very well in life.
'As someone who makes a distinction between "adoptive" and
"regular" parents, you come off as Gene Hackman in The Royal
Tennenbaums.'
that is actually fair, given what I said, I do however understand
that a adoptive parent can love their child just as much or more
than a "biological parent"...at some point though it seems the
political correctness factor of banning certain descriptions of
parents here is going to destroy the ability to communicate what
the hell we are talking about in the context of discussion on
poly-amorous families etc.
Jim Nast, what exactly does that mean? That this kid was smart enough to know that dumbass kids who bully them are more afraid of the larger, more physically powerful sex than the other sex? Big whoop. Of course bullies will be more afraid of something the more physically imposing sex would say.
"Jim Nast, what exactly does that mean? That this kid was smart
enough to know that dumbass kids who bully them are more afraid of
the larger, more physically powerful sex than the other sex? Big
whoop. Of course bullies will be more afraid of something the more
physically imposing sex would say."
Well, someone asked for examples of the benefits of fathers and I
provided one.
That it offends you is most revealing.
I think my ability to kinda not hear my wife ask me do some things that don't seem important without letting it be a big deal has helped teach my son valuable life lessons for getting through school and a career successfully.
I'm hardly offended. I just don't see how that's some kind of revelation. Insightful, but then again, any half-observant child will know what scares the bully best. That's a poor benefit of a father if a kid has to summon up the image of one to protect themselves from the bully. But then again, I was bullied and was a bully in my youth, so I was never one for authority figures who weren't in my eyeline.
It was only one example.
Here's three more:
Fathers, on average, make more money, which raises the standard of
living.
Fathers, on average, are better in math and science, so they are
better at assisting with homework.
Fathers, through the respect they show their daughters, can, by
example teach their daughters that when some young man says, "If
you love me, then you'll suck my dick" the correct response is,
"No, if you loved me, you would respect me as my father does."
I was criticizing your idea that it's a benefit to have a father to summon in the arena of bullies. No need to get your panties in a twist.
"I was criticizing your idea that it's a benefit to have a
father to summon in the arena of bullies."
But, it is.
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