Jacob Sullum | January 6, 2006
The Illinois Gaming Commission may start requiring casinos to card customers and check their names against a list of problem gamblers who have asked to be stopped from betting. People on the list who are caught gambling already can be tossed out, charged with trespassing, and stripped of their winnings, but casinos don't have to do systematic ID checks.
The problem with this policy is not so much that people are being prevented from gambling--they have, after all, volunteered for such paternalistic treatment--but that other people are being forced to do the preventing, which imposes costs on them and (given the bottlenecks that universal ID checks are apt to create) their customers. It's fine if someone wants to sign up for drug treatment or fat camp, in essence paying to put obstacles between themselves and their temptations, but no one should be legally compelled to provide those services. By the logic of the Illinois Gaming Commission, liquor stores, donut shops, and porn purveyors also could be forced to keep track of their customers to make sure none of them is prone to excess and regret.
[Thanks to Mike Alissi for the link.]
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I agree that the state should not be forcing the casinos into
doing this. Still, I think it would be a great service for the
casinos to provide voluntarily and could do wonders for their
reputation. There are casinos who already track their customers
gambling and spending habits through id cards that gamblers put
into machines. These cards occasionally spit out comps of drinks
and food. Figuring out what percentage of the customers are
"problem gamblers" is something that they have already done, I'm
sure.
I'm not a gambler at all, but as a database weenie I found the
whole process fascinating.
Wait a minute. Because some other guy "racks disciprine" I get hassled by the casino for my ID? This is ok, because the other guy opted in? Bite me. I'll gamble elsewhere.
"By the logic of the Illinois Gaming Commission, liquor stores,
donut shops, and porn purveyors also could be forced to keep track
of their customers to make sure none of them is prone to excess and
regret."
Why would you say that, you know it's going to happen! What was
that rule called, reductio ad absurdum creep or something?
okay. you and the rest of your bastiages can gamble. but don't
you try no fargin tricks or you'll end up with your bells in a
sling. okay, ice hole?
(1st post of new year)
They can take away your winnings? I have a problem with
that.
What if you agreed to let them break your nose before being caught?
Could they then really break your nose?
By the logic of the Illinois Gaming Commission, liquor
stores, donut shops, and porn purveyors also could be forced to
keep track of their customers to make sure none of them is prone to
excess and regret.
This isn't the reductio ad absurbum that it's made to appear. In
Virginia, drunk drivers and "habitual drunkards" can be
"interdicted," which makes it illegal for anyone to sell them
alcohol.
See
http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?000+cod+4.1-333
Given that recovery from any addiction is greatly based on your
personal commitment, what good would this do? Anyone who signs up
for such a list could easily get a fake ID to get in.
I think the ID checks would serve no other purpose that making it
an annoyance for non-problem gamblers to go to the casino. Of
course, that might be the idea all along.
What the hell has happened to our society? Do that many people
really need to be looked after at every turn? Or are they just
looking to pawn off liability on someone whom they can sue if
things go wrong?
Casinos serve a vital purpose in the free market: They ensure that the fool and his money are soon parted ;)
So they can take away any money you win before they recognize you - do they also refund any money you lost before they recognize you? No? I find it hard to believe the casinos are doing this out of concern for their customers. It sounds more like they are hedging their bets.
This is a totally ridiculous law. But I wonder how many folks
who think forcing the casinos to do this is wrong are okay with
forcing banks to enforce money laundering laws?
Not on this board, particularly, but in general.
It wouldn't surprise me if the gaming industry was behind this. While I hold the anti-tobacco, anti-gambling, anti-credit card, lobby in contempt, that isn't to say those industries are not contemptible themselves. Casinos collecting from losers and finding ways not to pay the winners is very similar to the insurance industry.
Timothy,
I guess the message is "We're all cops, or we're all criminals."
Naturally, everyone exempts himself from such responsibilities.
Uh - don't we have laws that require checking to make certain
someone isn't a minor before they purchase cancer sticks or liquor?
Isn't it against the law to sell alcohol in some circumstances to
someone who is already clearly inebriated? Don't we prevent those
under the influence from operating motor vehicles and jets?
Seems like no one here is aware that compulsive gambling is a
mental disease - and one that can wreak havoc with the gambler's
life and that of his family.
Is it really that much of a burden on society to stop someone who
is afflicted with this disability from entering a casino, where,
once in he has no control over his actions? Particularly someone
who has voluntarily signed up to get help, by registering at
casinos to be barred?
I'm a libertarian myself by nature. Still - at some point, society
can suffer some small indignities to save the lives of others.
This is akin to people who can't quit smoking who are in favor of raising cigarette taxes for everyone because they can't deal with their own addiction. The "I'm suffering so you have to suffer, too" syndrome.
Checking a license to see if someone is of legal age (this data is on the ID) is very, very different from checking it against a database of individuals. The second involves scanning my ID and transmitting my information to an off site database. Not cool.
Still - at some point, society can suffer some small
indignities to save the lives of others.
This is only true if you believe in such a thing as "society".
Uh - don't we have laws that require checking to make
certain someone isn't a minor before they purchase cancer sticks or
liquor? Isn't it against the law to sell alcohol in some
circumstances to someone who is already clearly inebriated? Don't
we prevent those under the influence from operating motor vehicles
and jets?
In none of these instances are they looking for specific people.
That in and of itself complicates things.
Is it really that much of a burden on society to stop someone
who is afflicted with this disability from entering a casino,
where, once in he has no control over his actions? Particularly
someone who has voluntarily signed up to get help, by registering
at casinos to be barred?
If they were truly committed to not gambling, they wouldn't go.
Until they make that commitment, do you really think an ID check
will stop them? I've known and grew up with people who've had
various addictions. Nobody else can ever stop them from doing what
they want/need to do until they stop themselves.
This measure goes beyond things like a person checking into rehab
placing the onus on the casinos, and the rest of their
customers.
Beyond that, casinos do have the ability to keep card counters out,
I can't see why those on a registrated list couldn't be identified
and ejected that way, without everyone else having to verify that
they're not on the list. Either way the responsibility should still
be on the person who chose to go in if he should elude
detection.
I'm a libertarian myself by nature. Still - at some point,
society can suffer some small indignities to save the lives of
others.
Many people have sets of indiginities that they'd be impose on
everyone save someone they care about. Which ones count? How many
are too many?
"married to one" is EXACTLY the kind of person that exemplifies
false libertarians - "I'm a libertarian, but this issue AFFECTS ME
PERSONALLY!!! We NEED government intervention STAT!"
"society can suffer some small indignities to save the lives of
others." Alright, I think that strip searches, random house to
house sweeps etc. are merely "small", and they could save lives by
finding criminals and terrorists. So let's gut the Fourth
Amendment.
Your personal issues do not entitle you to sling around force,
"married to one". Get bent.
compulsive gambling is a mental disease
yeah, just like compulsive eating, compulsive sex, compulsive
shopping, compulsive drinking, compulsive smoking, compulsive
exercising.
what's next? is Macy's going to have to check IDs against databases
to "save the lives" of compulsive shoppers? how about IDing people
at McDonald's, or maybe telling mcdonald's they can only sell
salads to obese people? hell, with enough tweaking, just a couple
more rules here and there, and it's Eschaton, baby, Eschaton!
if it's been said once, it's been said a million times: cancer is a
disease. compulsive gambling is people behaving badly, some more
badly than others. cry me a river. if you're married to a
compulsive gambler, cut your losses and get a divorce, or figure
out another way to solve the problem.
Slippery slope my foot. My wife RTFA and she's already making the rounds of the local gun stores. ;-)
I'm 30 years old and I get carded EVERY TIME I try and walk into
a river boat casino in Illinois. Although I see that this could be
an added cost to the casino, it doesn't seem like that big an added
cost since some (most?) of them are already doing this voluntarily
in some way or another, and IDs are already being checked upon
entry for the most part. Plus the casinos in Illinois also make you
get in line to buy a ticket to enter (usually between 2 and 5
dollars). This check could be done at the same time I
suppose.
My only real concern is that hopefully they are merely checking my
name against a list and not logging/recording the fact that I went
to their casino. But I guess if they wanted to keep track of who
comes and goes they could do that anyway without the law.
I also think that casinos could try and spin it like a "We care
about our gamblers" kind of thing as well.
I admit that I don't like the idea of compelling casinos to have to
do this, but I just can't muster too much outrage about this. The
casinos have pretty good lobbyists in Illinois. I imagine if they
believed that this was really that costly to them, they would have
found a way to kill this bill. And Indiana casinos aren't that far
away either (that's where I usually gamble anyway since they don't
have an entrance fee)
Last time I flew - one week ago - I had to stand in line for a
half an hour, take off my shoes and jewelry and get wanded. My
luggage was also opened and examine; I got the little note telling
me so.
All you "real" libertarians out there think that this shouldn't be
allowed? Would you prefer that the airlines do nothing - and just
cross our fingers that no bad guys or bombs get on another
plane?
We weigh the value of giving up a piece of our privacy and autonomy
with what we gain by it. Most of us believe that it is worth the
enormous expense, time and annoyance at the airport to lessen the
odds of another 9/11.
Is having your ID checked (NOT stored or put into a database - only
those who WISH to be barred have that) so great an inconvenience to
help those who are compulsive gamblers?
And for those who don't think it's a mental illness, I didn't think
so either, until I learned more about it.
http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/library/DS/00443.html
No one's talking about closing down casinos. Or preventing anyone
who wishes to go into one from going. Just taking 10 seconds to
stop those who voluntarily request help in stopping from getting
in.
I'm 30 years old and I get carded EVERY TIME I try and walk
into a river boat casino in Illinois. Although I see that this
could be an added cost to the casino, it doesn't seem like that big
an added cost since some (most?) of them are already doing this
voluntarily in some way or another, and IDs are already being
checked upon entry for the most part.
There's a difference between simply checking your birth date versus
comparing yur name to those on a list. The latter will be far more
time-consuming.
Married to one--
Your comparison with the airlines makes no sense; you're comparing
trying to stop terrorism with trying to stop people from
gambling?
Is having your ID checked (NOT stored or put into a database -
only those who WISH to be barred have that) so great an
inconvenience to help those who are compulsive gamblers?
Yes, it IS that big of an inconvenience. Waiting in line for the ID
check is also an inconvenience. Basically you are saying that
I have to suffer inconvenience because your
spouse lacks self-control.
And Indiana casinos aren't that far away either (that's
where I usually gamble anyway since they don't have an entrance
fee)
So tell me again about those great casino lobbyists in IL!
I forget who first asked this question, but how many "minor
inconveniences" do we have to put up with before life becomes one
big inconvenience?
Whatever the answer is, it's not the responsibility of society to
protect people from their own irresponsible behavior.
No one's talking about closing down casinos. Or preventing
anyone who wishes to go into one from going. Just taking 10 seconds
to stop those who voluntarily request help in stopping from getting
in.
By having a gambling addiction you have already proven you have no
ability to follow the course of reason, and your remedy for your
addiction merely repeats your inability.
All you "real" libertarians out there think that this
shouldn't be allowed? Would you prefer that the airlines do nothing
- and just cross our fingers that no bad guys or bombs get on
another plane?
Well, let's see...warrantless searches by government agents (which
will and have been used to get folks for other crimes), silly and
ineffectual security rules...yeah, many of us would, in fact,
prefer that they do less of that bullshit. Perhaps instead they
could do something that has a chance of actually preventing
attacks...one terrorist action on American soil involving planes
and the whole country goes apeshit. Airports are much more
obnoxious now than they used to be and no safer. Please.
In order to find those who've voluntarily asked to be
treated like children the casinos will be legally compelled to
treat everyone like children. They'll have to be checked
against the "no craps" list, you see, which will take more time and
effort than just "are you old enough?".
ALSO: So far, O'Shea said, the state has collected $244,000
from 173 self-excluded gamblers who won money on the
boats.
I think that makes obvious this is all about money. There are 3,200
people on the self-exclude list...of 15.3 MILLION who go through
the casinos every year. You're saying in order to prevent 3,200
fools with no will power from gambling all 15.3 million of those
people should be required to have their name checked against a
database? To stop 0.02% of the folks in the casinos? I don't care
to whom you're married, I hereby revoke your libertarian card.
While in Illinois, I am ALWAYS carded whenever I try to get
alcohol, despite being 26. When I was in Vegas at 22, nobody asked
for any ID from me, and "free" drinks were offered without
ID.
Illinois is the ultimate nanny-state when it comes to these issues
(well, I can imagine that some states like Utah might be worse).
Over half of the counties in Illinois are at least partially dry.
To get cold medicine here, you have to go to a pharmacist and sign
a police log book.
Add in the corruption in Illinois and you've got casinos given to
the mob and laws that make one man the distributor of all alcohol
in the state.
And now the Illinois Gaming Commission is going to allow casinos to
take any "winnings" from problem gamblers? Hey... any money they
have might be winnings. Better that some of it end up in a
politician's bank account while the rest of it goes to the
casino.
"if it's been said once, it's been said a million times:
cancer is a disease. compulsive gambling is people behaving badly,
some more badly than others. cry me a river. if you're married to a
compulsive gambler, cut your losses and get a divorce, or figure
out another way to solve the problem."
Against my better judgment: Cancer is a disease. Compulsive
gambling is people behaving badly. So, I suppose schizophrenia is
people behaving irrationally? I'm opposed to the checks, I guess,
but this view and others expressed on this thread are way too
simplistic. Addictive behavior is frequently a mental illness, and
often with a genetic component. An alcoholic, otherwise a perfectly
rational person, might well decide that, although he knows well he
has a drinking problem with serious adverse consequences,
everything will be fine if he switches from 80-proof whiskey to
80-proof brandy. That, not to put too fine a point on it, is nuts.
Similarly, compulsive gamblers will gamble until they've run
through all the money they can beg, borrow, or steal or until they
own all the casinos in the world. With respect to the latter
possibility, as Jeeves might put it, "The contingency is remote,"
and they know this. And yet...
Just sayin'
And, let's figure what that 10 seconds each will cost the
casinos:
Let's say, on average, a gambler will lose $60 an hour to the
casino (that's a total swag, so anybody with better info can come
up with something better), that's $1 a minute.
Now, 15.3 million, times 10 seconds is 153 million seconds, or 2.55
million minutes of total delay, which works out to 2.55 million
dollars a year in losses just from the delayed time of
gambling.
Rabbit scribe,
When you have an illness you should go to a doctor, not a
lawyer.
So, I suppose schizophrenia is people behaving
irrationally?
The Szaszians would say yes, but that's neither here nor there.
Whatever the answer is, it's not the responsibility of
society to protect people from their own irresponsible
behavior.
Jen
I agree, but most in this country (and others) apparently do
not.
Married to One: If the security in airports is so great, why do
the air marshals feel the need to shoot somebody in a jetway who
has passed security?
Back when they pulled a lot of people out for special screenings, I
always got pulled out. Luckily they put SSSS on my boarding pass,
allowing me to give all my luggage to my wife. Supposedly they
still do this for a few people. The TSA is brilliant.
We have to take our laptops out of the case for special screening
(along with taking our shoes and coats off... really helps the
efficiency). This is a remnant from 15 years ago when the security
people contemplated banning all electronics from airplanes because
they are too dangerous. Small knives used to be too dangerous until
a few weeks ago. Screeners are adept at finding these things, but
still can't find one out of four bombs (their numbers, so it's
likely much worse).
Furthermore, all the cargo in the plane goes unscreened. You can't
put a put a lighter in a suitcase, but you can put it in the mail,
which gets put on the same airplanes.
So I get to stand in a line, having some former drill sergeant who
is paid with my tax dollars to yell at me while below the terminal
some crook is going through my underwear and breaking my Christmas
presents, just so you can get a false sense of well being.
Perhaps the solution is to have the 3,200 people who SINGED UP
to be kicke out of the casino should just have a big "PG" (Problem
Gambler) tattooed on their foreheads, and save everyone lots of
trouble. Easy for the millions who aren't PGs and for the
businesses that would have to check them.
After all, if you want to beat your addiction, you gotta be
proactive...
Maybe I should check my spelling and grammer before posting next time. Jennifer, what do you think?
Jennifer said:
There's a difference between simply checking your birth date
versus comparing yur name to those on a list. The latter will be
far more time-consuming.
You are ignoring the rest of my paragraph which I believe is quite
relevant. I already have to wait in line and pay an entrance fee
and get my "ticket" or boarding pass (since they are technically
boats). During that time if they key in my name to a computer is
hardly what I would consider "far more time-consuming".
Again though, Im not saying its a good idea. It's just not that
much of an inconvenience. It seems much more outrageous to me to
have to pay a damn cover charge to go give a casino my money
Addictive behavior is frequently a mental illness, and often
with a genetic component. An alcoholic, otherwise a perfectly
rational person, might well decide that, although he knows well he
has a drinking problem with serious adverse consequences,
everything will be fine if he switches from 80-proof whiskey to
80-proof brandy.
Alcoholism is where your brain or body become so used to the input
of certain chemicals that you can no longer function normally
without it. Same with drug addiction. Not so with compulsive
gamblers.
Whatever the answer is, it's not the responsibility of
society to protect people from their own irresponsible
behavior
I dunno if this qualifies as "society" having to protect people
from their irresponsible behavior. If your main source of revenue
is via peoples vices, bad habits, addictions, then you should be
able to live with a few restrictions that force you to have to
protect your customers just a bit -- even if it is protecting them
from themselves. It might even make your business better.
This to me seems along the lines of laws that prevent bars from
serving alcohol to people who are already loaded.
This to me seems along the lines of laws that prevent bars
from serving alcohol to people who are already loaded.
Only if bars require all customers to take sobriety tests
before buying a drink.
You are ignoring the rest of my paragraph which I believe is
quite relevant. I already have to wait in line and pay an entrance
fee and get my "ticket" or boarding pass (since they are
technically boats). During that time if they key in my name to a
computer is hardly what I would consider "far more
time-consuming".
Let's say it take two seconds to look at your license and determine
that you were born before today's date 21 years ago, versus ten
seconds to look at the date, then key your name into a computer,
then compare your name to the names on the list. . . . if you are
the casino's only customer, no biggie. But if there are several
customers, they now have to spend five times as much time in
line.
And here's something that occurred to me: are these going to be the
same clusterfuck as our no-fly lists? You know, one man named John
Smith might be a terrorist, so now nobody named John Smith can
fly?
Imagine how much money movie theaters lose on the five seconds ticket-takers spend telling people that "theater 12 is to the right of the concessions, then all the way down on your left". The lines this creates are intolerable!
So many of you are ignorant on this topic, but - so was I before
it hit me.
Jennifer, alcoholism is not where you get so used to the drug that
your body cannot function normally without it. It is where your
body doesn't process alcohol like "normal" people.
And similarly, those afflicted with compulsive gambling have
genetic components which strongly pre-dispose them to having
difficulty with it.
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/1998/11/981111081206.htm
For those who think that our systems of security at the airport
have plenty of glitches, inconsistencies, flaws, pains in the asses
- I'm with you. Still, I am not one who thinks we should give up on
security because it is not an idyllic situation. It isn't just the
3,000 or more who might die with an attack. It's the dramatic
effect it has on our economy, our lives, etc.
Really kind of amazing to me that people are unable to put up with
5 seconds of inconvenience (about what it would take to scan an ID
to make certain that individual isn't on the "bar" list) to help
others to dramatically improve their lives. No one's talking about
taking away your right to gamble, closing down casinos ... hell;
having to wait for a stoplight is more time consuming.
Furthermore, in case you have some sort of reading comprehension
problem: the issue is that the state may make this a requirement,
which will cost businesses money and patrons time.
You can already volunteer to be thrown out if caught, where is the
need for additional, legally required & punishable,
requirements for casino owners to keep you from being a loyal
customer?
I question that state's involvement in the no-gamble list in the
first place, and I certainly question the reasoning behind the
state requiring pre-screening rather than booted-once-found
enforcement.
If your main source of revenue is via peoples vices, bad
habits, addictions, then you should be able to live with a few
restrictions that force you to have to protect your customers just
a bit -- even if it is protecting them from themselves. It might
even make your business better.
Remind us again who determines what's a vice and what's a virtue. I
can't stand when the high and mighty don't approve of the actions
of the little people, and therefore must protect them from
themselves for the sake of "society". Businesses are there to make
a profit, not to decide what actions consenting adults should make
for themselves.
"When you have an illness you should go to a doctor, not a
lawyer."
Fair enough. Again, I'm not supporting the legislation. The casinos
ought to do it, but they shouldn't have to do it.
My problem is with this notion, "Hey, cheat on your taxes in a cool
and rational attempt to save a few hundred bucks, drink a litre of
vodka an hour before your daughter's wedding, six of one,
half-dozen of the other- it's people behaving badly."
The Szaszians would say (that scizophrenia is simply people
behaving irrationally), but that's neither here nor
there."
I was hitherto-unaware of them. Thanks... I think. I read The
Daily Brickbat and I want to quit my job and volunteer for the
LP. I read about Dr. Szasz and want to quit my job and throw rocks
at Libertarians full-time. I'm so conflicted...
"Perhaps the solution is to have the 3,200 people who SIGNED UP
to be kicked out of the casino should just have a big "PG" (Problem
Gambler) tattooed on their foreheads..."
Not the worst idea in the world. In that case, would you have a
problem with casinos being legislatively barred from admitting
them?
"Alcoholism is where your brain or body become so used to the
input of certain chemicals that you can no longer function normally
without it. Same with drug addiction. Not so with compulsive
gamblers."
I'm sorry (sincerely- you're a persuasive and entertaining poster)
but that's a gross oversimplification. Alcoholism is a lot
of things to a lot of people, by no means all of them related to
cravings, frequency and amount of consumption, etc. Alcoholics are
otherwise normal persons who simply can not think rationally
about drinking! Their stories are simply amazing! Every time
they drink, they don't stop until they're very drunk. OK, fine: but
they rarely frame it as "The craving was just overpowering, so I
gave in." It's always "I thought that if I mixed the booze with
milk, it would be OK." or "It was my birthday, so I thought it
would be different." With all the heart-felt sympathy in the world:
they're nuts...
Jennifer, alcoholism is not where you get so used to the
drug that your body cannot function normally without it. It is
where your body doesn't process alcohol like "normal"
people.
That is the first time I've ever heard that definition of
alcoholism. Have you a link to back up your statement?
Really kind of amazing to me that people are unable to put up
with 5 seconds of inconvenience (about what it would take to scan
an ID to make certain that individual isn't on the "bar" list) to
help others to dramatically improve their lives.
No, what we're saying is the state shouldn't force businesses to do
certain things, and provide more inconvenience for ordinary people,
just because some fool keeps getting parted from his money. I truly
am sorry that your spouse is so irresponsible and lacking in
self-control, but that doesn't mean the state should make it my
problem as well.
Alcoholics are otherwise normal persons who simply can not
think rationally about drinking! Their stories are simply amazing!
Every time they drink, they don't stop until they're very drunk.
OK, fine: but they rarely frame it as "The craving was just
overpowering, so I gave in." It's always "I thought that if I mixed
the booze with milk, it would be OK." or "It was my birthday, so I
thought it would be different." With all the heart-felt sympathy in
the world: they're nuts...
They're simply rationalizing their addiction, because they can't
bring themselves to admit they got hooked.
If a severe alcoholic is taken off the juice too abruptly he can
have DTs, even fatal ones. What is the corresponding symptom in a
severe "gambling addict" who can't get near the slots?
married to one,
Sympathy has been expressed here for the suggestion that a casino
might operate such a program internally. One thing you'll find
among "real" libertarians is a very broad comfort with private
companies undertaking such initiatives (provided they are
transparent about it), and a very broad discomfort with private
companies being compelled to undertake such programs by the
government. It's not that we are unwilling to endure inconveniences
to "save the lives of others." It's that we object to being
compelled to do so by government.
Rabbit Scribe:
As for Szasz, I find the view that people shouldn't be forced to
treat mental illness fairly persuasive, but I'm pretty unconviced
at this point that it's wholly made up.
And you've pretty much summed up the behavior of my alcoholic
mother. Cool lady now that she's sober and all.
And I'll emphasize that the responsibility for helping addicts
falls squarely on their families and loved ones, it isn't anybody
else's problem. There, I said it, what we were all thinking. If
your spouse fritters away all of y'all's savings playing slots,
that's your bloody problem, married to one, and the rest of us
(including and perhaps especially casinos) shouldn't be legally
compelled to help.
Really kind of amazing to me that people are unable to put
up with 5 seconds of inconvenience (about what it would take to
scan an ID to make certain that individual isn't on the "bar" list)
to help others to dramatically improve their lives. No one's
talking about taking away your right to gamble, closing down
casinos ... hell; having to wait for a stoplight is more time
consuming.
Do you really think that a scanner at the casino will stop a
problem gambler? No local bookies, poker games, crap games, etc.
where you live? No access to internet gambling for your
spouse?
Most people here believe that the person responsible for one's
actions is that person themselves. Measures like these shift that
responsibility onto sometone else, shifting the blame from "I
gambled" to " They let me gamble".
I'll ask again, at what point do are some inconviences intolerable?
Content with not being allowed to eat certain food in public that 1
in a 1000 is allergic to? Do you want to be on a watch list for
buying porn because rapists watch porn? Are you ok to signing a
list when you want sudafed?
Where is the line for you?
m21, it doesn't matter how quick they make the check. The issue
is it's not the job of the casinos or the government to babysit
people who are addicted to gambling, or alcohol, or television, or
limited-edition Star Wars action figures. That's for the person
with the addiction to deal with in concert with their family,
doctor and/or twelve-step program.
If the casinos decide to participate in the program voluntarily,
good for them -- I can choose to gamble somewhere else if it
bothers me.
Jennifer, to be sure, I can't prove you wrong. All I can tell
you is that, after a great deal of personal experience, the
"rationalization" thing just doesn't ring true. Alcoholics
consistently display what I can only call delusions about their
drinking. As far as the delerium tremens, it's true: there are
physiological symptoms associated with alcoholism that are absent
in persons with addictive behaviors. However, I really think that
alcoholics are a sub-set of heavy drinkers- one can "rationally"
decide that one just doesn't give a damn and will live out one's
days in a drunken stupor, and proceed to build up sufficient
alcohol tolerance such that when one stops for whatever reason, one
experiences those symptoms. Such a person is not necessarily an
alcoholic- he or she might be able to, as an act of pure will, quit
drinking. Alcoholics can't, in large part because they don't
perceive their drinking as the manifestly problematic behavoir that
it so obviously is- they're delusional.
I'll leave it alone, though- I can't prove it, and as I said, I
find your posts enjoyable and persuasive. If you ever get the
opportunity, check out the NPR program on addiction,
Magnificent Obsession, broadcast at the convenient hour of
4:00 AM Sundays here in Chicago. Just tremendously well done, and
it might give you some empathy for my position.
Hey, wait a minute, am I the only guy that noticed the
unintentionally ironic 'stripped of their winnings' segment? If
you're a problem gamber with 'winnings', where's the problem?
I would think a problem gambler would want to be stripped of his
losings.
Alcoholics can't [quit drinking], in large part because they
don't perceive their drinking as the manifestly problematic
behavoir that it so obviously is- they're delusional.
And you don't think this has anything to do with the physical
effects of having spent a long time putting brain-altering
substances into their bodies? As opposed to a problem gambler, who
just lacks self-control.
Where is the line for me?
I'm happy to FORCE companies to list their ingredients on a product
label, so that those with allergies can know what is in a product.
After that - people can choose what they do and do not wish to
ingest.
I'm willing to have some laws about health inspection for
restaurants, meat packers and the like so I don't have to worry
about dying every time I eat.
I'm willing to have traffic laws that prevent people from driving
while under the influence (or at least will arrest them when they
try to do so) to lessen the chances of people dying on the
highway.
My guess is that even some of the staunchest libertarians are
willing to have some government regulation, because they believe
that that regulation causes our country to function better.
And no, Timothy, I do not think that you are ignorant because we
disagree. I think that some of the people here are ignorant because
they've never studied at all about the psychology and physiology of
compulsive gambling and alcoholism.
I know I sure had not prior to this occurring.
"And you don't think this has anything to do with the
physical effects of having spent a long time putting brain-altering
substances into their bodies?"
Nope, and I'll tell you exactly why: alcoholics start displaying
the delusional thinking right away, but many heavy drinkers- 6 or 8
beers in an evening, unless they choose not to drink, in which
case, no problem- never do.
Married, your examples of ingredient lists, anti-drunk-driving laws and restaurant inspections involve public health. You problem with your spouse, by contrast, is a private problem.
Your lines aren't abnormal, as they all seem to be about preventing people from being harmed by others, intentionally or otherwise. Can you think any besides the casino where large groups are forced to change to prevent other people from harming themselves?
Jennifer - this abstract is for you!
http://www.pubmedcentral.nih.gov/articlerender.fcgi?artid=347457&tools=bot
"The data suggest that brain functions are different in individuals
at high and low risk for the development of alcoholism."
Check out this article, too:
http://www.gannett.com/go/difference/greatfalls/pages/part2/secrets.html
"Alcohol addles everyone's brain by interfering with the
neurotransmitters in the brain's cognitive center.
But an alcoholic has a greater problem. The cognitive center is
unable to override the stronger pleasure center demands, making it
more difficult for him or her to listen to reason and stop
drinking.
Most alcoholics also have low levels of serotonin, the chemical
that triggers most people to stop drinking.
Serotonin is produced as a response to a food or an activity; it
tells the brain to stop eating pizza, for example. But in some
people, alcohol doesn't seem to trigger the serotonin buildup like
pizza would."
It's not that we are unwilling to endure inconveniences to
"save the lives of others."
Let me be the first to disavow any phony compassion.
When I go throught the "security" at airports, at least they can
claim that I am being provided something for my incovenience -
security. (We could argue about the value of said security.)
When I get my ID checked at a casino, I get ZILCH in return. The
only people who get anything are the small number of problem
gamblers. These people are trying to get someone else to pay for
the "help" they claim they want, aka a subsidy. The "small price"
is beside the point, they don't want to pay the cost by themsleves.
For them to question my compassion for not wanting to pay a "small
price" is a convenient cop-out for them to avoid their
problem.
And why just casinos? Don't problem gamblers play the state
lotteries? Let's start with the government gambling and see how
well that goes before we start throwing more restrictions on
private entities.
Married, I don't doubt at all that there are genetic and
physical factors which make certain people predisposed to become
addicted to alcohol. I am not at all surprised that some people are
more likely than others to become addicted to brain-altering
chemicals. I am simply pointing out that gambling is purely a
behavior, not a situation where someone is putting (potentially
addictive) chemicals in his body. Which is why I consider
alcoholism to be a form of addiction, but too much gambling is just
a lack of self-control.
Hell, I know a girl who keeps biting her nails, but I wouldn't call
her a nail-biting addict.
dave_b said:
Remind us again who determines what's a vice and what's a
virtue. I can't stand when the high and mighty don't approve of the
actions of the little people, and therefore must protect them from
themselves for the sake of "society". Businesses are there to make
a profit, not to decide what actions consenting adults should make
for themselves.
By no means am I one of the "high and mighty" nor do I disapprove
of gambling, drinking, or using drugs-- I have done or still do
these all of things and enjoy them in moderation. But I'm not going
to be dishonest and pretend that they aren't vices or that they are
virtues.
I dunno who should be "sanctioned" to determine what a vice is or
isn't (although I suppose a democratic solution wouldn't be that
impossible) its easy to see that behaviors/actions/products that
tend to have highly addictive and destructive consequences would
qualify as a vice.
That's not say that it should be outlawed or banned. It just means
that I have no problem putting extra restrictions/burdens on people
who profit from the weaknesses/addictions of others. Even if that
means requiring those businesses to refuse to do business with
those among us who are the most addictive and being the most
destructive.
Jennifer, Oprah did a show on compulsive gambling recently. A
woman embezzled almost $200K from the school at which she worked to
fuel her compulsion. (Yes, she was found, prosecuted and arrested.)
People kill themselves at a rate far higher than normal because of
compulsive gambling.
Now, you may think that this "only affects the gambler and their
families" - but studies have been done to show that far more than
an immediate family feels the effects of compulsive gambling,
albeit not anywhere as dramatically.
As for my spouse who "lacks control" and is "irresponsible" - this
same individual has a history that might confound you. Raised in
mild poverty, he put himself through college, started his own
business in his 20's, worked like a dog to grow it over the next 20
years, and ultimately was making in the neighborhood of $700K a
year, while employing around 400 people.
Sounds pretty irresponsible, eh?
Ultimately, he had to sell his business because of his addiction -
and ended up broke.
It was not, however, because he was irresponsible or stupid. It was
because of mental illness - and not getting help for it in
time.
As for my spouse who "lacks control" and is "irresponsible"
- this same individual has a history that might confound you.
Raised in mild poverty, he put himself through college, started his
own business in his 20's, worked like a dog to grow it over the
next 20 years, and ultimately was making in the neighborhood of
$700K a year, while employing around 400 people . . . .Ultimately,
he had to sell his business because of his addiction - and ended up
broke.
You tell me the story of a man who gambled so much that he pissed
away a $700K a year business, and you mean it to demonstrate that
he is responsible and has self-control?
It sounds like your husband needs to get help from a mental
institution or perhaps psychotropic drugs, rather than expecting
the casinos to solve his problem for him.
Anyway. Long and short of it is, all of you were better off when
my spouse didn't gamble. Tax receipts in the hundreds of thousands
of dollars a year were far better than zero.
And no - a gambler cannot be prevented from going to a bookie or a
local poker game.
But, instead of worrying about what we cannot do, seems to me that
most of us can sacrifice 5 to 10 seconds out of their day to
improve the lives of compulsive gamblers who are getting
treatment.
You are exactly correct, Jennifer. My husband does now take
anti-psychotic meds and he was institutionalized for a time. Alas;
it was not in time to save his business.
But he didn't "piss it away" because he was so "irresponsible" and
full of "lack of control." He did it because he was mentally
ill.
Good for all you folks who cannot believe that what I am saying is
the truth. Hope that you never get to find out.
Anyway. Long and short of it is, all of you were better off
when my spouse didn't gamble. Tax receipts in the hundreds of
thousands of dollars a year were far better than zero.
So now your argument has shifted to "we should be coerced to do
things so as to ensure that gamblers pay higher tax
revenues"?
seems to me that most of us can sacrifice 5 to 10 seconds out
of their day to improve the lives of compulsive gamblers who are
getting treatment.
First of all, you're talking about a lot more than five or ten
seconds, and second of all, the state has no business forcing this
on anybody.
Married to one, you are basically saying that the huge majority of normal, functioning people have to have laws imposed on them, and make adjustments to their lives, to prevent the mentally ill from screwing up their finances. Sorry, but no.
Moreover, there are thousands of people who go through treatment
for compulsive gambling - or alcholism - or drug addiction - and
become productive, well-functioning members of society.
Is it not worth anything on the part of the rest of us - not an ID
check at a door - to help these people regain their sanity?
Finally, you might wish to check out these two articles. It's a
legitimate question to ask with any disability that some may have -
what responsibility does the rest of society have to help that
individual?
http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/9906/18/gambling.addiction/
http://www.aswexler.com/html/natlcommission.html
It just means that I have no problem putting extra
restrictions/burdens on people who profit from the
weaknesses/addictions of others.
I don't particularly care if you or anyone else doesn't have a
problem with it; however, I do have a problem when people like you
decide that you need the force of government to inflict your own
personal opinions on the rest of us. Do you propose "extra
restrictions/burdens" on Wal-Mart from profiting from the
addictions of compulsive shoppers?
Even if that means requiring those businesses to refuse to do
business with those among us who are the most addictive and being
the most destructive.
Why restrict the businesses from doing business with consenting
adults? Target those who are "the most adductive and being the most
destructive" instead of burdening the rest of us with what you
personally think is right.
Sorry, Jennifer. How long do you think it takes to swipe an ID
through a scanner? 30 seconds? 40? Yes, I do believe that
"sacrifice" is worth improving the lives of thousands of other
people.
Why not let people drive drunk on highways - and have the private
courts deal with the effects of those who get killed by drunk
drivers? Why not allow paranoid schizophrenics kill a few people,
instead of getting them treatment? (Actually, that happened this
past week in our state.)
Bottom line is we have many laws that inconvenience us a whole lot
more than an ID at a casino because the majority of us vote for
politicians who believe it makes life better for most of us.
Is it not worth anything on the part of the rest of us - not
an ID check at a door - to help these people regain their
sanity?
Once again you are asking the wrong question--should anyone be
FORCED to do things to help these people regain their sanity? I say
no.
But there's no point in me continuing this debate--you obviously
believe that everybody else (except possibly your husband and
yourself) has to go out of their way to help people like your
husband, and furthermore they should be legally obligated to do so
(and thus face legal consequences if they don't).
I do not and never will support laws forcing me to change my
behavior in order to slightly reduce the chance that a mentally ill
guy will screw up his finances. I'll voluntarily help in ways, if I
can, but I don't approve the use of force.
Along the same lines, the Iowa lottery will allow you to sign up
to be on a list of people banned from it's offices so you can't go
in and collect winnings of more than $600.
http://www.dmregister.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20051207/NEWS10/512070342/1011
Moreover, there are thousands of people who go through
treatment for compulsive gambling - or alcholism - or drug
addiction - and become productive, well-functioning members of
society.
True enough married21, yet all the sober alcoholics I have known
live with the actuality that they can go to the corner store at any
time they wish and purchase alcohol. None of them have resorted to
saying that they have ever failed because "The State failed to save
me from myself". But then, that sense of personal responsibility
may be why they are the sober ones.
"Target those who are "the most addictive and being the most
destructive" instead of burdening the rest of us with what you
personally think is right."
I'm starting to change my mind and support the checks based on the
mulish refusal of Libertarians to draw the slightest distinction
between laws limiting worthless, destructive industries like casino
gambling and tobacco and laws limiting your freedom to park your
pick-up truck in your driveway in the suburbs. Her husband is
mentally ill. I find your utter lack of empathy disturbing...
Why not let people drive drunk on highways - and have the
private courts deal with the effects of those who get killed by
drunk drivers?
But what you are advocating is more like requiring breathalyzers be
installed in every car so that you can't drive if you don't blow
below a .08 It not only infringes on peoples rights, and requires
private companies to take on law enforcement activities, but will
be completely useless in accomplishing it's stated goal.
Jennifer, just about every day of my life I commit acts and
suffer "injustices" so that overall our society is better than it
might otherwise be.
I pay high property taxes, most of which go to support our schools,
even though I've never had kids. Why? Because a well educated
society is a superior one. Social Security taxes are collected from
me - even though I don't really need them - so that no one ends up
in their latter years with no money whatsoever. I wait for traffic
lights, because if I didn't, everyone's life on the road would be
far more dangerous.
You, too - every day - put up with all kinds of laws that infringe
upon your private desires and wants, because most of us judge that
overall, it's worth the trade-off.
If many of you feel that showing ID at a casino is too large a
burden to bear - assuredly your right. Don't think, however, that
we don't constantly make judgments about millions of items like
this all the time. We do.
Married to one, I agree your spouse has a difficult time controlling his behavior due to a mental illness. I sympathize with your plight. Whether or not he has a mental illness, however, in no way entitles you to force someone else to care for him. You have yet to state why the government needs to become involved in any way. As a fellow libertarian I'm confused as to why you think IDing casino customers is a legtimate function of government, why members of the private sector cannot sufficiently help your spouse and why you believe this program will do anything to help him in the first place.
I find your utter lack of empathy disturbing.
Excuse me? It's likely we're all very sympathetic towards her
situation. But protecting flawed people from their own failings is
not a valid function of the (non-Nanny) State. No amount of sob
stories will convince me (or most libertarians) otherwise.
If many of you feel that showing ID at a casino is too large
a burden to bear - assuredly your right. Don't think, however, that
we don't constantly make judgments about millions of items like
this all the time. We do.
We know, and we'd like to reduce that number, and certainly not add
to it.
Warren,
I mentioned this before - and will ask it again:
Wouldn't it be great if all cars had a breathalyzer build into
them? There would NEVER be probable cause for a car search or
patdown, unless there was something illegal in plain sight. Also,
no more soviet-style checkpoints for drunk drivers during the
holidays. Am I right or what?
Her husband is mentally ill. I find your utter lack of
empathy disturbing...
I don't lack sympathy, Rabbit; I lack the belief that everybody
else has to change their lives to slightly reduce the chance that a
mentally ill guy will be tempted to do something stupid. (I do lack
empathy, however, because "empathy" means "I can relate because
I've been there myself." Nope, I've never been with a man who
gambled away my life's savings.)
I pay high property taxes, most of which go to support our
schools, even though I've never had kids. Why? Because a well
educated society is a superior one. Social Security taxes are
collected from me - even though I don't really need them - so that
no one ends up in their latter years with no money whatsoever. I
wait for traffic lights, because if I didn't, everyone's life on
the road would be far more dangerous.
Once again, you are talking about things which (at least in theory)
help the population at large, not a few sick individuals within
it.
You couldn't stop your husband from gambling his life
away, but you think an ID check at a casino would have?
I would expect to get my ID checked at a casino anyway. The
alcohol nanny-state-ism has me already, adding gambling nanny-ism
wouldn't have any effect :)
Seriously, though, anyone wishing to avoid this would just go play
in Michigan City or something, wouldn't they? From the perspective
of any gambler (problem or not) this really won't have much of an
effect. All it does is screw over Illinois casinos.
There would NEVER be probable cause for a car search or
patdown, unless there was something illegal in plain sight. Also,
no more soviet-style checkpoints for drunk drivers during the
holidays. Am I right or what?
Well, except for the new Breathalyzer Inspection Organzation To
Catch Heathans bureaucracy which would need to be established to
monitor all cars and make sure the masses are properly in line.
MP, thanks for ruining my dream of harrasment-free driving. damn those b.i.o.t.c.h.s
dave_b said :
I don't particularly care if you or anyone else doesn't have a
problem with it; however, I do have a problem when people like you
decide that you need the force of government to inflict your own
personal opinions on the rest of us. Do you propose "extra
restrictions/burdens" on Wal-Mart from profiting from the
addictions of compulsive shoppers?
"People like me" haven't decided anything other than I dont have a
problem with requiring casinos to do it. I didn't
request/lobby/support/pass the law in question. So save your
outrage for those who had a hand in it. And stop throwing around
untruths. At no point have I tried to impose anything I believe on
anyone.
I personally believe that people who profit from the weakness /
suffering of others deserve any kind of regulation they get. They
don't like?? Choose another line of business. I won't lobby for the
restrictions but I won't shed a tear either. That is a far cry from
what you are accusing me of.
Read my posts -- i havent proposed anything. All I have said is
that I dont see it as a problem. If there were a no-shop list that
people could voluntarily get on and off of and there was a law
requiring companies who sell stuff to check against that, I
wouldn't think its a good idea, but I wouldnt fight too hard
against it.
Why restrict the businesses from doing business with consenting
adults? Target those who are "the most adductive and being the most
destructive" instead of burdening the rest of us with what you
personally think is right.
Well other than the fact that an addict doesn't always have control
over their actions -- how do you propse targetting just the
addicts?
And again let's keep some perspective here. These people are
getting on these lists because they say "look...I need help..I cant
stop it on my own". So I fail to see a problem with a law that says
if we are gonna have these lists, then the only way they can be
meaningful/helpful is if we enforce people to check against the
lists.
You say its an undue burden, but to me its just another cost of
doing business.
Again, I dont think its a great or even a good solution. It just
isn't as bad as people are making it out to be.
Jennifer, when one's rights are being taken away, what does it
matter how many benefit?
Let those who bear children bear the cost of educating 'em. I
didn't - why should I have to pay for them?
And I've got plenty saved up for my retirement. Why should I have
to pay anything into Social Security?
B.T.W. - someone who gets themselves barred from a casino usually
does so because they are getting help for their addiction. Knowing
that they cannot get into the casino simply helps them to follow
through with their plan of abstinence.
If I thought that showing ID were a large burden, then I might be
against a law requiring it. The notion that every car be outfitted
with a breathalyzer does seem like a too large burden. Much bigger
cost - and easy for someone else to use their sober breath to get
the auto to function.
I pay high property taxes, most of which go to support our
schools, even though I've never had kids
If you have no kids then there isn't any really compelling reason
why you would need to live in a high property tax area. You chose
to live where you live.
Social Security taxes are collected from me - even though I
don't really need them
Obviously you plan on sending those checques back when you start to
receive them. That is awfully nice of you.
I wait for traffic lights, because if I didn't, everyone's life
on the road would be far more dangerous.
You wait at the light so that you won't die a painful death. Are
you saying that you deserve a medal for this?
You seem like a classic enabler married2-1. Be one if you wish, but
don't sign me up for it. A sense of personal responsibility is at
the heart of any effective addiction treatment.
Randolph,
You are wrong. Now that we have established the legitimacy of
soviet-style checkpoints on American streets, there will always be
a suitable pretext for deploying them. The only thing that will
deter their use is public outrage. However, most people seem to be
comforted by inconvenienced by the state these days.
warren,
I'm always making the mistake of thinking that the authorities will
play by their own rules and/or use a consistant line of reasoning.
makes me think crazy things!
and, let's not forget: you're against drunk driving checkpoints?
waaaah! I had this friend in high school, and she killed 3 puppies,
a wise elderly woman and herself in a drunk driving accident. She
had a whole page in the yearbook. How could you be so
heartless?!?
Let those who bear children bear the cost of educating 'em.
I didn't - why should I have to pay for them? And I've got plenty
saved up for my retirement. Why should I have to pay anything into
Social Security?
I fully agree with you. I also don't think I should have to cater
to your husband's mental problems.
So now, has your argument switched again, this time to "Since we
already suffer injustices, let's tack on a few more"?
B.T.W. - someone who gets themselves barred from a casino
usually does so because they are getting help for their addiction.
Knowing that they cannot get into the casino simply helps them to
follow through with their plan of abstinence.
Oh, bullshit. It just helps them say "My problem is someone else's
responsibility."
And I still find it sad that you think a mere ID check would
succeed where you failed, in stopping your husband from gambling
everything away.
Let those who bear children bear the cost of educating 'em.
I didn't - why should I have to pay for them?
And I've got plenty saved up for my retirement. Why should I
have to pay anything into Social Security?
You do know this is a libertarian board, right?
Read my posts -- i havent proposed anything. All I have said
is that I dont see it as a problem. If there were a no-shop list
that people could voluntarily get on and off of and there was a law
requiring companies who sell stuff to check against that, I
wouldn't think its a good idea, but I wouldnt fight too hard
against it.
This is unlikely an issue to invoke fury and start riots. The
question to answer is then, "would you vote against it?" By saying
you don't have a problem with it, you appear to imply that you
would vote for it. A "Yes" vote is a vote for the Nanny
State.
I personally believe that people who profit from the weakness /
suffering of others deserve any kind of regulation they
get.
Well I don't, particularly considering that many people do derive
enjoyment from this. But even if every single person who ever
gambled lost everything they owned, but did it voluntarily (either
via their own free will or via mental defect), I still wouldn't
believe the government had any business regulating it.
Ha! "Married to one", seriously, how far is this argument going
to go!
You made those statements about taxes, Social Security and traffic
lights AS IF they were bad things! They aren't! Just because you
are born doesn't mean you're entitled to my money to get educated,
just because you're old doesn't mean you get my money either, and
some of our traffic laws are ridiculous and arbitrary. Instead of
coming to the correct conclusion, you decide that THESE laws are
great.
Mr. Sanchez made a great quote about whiny pricks using the law to
coddle their pet projects...welcome to the whiny prick club,
married.
"worthless, destructive industries like casino gambling and
tobacco"
Who the fuck gives you the right to determine what's worthless and
destructive? I think you might have a genetic proclivity for
"Narcissistic personality disorder". Please register with the state
now. Just remember: it's not your fault you're better than the rest
of us.
I'm starting to change my mind and support the checks based
on the mulish refusal of Libertarians to draw the slightest
distinction between laws limiting worthless, destructive industries
like casino gambling and tobacco
Casinos are entertainment and millions of people use them for it
every year without succumbing to excess. The math in calculating
odds and discipline it takes to ride out a tough beat are skills.
Poker, in fact, is not a game of chance at all if you play 100,000
hands instead of 10. It favors comparabily with stock trading in
the kind of attitude it takes to master the game. You don't get to
decide for the rest of humanity what has value and what does
not.
I find your utter lack of empathy disturbing...
This year a man died at a cybercafe in Korea due to too much
gaming. Every year thousands waste money gambling on speculative
stocks they barely understand. Suicides happen every day because of
lives in excess -- too much porn, alchohol or food. You have many
options to stem the tide. Counsel those in need. Donate to
organizations that provide care. At no time do you get the right to
put a gun up to the head of someone else's family member unless
their behavior violates your rights to person or property. That's
libertarianism. I find your willingness to empower the state to use
force against a group of people simply because you don't think
they're empathatic enough appalling.
So save your outrage for those who had a hand in it. And
stop throwing around untruths. At no point have I tried to impose
anything I believe on anyone.
Forgive me. I did not mean you specifically, just the people with
your mindset that do make the laws.
I personally believe that people who profit from the weakness /
suffering of others deserve any kind of regulation they get. They
don't like?? Choose another line of business.
The whole point of business is to find a need and fill it.
Therefore, if everyone chose another line of business, there would
still be a demand for gambling, yet no organization to fill it,
meaning black markets. And please remind us why they are profiting
from the weakness/suffering of others. You post indicates that no
one inherently has self-control and no one can legitimately enjoy
themselves without being exploited.
Well other than the fact that an addict doesn't always have
control over their actions -- how do you propse targetting just the
addicts?
I don't have to because it's not my problem. I just say that the
force of government is not to be used to socially engineer the
behaviors of people you personally are advocating for.
You say its an undue burden, but to me its just another cost of
doing business.
A cost imposed on all of us to change behaviors that you find
undesirable.
It just isn't as bad as people are making it out to
be.
Every day there's some new form of legislation or proposal that
quietly chips away at our freedoms to target certain sectors of the
population in order to influence their behavior for their own good.
Invariably, someone or some group will always say how it doesn't
affect me or it's not really that bad, but where does it end? I
don't care if it's "not that bad", the government is not a personal
tool to use in order to change behaviors you don't like.
This is unlikely an issue to invoke fury and start riots.
The question to answer is then, "would you vote against it?" By
saying you don't have a problem with it, you appear to imply that
you would vote for it. A "Yes" vote is a vote for the Nanny
State.
This is a very fair query. I don't have a dog in the race, so if I
was just a voter I would most likely abstain from voting, if it
were put up to a vote. If I were a governor I wouldn't veto it, if
I were a legislator I would probably vote against it. But I
wouldn't pull a Ted Stevens and threaten to quit if the bill
passed.
Well I don't, particularly considering that many people do
derive enjoyment from this. But even if every single person who
ever gambled lost everything they owned, but did it voluntarily
(either via their own free will or via mental defect), I still
wouldn't believe the government had any business regulating
it.
I derive enjoyment from gambling quite a bit. What does that have
to do with whether or not I think it should be regulated?? In fact
if it wasn't regulated, what would prevent casinos from not
slanting the games even more in the house's favor without anyone
knowing? Because I enjoy gambling I demand that it is regulated to
make sure its on the up and up. Furthermore, I can sympathize with
the opinion that the more regulations like these are put on, the
better off those of us who enjoy them are. If too many people
started losing their life savings and homes being broken
up/foreclosed because of this, then more and more people would be
screaming to have them closed down. So I guess I would rather take
heavy regulation than a wholesale ban on gambling (which are the
only two realistic options -- unless you think the masses are going
to suddenly get a libertarian streak?)
You are entitled to your opinion as I am entitled to mine. I don't
think that people who are addicted are really doing things
"voluntarily". They may be making a choice, but the nature of
addiction seems to be one of losing true free will. But having
never been addicted to anything I really don't know. Nor do I
pretend to know. I can merely give the benefit of the doubt to
those who are asking for help (putting themselves on the list).
The Right-minded people formed the Washington, DC, and it's satellite principalities. Ruled by an sort of parliament, Washington, DC was a beacon of civilization. The savage libertarians were not so enlightened and refused congressional control. The war was devastating, but Washington's victory over the libertarians insured a safer universe. And now everyone can enjoy the comfort, and enlightenment of your civilization.
Poker, in fact, is not a game of chance at all if you play
100,000 hands instead of 10. It favors comparabily with stock
trading in the kind of attitude it takes to master the game.
Oh Geezus. I'm totally with you on the point you're making. But
that is just a stupid thing to say. Once you reach a certain level
in poker, it becomes all luck. The stock market on the other hand
is easily mastered; 'put your money in an index fund and don't fuck
with it'. I'll grant you one thing though; most poker players and
investors think they're much better than they actually are
It seems the "stripped of their winnings" part takes care of reimbursement. As a matter of fact, casinos -- which put a lot of work into tracking people of interest to them, i.e., cheats and card counters -- could probably spot such people with ease, then only card them if they ever get ahead of the house.
Forgive me. I did not mean you specifically, just the people
with your mindset that do make the laws.
Again, dave_b you misrepresent me. People with my mindset
(ambivalence in general) dont make these laws, we just dont fight
against them. You are the one who seems to want to force your
mindset down my throat. I dont care enough to get pissed about
this.
The whole point of business is to find a need and fill it.
Therefore, if everyone chose another line of business, there would
still be a demand for gambling, yet no organization to fill it,
meaning black markets.
Not completely true. Only the people who object to the regulation
would be leave, those who see this is a valid cost of doing
business would step in to fill the void. You seem to think that
everyone has your mindset. I am sure many casinos (like the ones
who were voluntarily checking against this list) would have no
major beef with this legislation since they were already doing it.
And they may feel that it does in fact protect their business and
their image by giving them the moral authority to say "look
see...we care about our clients".
And please remind us why they are profiting from the
weakness/suffering of others. You post indicates that no one
inherently has self-control and no one can legitimately enjoy
themselves without being exploited.
Do cigarette makers make money off of people who are addicted to
cigs? Are cigs good for us? I'm not trying to demonize these
industries because people do make their own decisions. My post does
nothing to imply that no one has self-control. You need to read
better. But there are many people who become addicts and can't
stop. Those are the people who are putting their names on lists and
those are the people who need help.
I just say that the force of government is not to be used to
socially engineer the behaviors of people you personally are
advocating for
What a weird definition of social engineering! The goverment isn't
trying to social engineer anything. They are merely saying that
these people who voluntarily have placed their name on a list have
said they can't do it alone. So we are going to help them do it. I
don't see that as social engineering.
A cost imposed on all of us to change behaviors that you find
undesirable.
No, I dont particularly find it undesirable -- The person doing it
finds undesirable but can't stop. There is a HUGE difference there
whether or not you choose to see it
Every day there's some new form of legislation or proposal that
quietly chips away at our freedoms to target certain sectors of the
population in order to influence their behavior for their own
good.
I dont see where your or my freedoms are being chipped away at.
Just don't put yourself on the list. This does absolutely nothing
to limit your ability to do as you please and to engage in any
vices you want.
You really are arguing against something that isn't happening. No
one is trying to use the government to prevent others from engaging
in bahavior that "we" don't like.
In fact if it wasn't regulated, what would prevent casinos
from not slanting the games even more in the house's favor without
anyone knowing?
Why would you go to a casino that didn't publish its odds? I know
what you're thinking. "They would just lie to me!" That's fraud and
already a crime. And how do I know a radio isn't going to break
down the day after I buy it even though I know nothing about
electronics? Consumer Reports, that's how. No business gets very
far by lying to it's customers. Casinos are in the "get rich quick"
fantasy business and if you don't believe in the fantasy for any
reason then they're dead.
Lincoln,
The odds of all casino games can be easily calculated. But if there
wasn't a regulating body or a gaming board, who would do spot
checks to make sure that the slots really are calibrated properly
and that the roulette table doesn't have magnets under it. There is
no way to spot casino fraud short of taking apart equipment and
doing checks like that. You think casinos are gonna let anyone do
that if the government doesn't compel them to?
I have been to casinos in other countries that are much less
regulated and they get much fewer clients because most people
believe that the games are "fixed". Casinos were a dirty word in
those countries. I prefer mine regulated and being forced to prove
on the up and up this way Im just taking my chances with the odds
and not extra "house edges"
People with my mindset (ambivalence in general) dont make
these laws, we just dont fight against them. You are the one who
seems to want to force your mindset down my throat.
Strange how your supposed ambivalence takes the form of protecting
people from themselves. I cannot force my mindset upon anyone,
because my mindset doesn't involve using government intervention to
enforce behaviors that I am uncomforatble with.
I am sure many casinos (like the ones who were voluntarily
checking against this list) would have no major beef with this
legislation since they were already doing it. And they may feel
that it does in fact protect their business and their image by
giving them the moral authority to say "look see...we care about
our clients".
If they have no beef and would voluntarily do it, then let the
market decide. If a casino wanted to portray the image of caring
for their clients, then let them do it on their own and let other
casinos have the option to not do it if they choose. If enough
potential customers feel the same way, then casinos that enforce
the rule would benefit at the expense of the others. Business
owners are there to conduct business, not to determine which
consenting adult should be allowed on their property. Let them make
the choice and either be punished or rewarded in the
marketplace.
No, I dont particularly find it undesirable -- The person doing
it finds undesirable but can't stop.
Once again, although I sympathize, I also realize that it's not the
government's job (nor mine) to stop them.
I dont see where your or my freedoms are being chipped away at.
Just don't put yourself on the list. This does absolutely nothing
to limit your ability to do as you please and to engage in any
vices you want.
Just because you choose not to see it doesn't mean that it isn't
happening. If a person wants to voluntarily submit their name to
the list, then that's fine, but casinos shouldn't be forced to to
anything by government decree.
You think casinos are gonna let anyone do that if the
government doesn't compel them to?
Yeah, I do. They have strong economic incentives to do so as you
yourself proved by not going to casinos in other countries. Indian
casinos are self-regulated for instance.
Casinos are entertainment and millions of people use them
for it every year without succumbing to excess.
'K. In other words, they don't lose enough to effect their
lifestyle.
The math in calculating odds and discipline it takes to ride
out a tough beat are skills.
Are you talking about money management? If so, you don't possess
those mathematical skill: it is a simple statement of fact that the
most advantageous way to gamble in a casino is to decide how much
you want to win and bet every penny you can afford, all at once,
and let your winnings ride until you achieve the goal- "Bold Play."
Not notably entertaining. Casino gamblers who are entertained face
"Gamblers' Ruin." They make so many small bets that even a
negligible edge, like the 50.25% of the most favorable blackjack
game, will eventually grind them down. Money management keeps you
at the table longer, but makes your eventual losses a
virtual certainty.
"Poker, in fact, is not a game of chance at all if you play
100,000 hands instead of 10. It favors comparabily with stock
trading in the kind of attitude it takes to master the
game."
Meh. All games are games of chance and skill; they just
come in different proportions. Chess players have inexplicable "off
nights" and the casino game with the highest house edge and least
amount of player input, Keno, offers certain propositions even more
advantageous to the casino that skilled players avoid. You have a
valid point about poker (which would hold for sports betting as
well) insofar as the odds for or against a player are a lot more
fluid. But in real life, if one isn't a true professional
but sits down at a $25.00-$50.00 casino table in Las Vegas or
Atlantic City, they'll soon wish they'd stuck to craps.
"You don't get to decide for the rest of humanity what has
value and what does not."
Must... resist... urge... to draw... analogy... with Hitler... too
strong... sucking me in...
Oh, I suppose not. You're right: the broad array of state powers
born of Kelo and Raich are no different than high taxes on a
product that serves the purpose of satisfying a craving for itself
at the cost of a game of Russian Roulette with three bullets
chambered.
"This year a man died at a cybercafe in Korea due to too much
gaming."
We don't know that much about playing arcade games for 48 straight
hours. If these fatalities become a trend, then yeah, we need to
look at a legal duty to prevent people doing that in one's
business.
"Every year thousands waste money gambling on speculative
stocks they barely understand."
But even craps-shoots like currency futures serve a productive
purpose that casinos don't. It's not the same.
Suicides happen every day because of lives in excess -- too
much porn, alchohol or food. You have many options to stem the
tide. Counsel those in need. Donate to organizations that provide
care. At no time do you get the right to put a gun up to the head
of someone else's family member unless their behavior violates your
rights to person or property." That's libertarianism.
Well, yes it is. A sign of contradiction. One the one hand, you lot
seem to be the only ones aware that this law is in fact a gun to
the head of somebody's father: if the casino owner won't comply,
they'll put him in a cage, and if he runs away, they'll kill him.
On the other hand, I find the inability to differentiate between
egregious violations of personal and property rights, such as Kelo,
and petty ones, such as suggesting that if you employ 2,000 people
in Detroit, you might find room for a person of color or two, to be
inexplicable.
"I find your willingness to empower the state to use force
against a group of people simply because you don't think they're
empathic enough appalling."
The empathy thing was about the tone lots of people took with
Married to One. If you held my toes to the fire, I'd admit that I
can't in good conscience support the law. But I certainly wouldn't
have been so harsh with her either. And for whatever it's worth,
addiction is not exclusively about willpower and personal
choices.
I have been to casinos in other countries that are much less
regulated and they get much fewer clients because most people
believe that the games are "fixed".
It is thus the Casino's responsibility to improve their image.
Publish their winnings. Obtain third party certifications. Whatever
it takes to show people "hey, we're honest!".
From a general libertarian perspective, regulations are only
justified in the presence of a market failing, such as open space
usage (oceans, air, airwaves, etc.) or a natural monopoly (although
this is a debatable economic concept). Regulations that simply try
to make things "better" are not generally accepted as being
legitimate.
Speaking of which, I have a fresh copy of Regulation magazine to read
on the train home tonight. Woo-hoo!
On the other hand, I find the inability to differentiate
between egregious violations of personal and property rights, such
as Kelo, and petty ones, such as suggesting that if you employ
2,000 people in Detroit, you might find room for a person of color
or two, to be inexplicable.
What...we need to publish a "pissed off" level with every post?
OK...on my scale, this rates a 3 out of 100. Happy now?
A couple of times, when I first moved to Connecticut, I went to
my local Indian casino, bought a ten-dollar roll of quarters, and
played their video poker or video blackjack games. (25 cents per
play.) Once I came out about 20 dollars ahead, and once I walked
out with a few dollars' worth of pure-silver pre-1964 quarters that
my machine spit out when I won, but the other three or four times I
walked out of there minus the whole ten dollars.
So I spent ten bucks on a couple of hours of fun (and got free
drinks, too). Why is that any worse than if I'd spent that ten
dollars to ride some carnival rides, or see a movie, or any other
such "wholesome" activities?
Strange how your supposed ambivalence takes the form of
protecting people from themselves. I cannot force my mindset upon
anyone, because my mindset doesn't involve using government
intervention to enforce behaviors that I am uncomforatble
with.
My ambivalence is taking the form of: If the government sees an
interest in helping people who a) ask for help and b)can't help
themselves by their own admission, its no skin off of my back. It
would be a differnt story if they were trying to limit how often
anyone could go or how much they could spend. But as long as as
both conditions a + b are met, I just can't muster any
outrage.
And it isn't "supposed amivalence". Its genuine ambivalence. Are
you calling me a liar? Up until this point I have kept my responses
to you civil, if you can't return the courtesy then I will be more
than glad to just stop discussing. It seems that you think anyone
who doesn't froth at the mouth over the slightest regulation is a
statist or a nanny-stater, but there are many valid positions in
between those two extremes of the spectrum. That is where I
fall.
Just because you choose not to see it doesn't mean that it
isn't happening. If a person wants to voluntarily submit their name
to the list, then that's fine, but casinos shouldn't be forced to
to anything by government decree.
By that same token just because you are screaming "my freedoms are
being taken away" doesn't mean they are. Nothing in this law stops
you or any other patron of a casino from going as much or as little
as you like. What exactly is your lost "Freedom" ? If the only lost
freedom is the one where the casino loses the freedom to ignore
this list boo-hoo! Casinos rake in a ton of money from non-addicted
and casual gamblers. Being made to take a few extra steps to
prevent people who need help and ask for that help is not going to
make casinos go under nor is it something that most people are
going to get outraged.
why check id?? Just let the problem gamblers implant a rf tag and let everyone walk thru a reader on the way in. But in no way should this be a government mandate.
why check id?? Just let the problem gamblers implant a rf
tag and let everyone walk thru a reader on the way in. But in no
way should this be a government mandate.
Other than the fact that they need to make sure you are of age to
gamble, I think this is a great idea. Its akin to those
breathalyzers that people put on their cars except its
voluntary.
Unless you can't afford the implantation cuz you've lost all your
money gambling??
But then you run into the same problem. What if the casinos don't
want to pay for the RF reader equipment?
I think that this raises my hackles more because married to one sounds like everyone else "I'd like to be against government intervention, but cause X, which I know so much about, has to be regulated and legislated". It's infuriating especially because she claims to be libertarian, except for Social Security, Public Schools, airport security, government ID checking (need I go on?) You're not libertarian, you just said it to try to grant your point legitmacy. Call me a purist, but big tent is what killed the Republicans and I am not in a forgiving mood for deliberate stupidity.
Nothing in this law stops you or any other patron of a
casino from going as much or as little as you like.
The casual acceptance of government oversight over supposedly minor
items is one of the main factors that has led to the leviathan we
now live under.
MB, I do find that reassuring, especially in light of my good
buddy Ammonium's comment,
"Who the fuck gives you the right to determine what's worthless
and destructive? I think you might have a genetic proclivity for
"Narcissistic personality disorder". Please register with the state
now. Just remember: it's not your fault you're better than the rest
of us."
Almost enough to inspire me to make a donation to the Discovery
Institute on his behalf. ;-)
The casual acceptance of government oversight over
supposedly minor items is one of the main factors that has led to
the leviathan we now live under
I agree with this statement. Although there may be disagreement
with the particulars of what are minor and what aren't, I belive
whole-heartedly in the sentiment. It is this casual acceptance that
has made things like sobriety checkpoints, seat-belt laws, traffic
light cameras capturing you "speeding", and police forcing you to
show ID on demand a common occurance.
But in this particular instance, where these people are in essence
asking for help, and admitting they cant control themselves, it
just seems different to me. I don't think this law is a
particularly good idea. I just don't see this particular type of
law as a slipperly slope, because of the voluntary aspect of
getting on the lists in the first place.
I'll grant that I am discounting the burden to the casinos in this
case, but with such a heavily regulated business already the burden
in this case seems rather trivial.
But I do see and am quite sympathetic to your point MP.
If the government sees an interest in helping people who a)
ask for help and b)can't help themselves by their own admission,
its no skin off of my back.
But it's taking an interest in helping people at the expense of
others.
If the only lost freedom is the one where the casino loses the
freedom to ignore this list boo-hoo! Casinos rake in a ton of money
from non-addicted and casual gamblers. Being made to take a few
extra steps to prevent people who need help and ask for that help
is not going to make casinos go under nor is it something that most
people are going to get outraged.
Just because any one group or entity takes in lots of money from
consenting gamblers doesn't mean they should be subjected to
additional regulation just because they can afford it.
I'm not against gambling, I voted for limited stakes gambling in
Colorado in 1992. However, I'm way against state supported gambling
like the state run lottery. I voted against the lottery here for
that reason.
I see it as a voluntary tax on those who usually can afford it
least and are trying to get that miracle win. I regularly see many
people of limited means buying 10-20 lottery tickets and scratching
away at a table in the convienence store. I see that as the state
taking advantage of people who should be using that money for bills
and necessities. When will state lotteries stop taking advantage of
these people? Oh, it's for parks and prisons and not a tax, so
that's a good thing.
BTW, I hope Bill Bennett is on every problem gambler list in the
nation, so he can't feed his gambling jones.
Woah! This thread has been a heck of a ride!
I guess ultimately the question is, why does Illinois need a law to
enforce something that the casinos are already doing?? People have
been asked to be put on a "Do Not Gamble" list and the casinos have
obliged. They have stopped some 144 gamblers from gambling. I can't
imagine any other business that would voluntarily opt out of a
paying customer. I figure each casino will have it's own way of
working that out, whether it is by tying it into "Players Club"
cards or asking waitresses to keep an eye out for the
"regulars".
I see how this could work out for the casinos in an advertising
way. "Gamble at Lucky Suzi's, the Casino that Cares!". All in all,
let the market figure it out.
"Oh, it's for parks and prisons and not a tax, so that's a
good thing."
(Snort) Sha, right? There's this amazing saga in Illinois where
they pushed through the lottery and it's this great thing because
the proceeds go to education, right, and then it was, "OK,
education, you're budget's a hundred million a year, and now
there's seventy-five million from the lottery, so we're taking
seventy-five million from property taxes that used to be earmarked
for you and spending the crap out of it on projects we want but
can't get voters to float the bonds!"
I can't imagine any other business that would voluntarily
opt out of a paying customer.
But unless I am misreading this, they are only opting out of paying
a customer. If someone on the list wins money and is then caught,
they will forfeit the winnings. It doesn't say anything about
refunding money that was lost.
married to one
That word you keep using, "libertarian", I don't think it means
what you think it means.
You keep arguing over whether or not a gambling addiction is a
serious illness. That is completely irrelevant, but if you were a
libertarian you'd understand that.
Libertarians do not support coercion in matters of personal choice,
which include things like the choice to gamble, no matter how bad a
decision it might be that you are making. The point is that it is
*your* decision and coercing you *or* me is not ok just because I
think you're making dumb decision.
Even if the result is a minor inconvenience to me, that is just the
start of a very slipper slope.
For instance, your reasoning could be applied to any number of
things, like the decision to marry a gambling addict. We could
enact laws that prevent people from marrying someone with a serious
mental deficiency like gambling addiction. After all, doing so is
clearly a bad decision that will cause them all kinds of grief down
the road.
But why stop there?
Why, we could use the same reasoning to implement a brutal and
systematic oppression of everyone in the name of preventing some of
us from using harmful and destructive drugs! Why should we complain
about the losses to our liberties and freedoms, after all we're
saving these people from making bad choices for themselves!
Wait, we already do that. You fail the libertarian test. Badly.
Just to throw a little fuel on the fire, but remember a few
weeks ago when A-Rod was rumored to be playing high-stakes poker in
NY? It was this big deal and he eventually had to come out and
promise to never gamble. WTF?!?! If anyone has the means to throw
some money down the tube its A-Rod.
The main issue here I believe isn't the 3-4 seconds it'd take to
scan your ID, which I'm sure would start happening instead of doing
all this manually. Instead, its the idea that our names could be
going into some kind of database and violate our right to privacy.
Now, every business has a right to know who they are letting in
their doors, so if they wanted to keep a list, fine. I can choose
to go to another casino if I don't want anybody finding out I was
there. However, if ALL casinos keep records because they are forced
to, there's the rub.
Now, sure you can tell me that they aren't storing my info, just
checking it against the voluntary list. Fine, then my concerns are
invalid. However, I very much doubt the powers that be will be able
to resist the temptation to find out who's going to casinos. The
IRS anyone? This is coming from me, too, one of the last guys here
to put their tinfoil hat on.
Prediction for the future: a guy on the "problem gambler" list will get a fake ID, go to a casino and lose big. Then he will sue the casino for allowing him in. Despite the fact that he used a fake ID to get in, the casino will still be found guilty (same way a bartender can get busted for selling drinks to underage people, even when said peole had a fake ID).
This thread has become quite long so I haven't had time to read
all the comments.
Given that problem gambling, whatever that might mean, has been
turned into a mental health issue it is hardly surprising to me
that this policy of "voluntary" exclusion is one required by law.
If it is indeed voluntary, then gamblers ought to be able to remove
themeselves from the list and start gambling again. I take it that
this is not possible under this law. Problem gamblers also have
debt problems so I don't see why casinos can't deal with this
population on their own terms without government intervention. Of
course, the fact that the policy is required by law calls into
question the "voluntary" nature of it.
I'm no fan of comparing problem gamblers to drunk drivers or
somebody who wants to highjack a plane. Problem gamblers are only a
threat to themselves financially, and their families if they are
married and have dependent children. Somebody throwing away their
money every night at a slot machine is not a potential danger to
anybody else the way a drunk driver is.
Nobody is forced to gamble and it is certainly within anybody's
power to simply not go to the casino and throw away money. At one
of the places I work at the three most annoying whiners also happen
to be problem gamblers. It's not hard to figure out why they are
constantly complaining. They spend a lot time and money trying to
win games they are basically guaranteed to lose. Every adult who
enters a casino knows that they are playing games they are most
likely destined to lose. They only have themselves to blame if they
keep coming back to throw away more money.
Another instance of where my new consitutional amendment would
fit perfectly.
"No individual shall be held responsible for the responsibilities
of any other individual."
Its just a lil tiny disruption they say. As though our government
has ever stopped adding tiny inconvenience's once they have
started. It's only .25% sales tax increase no biggie right. No not
really not until you have had 36 of them at .25% and never have any
fall off into history. You honestly think the pols with stop with
just this.
It is totally each individuals option what they do with themselves.
You could pass 100 laws and have 1000 databases and these people
will still find a way to gamble if thats what they want to
do.
Its real simple. I don't tell you what to do and you don't tell me
what to do. Follow that simple rule and everything will be fine.
With regards to my individual lifestyle and personal choices which
affect no one else of course.
While the moral elitist have no problem setting the parameters
which we must all live by they would never allow you even one week
to dictate how they should live their lives. Until their ready to
let me in their homes and go through their things making a list of
what they can and can not have, what they can and can not do, they
really just need to shut the hell up.
It is very easy to be the overlord where you can do as you please
while the lil people follow your rule. What is not so easy is
actually allowing people to make their own decisions especially if
for some reason you actually think your idea for them is whats
really best for them regardless of what they think.
I consider it a lot like raising a child. For 18 years I was
responsible for raising my daughter. For those 18 years I had to
make rules etc. However now that she is almost 20 I have had to
come to terms with the fact that she is an adult now and can make
her own choices. Now when she tells me her plan on something I can
still voice my opinion but she is free to do what she decides not
what I decide. While this is hard even more so with your own child
its how things must be if in fact you truly believe we are each
entitled to our own choices. When her choices don't jive with mine
she must also understand that just as she is free to make her own
decisions so am I. Everyone will not always agree on a decision but
then again if its only affecting the person/s making the decision
what the hell business of mine is it what choice they make?
The checkout lady will one day have the decision whether or not you
should be allowed to buy ice cream soon also. I saw them setting up
BMI calculators and scales on the checkout isles. If you are out of
spec no ice cream for you! Buts its ok we know whats best for ya,
trust us ;)
A fairly quick skim of this thread leads me to believe that
instead of backing such silly restrictions, MARRIEDTOONE should
simply get a divorce and get on with her life free from gambling
addicts.
But I bet that would make too much sense.
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